Are there any RPW rules which you don't "follow" or cannot accept for you?

diotimasimha · 2019-07-30T06:16:48+00:00

I think every culture is different like every group of people. There are basic differences between men and women. But not all RP rules apply to all cultures. Living in Europe, I find the dynamic between men and women to be different in every country. And obviously, this community and RP communities in general are more written for Americans. Which isn't a bad thing. In my opinion, the USA is the most degenerated Western country but it will be the country, which will bring a better age for us. Also, I think the dynamic between men and women is more broken in the USA. Maybe because Americans tend to be more polarized (since their country is built on ideas and not tradition.)

What I don't take too seriously is seeing myself as less value when I grow older. Or over-valueing youth. Every age has it's values and mysteries. And even though I am a woman, who surrenders, I don't want to be dominated in a sense that I want someone, who respects and loves me. Hypergamy is a part of nature but I think it's a bit overvalued as well. For example, when you talk with European women born in 1910s-1930s (EDIT I talked to many as a child :D so there wont be many women born in the 1910s anymore haha) you will notice that they are much more relaxed. And when they looked for a husband, they weren't as hypergamic as we young women today. I believe hypergamy has more to do with social conditioning and degeneracy. Or let's say: 100 years ago, a man could be just a poor farmer but he gained influence and power through following tradition, having a loving family (from which he came), having good friends, having basic skills. Many men could have higher value without looking like a California dream boy or being significantly rich.

I really love to educate myself in RP communities and there is so much great content. In the end, you should think and act for yourself. You are responsible for your own life. That's the joy and burden of freedom :)

thatbadlarry · 2019-07-30T15:28:52+00:00

It’s not a rule but an idea I see and it grinds my gears. The idea that the woman should submit to her husband even if he’s wrong and then STFU about it. There’s an example from one of the recommended books (I’m sorry I can’t remember which one) where the author’s husband bought a sports car she knew they couldn’t afford. She gave her blessing but a few months later they didn’t even have money to pay the utilities or buy lightbulbs. This, to me, is the definition of an absolute doormat FOOL. My submission only happens when a man has proven himself to be more WISE AND CAPABLE than I am. I would never ever submit to a man so childish and stupid that he would buy an expensive sports car and not be able to afford basic necessities.

dangernoodle88 · 2019-07-30T10:49:14+00:00

I’m really glad to hear there are so many other women here who don’t follow everything to a tee. I love reading RPW theory as a guideline, but it’s jarring to hear certain grey area topics being presented as absolute truth. People are still individuals and have preferences.

I don’t give too much thought to n count. Keeping my n count low is good for ME in terms of emotional well being, but I’ve never been asked about it by a man, or had that used as a way to judge my character. Plus, it’s my belief that with 99% of secular men, you’re going to have to put out eventually, long before marriage. And it’s not like everyone has the luxury of marrying the first person they date without going through a couple duds first and growing from it. Don’t think there’s any reason to be ashamed or embarrassed about that.

if_i_could_trade · 2019-07-30T05:54:10+00:00

Wait, not living together prior to marriage is a rule?

I can't fathom entering into marriage without knowing how you're gonna live with someone prior lol

Whisper · 2019-07-30T06:23:29+00:00

For me (personally) it's the advice of not living together before marriage.

Stop listening to the remedial students whispering in the back of the lecture hall. That is not the lecture material.

I don't teach rules. I teach principles and an understanding of the male mindset and mating instincts.

Wanting a set of rules is lazy. Wanting a set of rules is for spoiled women who don't want to think, make decisions, or take risks.

There is no avoiding responsibility for your life. You have to learn what is, then figure out for yourself how to apply it to your situation. Or your life is gonna suck.

So cohabit or don't. Save it for marriage or don't. Start as a plate or don't. Nobody can make those decisions for you. We can only give you an education to help you make them in an informed fashion.

Ohducks1212 · 2019-07-31T19:35:23+00:00

In my culture, getting a high paying, stable job, i.e. medicine, law, engineering, etc, is strongly valued and actually looks good for women. It means that you are family oriented and you obeyed your parents who pushed you towards studying difficult and at times tedious subjects. It also indicates a large amount of discipline.

Red flags, on the other hand, might be women in more artistic and unconventional careers.

girlwithabike · 2019-07-30T07:27:24+00:00

I have a touch of oppositional defiance when it comes to rules. I've not followed any of the tradcon rules for life with the exception of getting married (and we eloped after a lit of years of cohabitation, no big to do).

I will always believe that the value of RPW is in the information it provides about men, women and the interaction between the two. I spent an exorbitant amount of time summarizing For Women Only because that was more valuable to me than any post about how long hair is feminine. You can do things with the knowledge that men value respect over love (extremely simplified statement). I can't (won't) do much with the dictate that floral patterns are girly.

Rules are a good way to end up as the doormat we are accused of being. Knowledge gives you control of your own life.

To answer your question:

Cohabitation before marriage

Didn't talk about marriage and kids from the first date (If you can even call "put on something slutty we are going fur a ride" a first date)

Was not a virgin

Friends with men including my ex and he's friends with women including his ex

My go to clothes are skinny jeans and boots not dresses

I work in a masculine field, know how to shoot and ride a motorcycle (though a fall and then pregnancy have put serious limits on this recently)

My friends are not all RPW minded and I like it that way

Til recently I handled the money in our relationship.

That's all I can think of right now. We are sleep training the baby so it's 4am and I might be a little delirious.

BePrivateGirl · 2019-07-30T17:39:31+00:00

The rules of RPW that I break are the big ones.

First one would be that I’m not trying to get married. I’m in a LTR. He loves me and I love him. I don’t need a ring or a legal document to bolster the commitment that I know we have for each other.

Second, we are not monogamous. I’ve been practicing ethical non-monogamy for my entire adult life. I never thought I’d want to change if. We started out that way. I have had periods where I have been monogamous to him to see if I could try, and now I’m just not interested in dating other people.

He still dates and fucks other women occasionally. His interest in that waxes and wanes. But he’s attractive, and he’s got game. I like it that he’s still a catch. I think it gives him good energy. I know from our harmony at home that these other women don’t threaten me, even when he dates one for an extended period of time.

And I’m totally a bleeding liberal. Nothing trad-con about it. Red Pill principles work for all walks of life.

Blexit2020 · 2019-07-31T00:40:28+00:00

I don't think RPW is so much about "rules" as it is just an acknowledgement of how the world works, how men and women are different, and applying these facts in the way you approach relationships and life in general. That's just my observation.

ny-lady · 2019-07-31T11:14:08+00:00

I dont want kids and I dont care about marriage, its a piece of paper that does not equal stability or a good relationship.

Title	Are there any RPW rules which you don't "follow" or cannot accept for you?
Author	lakeside_shewolf
Upvotes	31
Comments	33
Date	July 30, 2019 5:51 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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