Many women admit there are guys who are for sex and guys who are for relationships. Ideally both camps are sexually attractive, the only difference is that the guy only for sex doesn't have relationship qualities she's looking for. I'm not here to talk about alpha fucks, beta bucks and all that shit. Let's assume both of these types are attractive to her.

She has no feelings towards the guy who's only a hookup (supposedly). She has feelings for the guy she wants a relationship with.

But why is it that women hide a large part of who they really are to the guy she cares about? She'll show the hookup guy her extremely sexually deviant side to her, but is far more vanilla with the guy she wants to impress.

Now I'm no expert in being in relationships but one thing I do know is that if a relationship is to work out; both parties will show each other their flaws and dark side. A sustainable relationship is where both parties accept both the good and bad of their partner.

When that girl was in college. She got gang banged by football players and frat boys, she had tonnes of hookups (young, wild and free), she sent nudes to many guys to tease them (look but not touch), all this uninhibited sex, carefree and all.

But then when she meets the relationship material guy. What does she do? "Oh I don't want to have sex on the first date, I don't want to get hurt". "Oh I'm not that kind of girl (she is)."

She puts on an act, afraid to show a large part of who she really is. She's not some innocent madonna who only has sex with guys she has deep feelings for. Oh no, she's wild. It's not just men who play games, nuh uh.

Many (maybe most) women continue to put on this facade. Pretending she's not like that. Hiding her past. All to be likeable to her boyfriend. Like a woman who overdoes her makeup, there comes a point where enough is enough.

In a way, the hookup guy knows her better than mr hubby bubby ever will. He's in love with an illusion. If mr hookup guy falls in love, it's with the real thing. And that's a shame, because you must love both the light and the shadow to truly love your partner [being a slut is arguable not even a bad thing, but that's another debate].