Question About Handing Couples Counselling

johneyapocalypse · 2019-09-17T02:31:04+00:00

Lots of words.

The important few translate to: your wife killed the puppy.

Move on so she can go full incest with her whore sister and you can have some real fun, young man.

BobbyPeru · 2019-09-17T07:40:31+00:00

This whole thing reeks of your whore wife cheating.

She pretty much told you to your face.

Here’s what almost always happens: she will continue to fuck Chad, but she will string you along, giving conflicting messages. You will be so confused, and one of 2 things will happen

A) she leaves you for Chad but never admits it

B ) it falls through with Chad, and she “suddenly comes to her senses” making you feel like you saved the marriage when in actuality it didn’t work out with Chad

Either way, it’s shitty .

You are nowhere near ready for what’s about to go down

You have this idea that you fell back into your beta ways, and it’s true... but the bigger truth is you weren’t ready for the shitstorm that hit

Hit the sidebar and start doing OYS posts

WeightsNCheatDates · 2019-09-17T02:43:46+00:00

She’s giving you a free pass to eject out of the marriage. Take it.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2019-09-17T02:53:10+00:00

I always like to use actions as the barometer. Actions are the real indicators, not words. What are her actions telling you?

0io- · 2019-09-17T03:46:14+00:00

You needed to throw the psycho sister out a lot sooner. Wife sees sister walking all over you and has decided you're a doormat and now she's decided to leave you because she can do so much better.

Since there are no kids involved I think you should just get divorced and start over with someone who doesn't have bipolar relatives. Or, if you don't want to do that for some reason, just insist that the sister has to go stay somewhere else. Maybe she can go on disability. Maybe she can move in with her parents or other family.

You can say "either she goes or I go" and if she goes, then see if you can get things back on track with your wife.

In your particular situation, however, I think you're better off just finding someone younger, hotter, and better.

andyturbo2000 · 2019-09-17T06:36:41+00:00

Two things I read chimed with an experience my brother went through. Single girl on the scene wanting all his wife’s attention. They started going out all the time to bars and clubs. Bro’s wife got a taste of the single life again and began the process of separation. Also, friend moves in and it’s difficult to have sex without it being obvious. It’s a toxic combo.

wkndatbernardus · 2019-09-17T02:54:01+00:00

The answer in this circumstance is always, "there's the door." Get yo ass back in the crib and talk to a lawyer. You can't negotiate her desire to be with you. Sure, her sister probably filled her mind with all this CC bs but, that only accelerated the decline of your relationship, it's not responsible for it. You have yourself to thank for that.

bourbonhipster · 2019-09-17T02:36:32+00:00

You sound like you think you can logic everything the way you want it to be.

It's the great flaw of men when communicating with women.

You also sound like you have a serious problem drawing clear boundaries for your own good. Your wife and sister came in with their stomping boots and trampled over whatever facade you had set in place.

So you think this counseling thing is really going to work out for you is it?

Or maybe your compliance to even consider attending says all that your wife needs to know about you.

Imagine your wife didn't exist and you had two out of line brats housed up with you in your tiny apartment. What would your day look like tomorrow under those circumstances?

screechhater · 2019-09-17T09:19:42+00:00

The alligator tears start to flow once the cash is cut off. As in yours. Hard stop.

Couples counseling. ?

WTF is there to talk about ?

I’m right here. What would you like total about ?

Couples counseling= waste of time.

Bipolar sister ? Starts going out when the sister moves in, Hmn. Beta boy is getting cucked.

Iammrp2 · 2019-09-17T03:12:55+00:00

Two things:

How can counseling help when it will consist of people trying to get you to talk about your feelings? Answer: it won’t, it’ll make things worse.
She probably cheated on you with a Chad who gives her the feels - which is why things escalated so quickly.

The way I see it you either put those two bitches in line (preferably kick the sister out) or move on from your wife and start gaming other women.

Perfectinmyeyes · 2019-09-17T08:09:10+00:00

I agree with alot of the posters here, her sister came and put a lot of thoughts into your wife's mind and or she got with Chad.

Either way... You acting like a beat whelp doesn't help. Like others have said, you move back to your place. And get the sister out and then let your wife do what she wants, stay or go.

Redpillbrigade17 · 2019-09-17T11:08:11+00:00

Stick a fork in it. Be thankful you don’t have kids with her. You’re young you have tons of time to build a relationship even relationships you want. Good luck. And Stop being a pussy.

Westernhagen · 2019-09-17T17:45:14+00:00

Before she came to stay the relationship was pretty much perfect between us.

So you say. But the evidence shows, your frame was actually shit and your redpill gains were superficial at best. The first time your frame was tested - when your wife wanted to do something obviously unacceptable, i.e., move her crazy alcoholic loser sister into a small apartment with you - your frame folded like wet cardboard and all your gains went out the window. You were a Nice Guy who could not say no, and you didn't. You had sprinkled some alpha on yourself, and your wife blew it off as easily as you would blow froth from a pint. If it hadn't been the sister that precipitated the crisis and revealed your actual weakness, it would have been something else.

She may or may not regret it if you walk. Many women do, especially if they see their ex is improving. That's her problem, not yours. What do you want? This whole post is "how do I get back my one-itis?" If you had frame and abundance mentality you would not be fretting about how to get back this woman who treated you so poorly. All this strongly suggests you need to pull the plug and go work on yourself some more. If you get this woman back, it will not go well. If you get another woman before you have built your frame, it will not go well.

themerovingian01 · 2019-09-17T21:26:15+00:00

Couples counseling never works. Not even once.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2019-09-17T05:21:04+00:00

“Red pill aware” is code for “I’m a gay retard that hasn’t done shit”.

simbarlion · 2019-09-17T05:04:57+00:00

Calm the fuck down man. 3 months ago the wife / sister yanked on the wheel of an otherwise sound ship and your jumping overboard?

Give it time, get the sister out, take back control like a man would and never forget some of the hamster spew that came out of your wife's mouth, because, dear 29 year old boy, that is the spew that will destroy your marriage if you abandoned your post as captain again.

If the boat doesn't turn back on course in a few months, then yeah, its time for 'go plan'

WolfofAllStreetz · 2019-09-17T18:07:51+00:00

Dude get out, sounds like your girl skipped her ho phase and its making its way full circle with her sister. This will not end well for you. Do not take her back. Get to looking better, and start finding friends if you don’t have any.

dilberryhoundog · 2019-09-17T03:53:25+00:00

My reading is... Your SIL(sister in law) is hamstering hard core about “men”. Your wife’s hamsters are starting to run wild with her sister’s. Your wife has been coerced into “rebounding” her sister (kind of like a wingman). When your SIL is fully recovered your wife will be dropped on her arse by her sister, but it probably won’t be before your marriage gets nuked.

Don’t be angry at your wife. I bet her sister has manipulated her all her life. The shit tests are because your wife NEEDS you to have a strong frame in a hurry, a frame that your wife cannot produce.

To me, the best course of action is to kick your SIL back out into the street, where she came from. Don’t DEER to either woman, just do it. Then just go about your life, STFU and ignore if either try to let their hamsters out of the cage again. Wait a week or two for your wife to calm her hamsters down then see where she is at.

It wasn’t your wife that decimated your frame, it was your SIL. I bet you give your SIL everything and she gives you nothing. She has trounced all over your boundaries, which has freed your wife of your boundaries also. You sound like you are RP to your wife, but beta fag, “nice guy” to your SIL. Dancing monkey is what they call this.

SBIII · 2019-09-17T08:40:49+00:00

My marriage has been falling apart for the past ~3 months due ~~mainly to the wife's (I suspect bipolar) sister staying with us but also~~ to me being a huge faggot.

Own your shit. This one's on you. Do you know what the problem is? You made pussy the prize and when the prize was taken away, your validation went with it and your wife saw you for what you are - a gigantic, validation seeking pussy who falls apart when she takes away sex. Like a frameless buffoon.

So, she goes out dancing with the sister, having fun, playing netball. And you fall apart even further. Like a frameless buffoon.

She tells you she wants out, then you roll over and play dead by moving out. Like a frameless buffoon.

This could make her look bad, so she books couples councelling. To the rest of the world, you're the bad guy - you moved out, she tried to fix it. The councellor will side with her. No matter how this one plays out, she's made the effort while you bolted out the door. Not that you should give a fuck, that's just how she's playing it.

I have no idea if this is fixable, but there's only one way you can attempt it;

- take your balls back

- move back in

- kick the sister from the house

- restart your MAP with 100% conviction

- stop being a fucking pussy

- start being a fucking man

And even if it is fixable - is it actually worth it? There's a very real chance that she is fucking someone else. At the very least, she has zero interest in you - you're out of the picture and her only concern on that front is saving face. She doesn't give a fuck about you. Can you deal with that? Can you live with that? Can you get past that?

I dunno dude - you've fucked around too long with MRP without actually doing anything. I'd be surprised if this made any difference.

Title	Question About Handing Couples Counselling
Author	ricksy
Upvotes	7
Comments	76
Date	17 September 2019 02:21 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	askMRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/253573
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