Stop complaints and rants

TrainingTheBrain · 2014-12-11T12:47:49+00:00

The quick fix to this that I have been utilizing for a while now is to cut them off as soon as their complaint goes beyond a tolerable level and simply ask, "So what's the next step?" Usually they are taken aback by someone who is willing to confront them (confrontation is a good thing) and then they will do one of 2 things.

1) Stop speaking and therefore quit bitching.

2) Ask you what you mean?

If they ask you what you mean then you have the perfect opportunity to lay down some life advice.

If they have a problem, what is the next step they have to take to fix said problem

A similar area this comes up in is health.

"I'm fat, I'm slow, I'm weak, etc." - "So what's the next step?"

Lift, run, jump, etc.

I hate complainers so I make it my mission to cut them off as quickly as they start and try and help them get to the root cause of the problem and then come up with a solution.

Glenbert · 2014-12-11T14:25:26+00:00

Critical question: does this work on your LTR? Because in my experience it just leads them to create pie-in-the-sky bullshit solutions. Such as starting a cupcake business.

xiko · 2014-12-11T14:33:20+00:00

In a ltr I use the following advice: When the ltr starts talking about something I ask her if she wants advice or if she just wants to vent. It is great.

2014-12-11T14:28:53+00:00

If we're in a public place I'll scan the horizon over her shoulder to look at other women. She'll stop jabbering and turn around to see who or what I'm looking at. It breaks her momentum enough for me to change the subject. Most of the time, women complain about bullshit that doesn't need to be addressed. Don't give her any validation.

spjjj · 2014-12-12T03:56:25+00:00

Honestly, this advice could be applied to this entire sub. People need to stop talking about women, bitching about women, and acting like whiny, pussy crybabies. Every topic that complains about the nature of women or some such other pointless bullshit pushes down a topic that is actually useful in helping someone. Take it to r/mensrights If you want to bitch and moan about the "nature" of women.

Thizzlebot · 2014-12-11T23:32:51+00:00

"So what are you going to do about it"

Oh god I fucking love this response. My best friend who is a marine says it occasionally when we are out. He says it to people that mouth off (with a huge grin on his face) as a joke but at the same time it's kinda not a joke because if they want to step he will destroy them. It's fucking great.

jolly--roger · 2014-12-12T09:09:01+00:00

minirant: the link you provided (lifehacker) leads to a Gawker media site. how about we don't give views to scum and use http://archive.today ?

/minirant

Sigmund-Droid · 2014-12-11T17:18:01+00:00

I 've trained everyone to never complain at me, because i actually cannot care. I fix their shit sometimes if they ask. Faking empathy is the worst time sink.

DawnoftheShred · 2014-12-11T14:35:00+00:00

I feel like I have a problem with complaining. It's something I'm conscious of and want to fix.

There are some things that annoy me at work and I periodically need to vent about them, but they aren't things that I can change, unless my boss will 'man up' and change it.

I'm wondering where the line is between being straightforward or talking about an issue, and just being someone that others will dismiss as a complainer?

nologicintheworld · 2014-12-11T17:44:13+00:00

From experience,I know it works best to do this. It may sound harsh to some people that you don't sympathize with them,but In the long run I hope they realize we just stopped them from becoming a bigger pussybyhan they were.

asd1100 · 2014-12-11T17:38:41+00:00

yeah that doesn't work. IN general blue pill social skills negate any instinctive or emotional cognitive paterning(to make people genderless). They are mostly slef help bullshit built around cognitive psychology(think it and it will become true).

Real solutions:

Leverage your status, imply that you will walk away(or another expresion of disaproval) and show your discontent with women, orbiters and children.

Deconstruct the men's fear or insecurity and tickle/break his ego(depending on whether his ego want's to improve or not). Men are more autonomous at a fundamental level you won't be able to make him move. Sometimes introducing a woman in the mix is the most effective, although destructive way to get blue pillers to stop winning.

PS. OP the red pill is next level social dynamics. This belongs in /r/socialskills or another self improvement jerk fest.

Title	Stop complaints and rants
Author	demilitarizdsm
Upvotes	97
Comments	29
Date	December 11, 2014 12:15 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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