The 5 most important things I've learnt, over the years.

jonsmif9797 · 2019-08-31T10:03:03+00:00

To expand on (2), when discomfort and risk-taking become part of your personality through routines and habitual practices, there's no going back to comfort.

Now I feel dead lazing around or watching random Youtube videos.

CHAD_J_THUNDERCOCK · 2019-08-31T17:39:00+00:00

4) People treat me better, the better I treat myself. All people will treat you much better, the more attractive you are. Low body fat %.

I recently realised I was not 15% but rather 21% bodyfat. I went on a cut. Im now 16%, going down to 10-12 (depending on how skinny I look).

Its only been 3 weeks since I was 21% (Its a 1000-1500 calorie deficit, 23:1 fasting, though I still get 150g protein and 6 of my 5 a day) and the sudden difference in how strangers treat me is unbelievable for such a small change in bodyfat.

People keep saying sorry if they feel they inconvenienced me or bump into me. Like they are 10x more apologetic than before. It happened 4 times in a day and I was like WTF is going on at this venue, then it happened at other venues.

I ordered 3 chicken wings at a fast food place on my cheat day and the server let me cut the queue then gave me 7 wings instead of 3. That never happened before.

At a gig a woman came up to me and lifted up her skirt to flash her anderwear, belly and legs to me, then she jumped on me and wrapped her legs around me. It was only like 9pm at a gig and we said no words to each other. I do get forward inbound women occasionally but this was another level.

Bouncers suddenly shit test me and say I look 'really serious' and ask do I have something to hide. I have learned I should smile more, like I used to before I put on some fat. When I smiled while fat I was treated more beta, so I became more stoic. But now I need to smile the right amount to not appear threatening or something. Its the male equivalent of resting bitch face I suppose.

gaberger1 · 2019-08-31T09:36:10+00:00

I can only give the most acceptance a man can give to another man, to what you said.. the nod ™️

cakefmateus · 2019-08-31T09:26:35+00:00

The 4th point is very, very true. Right know I'm a depressed fuck who is trying to lose weight and doesn't have good clothes. People treat you like shit, not in a mean way but they don't respect you or your time.

idonthavtitsbcimaguy · 2019-08-31T19:47:17+00:00

It's a potent reminder that although men are conversing on a logical level, it means nothing to a women. It's all about the emotion and the "orchestra" behind what is being said.>

Exactly. I'm a quiet guy, man of few words. Always have been. However, I have no problem talking to women. I can have a full "conversation" with a girl and only say like 20 words total, I can get them in bed in less than 10 if I wanted to. All you have to do is be in tune with your emotions, build a high EQ. Women aren't really at all receptive to what you're saying in particular, but just the energy that you are giving off. I hate PUA because they focus on building conversation skills. What should really be the focus is building emotional skills. Conversation skills come as a result of building emotional skills. As a man, you should not at all be building emotional skills in order to pick up women. You should be building them to improve yourself. The women will follow.

SaveTheRhinos · 2019-08-31T10:24:02+00:00

"I have no issues waking her up if she's sleeping just so I can fuck her." That's fucking gangster.

nothestrawberrypatch · 2019-08-31T16:36:26+00:00

Excellent post, quality TRP content. It is very important to hold yourself accountable for everything and to not get complacent in your thoughts and actions. I have been hit with some serious blows here in the last month, but if it wasn’t for TRP I could’ve easily slipped right back into beta depression land.

I did what TRP has taught me. First, ask myself how did I get myself into this mess? And how do I get myself out? Begin implementation.

Then I had a almost a month off the gym Due to several injuries mostly, drank too much in August while vacationing, and it all added up to a near break down a week ago. (a vacation doesn’t mean a vacation from accountability - I found this out the hard way in the latter half of the month)

I hit the gym and destroyed myself yesterday. I left feeling so fucking good and was quickly reminded as to why the first rule of a RP man is to LIFT.

embracingtheredpill · 2019-08-31T13:24:49+00:00

It's interesting to me that you chose the word integrity. As you get higher value, more and more options will open to you on where to apply the most valuable of your limited resources, the time, energy and health. If you don't have a set of priorities and values in place (the what and the why) you'll always find yourself lost, overwhelmed and defeated by existence. If you can define a set of actions you want to undertake and stay congruent to the first principles that always drive you to success, you will always find yourself successful, regardless of external circumstances.

MatrixofLe3adership · 2019-08-31T12:09:12+00:00

Busy lifestyle filled with things you're passionate about.

Good way to be busy: You appreciate and enjoy every moment of the day because you wish life was a bit longer. You recognize the immense value of properly leveraged time, and you don't waste it by enforcing your own boundaries (on yourself and others when situation calls for it).

Bad way to be busy: Take Part A and crank that sh*t up to 11. Progress is only achieved with relentless hard work, and each second of your every action reflects this. You're such a serious and uptight individual, that people hate being around you because you never relax. Having fun is for losers!

embracingtheredpill · 2019-08-31T13:57:57+00:00

It's interesting to me that you chose the word integrity. As you get higher value, more and more options will open to you on where to apply the most valuable of your limited resources, the time, energy and health. If you don't have a set of priorities and values in place (the what and the why) you'll always find yourself lost, overwhelmed and defeated by existence. If you can define a set of actions you want to undertake and stay congruent to the first principles that always drive you to success, you will always find yourself successful, regardless of external circumstances.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-08-31T22:48:34+00:00

A good, simple list.

For myself, I would add polarizing. Maybe that's because it's my big thing at the moment.

'No wrong conversation topics'. Interesting, because in the beginning there are a shit load wrong conversations to have. There still would be.

But, I think as one progresses and becomes more comfortable, you can turn off the inner critic which says 'omg, should I talk about this'. If it's filled with emotion, and you can steer a conversation towards something, then run with it. You can always change gear, lead to something else if need be.

'Comfort is your enemy'. Great one. Comfort and fear of emotion will keep many guys trapped in old behaviour. One of the best ways RedPill and other things helped me to grow, was to move through uncomfortable feelings. Take charge and risk losing the day/date/girl etc.

'Girls want to be girls'. I like the explanation you give. Totally insane how we actually have to go through a process of learning how to be a man in the dynamic. Polarize, polarize, polarize. I still get times when I take the lead as a man, and feel that embedded societal shame for having a dick. Ridiculous.

Yes, we need to understand men, not women. I don't see enough emphasis on this. Many just want to understand the womanz, in order to get laid. The power comes when you ask more and more - what would a man do?

majuman · 2019-08-31T20:15:30+00:00

Best thread ive seen for a bit.

Thanks for the input.

Especially number 2 is something im working on at the moment. Due to a medical condition im in constant pain, but even inside that pain im comfortable. While my body needs more rest my mind should work outside the comfort more often. -maju

karkov · 2019-08-31T21:32:06+00:00

Elaborate more on 3). What is the definition on "being a man". how is a women more feminine? what kind of behaviors did you observed when "they "break free of the chains of society"?

secretboy42069 · 2019-09-01T15:59:56+00:00

You used the word embellish incorrectly. I also didn’t understand your use of the word congruent.

livinthedreams · 2019-09-01T01:29:44+00:00

Thank you for this man. This is exactly what I needed to hear. As someone on the same journey and doing well myself. This information is invaluable as I use it myself everyday.

Neo_Natal · 2019-09-01T06:57:38+00:00

I don't expect perfection from myself. I expect continual improvement. I am a man with purpose and mental fortitude. I will never be knocked off my path. I have too much integrity and self belief in myself to allow anything to make me falter. I'm a warrior, not because I chose to be, but because my DNA demands it. And I will not stop fighting and pushing forwards until I squeeze the last drop out of life.

This is gold right here. When you stop caring so much about sticking your dick inside warm, wet holes and start caring more about your mission, goals, and self actualization all of the stuff about women is child's play.

It's funny how we come to TRP to get pussy but end up finding our life's purpose and a code to live by that we never had before. It's why the manosphere is only going to keep growing and why places like this subreddit are so important.

[deleted] · 2019-09-03T07:46:14+00:00

Thanks for the feedback and upvotes. I haven't logged in on reddit since I wrote this. I'm overwhelmed that this content resonated with so many.

BoskOfPortKar · 2019-09-05T09:19:02+00:00

Do you know about the Gorean Chronicles of John Norman and Mode One from Allan Roger Currie ?

If not, have a look.

Tamadeus · 2019-09-18T09:03:47+00:00

Point 5 is just bad. Find out what she likes, and she will come back. This egocentric shit is really missguided. Rest is ok.

Uesugi1989 · 2019-08-31T17:54:45+00:00

If I want to fuck her 5 times in the night, I will. I have no issues waking her up if she's sleeping just so I can fuck her.

That is so wrong. That may be just my cranky ass speaking that wakes up with the tiniest of noise and can't fell asleep again but Imo sleep is one of the sacred things in life, you just don't mess with it. A girl tried to wake me up one time with a blowjob 1 hour before my alarm and I was infuriated. One time I have cohabitated with a chick for a few months and we had separate bedrooms. You don't mess with other people's sleep, it's a red line for me

embracingtheredpill · 2019-08-31T13:19:00+00:00

It's interesting to me that you chose the word integrity. As you get higher value, more and more options will open to you on where to apply the most valuable of your limited resources, the time, energy and health. If you don't have a set of priorities and values in place (the what and the why) you'll always find yourself lost, overwhelmed and defeated by existence. If you can define a set of actions you want to undertake and stay congruent to the first principles that always drive you to success, you will always find yourself successful, regardless of external circumstances.

Pink_Bird_Asylum · 2019-08-31T10:03:42+00:00

More like 10 ways you want to pat yourself on the back and get the approval of everyone here.

embracingtheredpill · 2019-08-31T13:13:04+00:00

It's interesting to me that you chose the word integrity. As you get higher value, more and more options will open to you on where to apply the most valuable of your limited resources, the time, energy and health. If you don't have a set of priorities and values in place (the what and the why) you'll always find yourself lost, overwhelmed and defeated by existence. If you can define a set of actions you want to undertake and stay congruent to the first principles that always drive you to success, you will always find yourself successful, regardless of external circumstances.

embracingtheredpill · 2019-08-31T13:13:39+00:00

It's interesting to me that you chose the word integrity. As you get higher value, more and more options will open to you on where to apply the most valuable of your limited resources, the time, energy and health. If you don't have a set of priorities and values in place (the what and the why) you'll always find yourself lost, overwhelmed and defeated by existence. If you can define a set of actions you want to undertake and stay congruent to the first principles that always drive you to success, you will always find yourself successful, regardless of external circumstances.

embracingtheredpill · 2019-08-31T13:12:38+00:00

It's interesting to me that you chose the word integrity. As you get higher value, more and more options will open to you on where to apply the most valuable of your limited resources, the time, energy and health. If you don't have a set of priorities and values in place (the what and the why) you'll always find yourself lost, overwhelmed and defeated by existence. If you can define a set of actions you want to undertake and stay congruent to the first principles that always drive you to success, you will always find yourself successful, regardless of external circumstances.

embracingtheredpill · 2019-08-31T13:13:51+00:00

It's interesting to me that you chose the word integrity. As you get higher value, more and more options will open to you on where to apply the most valuable of your limited resources, the time, energy and health. If you don't have a set of priorities and values in place (the what and the why) you'll always find yourself lost, overwhelmed and defeated by existence. If you can define a set of actions you want to undertake and stay congruent to the first principles that always drive you to success, you will always find yourself successful, regardless of external circumstances.

Title	The 5 most important things I've learnt, over the years.
Author	ATRP2019
Upvotes	567
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Date	August 31, 2019 9:16 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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