Q4Men: Does your sexual attraction to a woman always increase with her physical attractiveness?

FairlyNaive · 2017-10-30T11:10:20+00:00

Will a 9/10 always be more arousing to you than a 5/10, regardless of her availability, her interest in you, her personality, the context, and the relationship you have with her?

Hell no. Level of her attraction/availability to me plays a huge role in my own attraction to her.

wtknight · 2017-10-30T11:17:44+00:00

Will a 9/10 always be more arousing to you than a 5/10, regardless of her availability, her interest in you, her personality, the context, and the relationship you have with her?

No. Personality is important to me. A woman who is a 9 but who is annoying is not going to attract me, but I'm probably in the minority of men in this way. However, there's a certain threshold that if a woman does not look physically attractive to me then she's not going to attract me no matter how great her personality is.

Men in relationships, would you trade in your girlfriend or wife for a hotter woman if given the chance? Do you wish you were still with your hotter ex?

No. My wife has the best personality and physical attractiveness of any woman I've dated. If she didn't, I don't think that I would have gotten married. I'm not the kind of person who settles when it comes to relationships or even friends.

BPremium · 2017-10-30T11:28:52+00:00

While physical attraction is a big part, something any woman can do to up her sexual attractiveness is by giving attention. Sexual attention, caring attention, lol all the attention. Make a guy feel like your personal superman, and he'll only have eyes for you. Unless, you're going for Chad with tons of options, then mores required.

theiamsamurai · 2017-10-30T14:39:20+00:00

Nah, how horny/available/flirty she is increases my attraction way more than her physical attractiveness. Sure, there's a certain level of baseline of physical attractiveness below which this probably wouldn't work for, but I'm attracted to most girls, so that baseline is probably pretty low.

says_harsh_things · 2017-10-30T12:54:24+00:00

Will a 9/10 always be more arousing to you than a 5/10, regardless of her availability, her interest in you, her personality, the context, and the relationship you have with her?

Yes, with the caveat that a 'train wreck' 9/10 will always be passed up for a clean 8/10. By train wreck I mean BPD/pill junkie/daddy issues and I'm concerned if she'd stab me in my sleep.

Men in relationships, would you trade in your girlfriend or wife for a hotter woman if given the chance? Do you wish you were still with your hotter ex?

No. My wife is still hot. Not as hot as she was at 22 but she's still up there.

Some of my friends wives though.....time, marriage, and kids were not kind. If I were in their shoes my answer might not be so quick.

SkookumTree · 2017-10-30T16:02:47+00:00

Nope. A 9/10 jackass isn't nearly as attractive as a 5/10 with a wonderful personality. I find jackassery very unattractive.

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Alth12 · 2017-10-30T11:51:17+00:00

Not always. But sometimes. In a club situation there's nothing to go on but looks. But in bars etc I'd rather date or have a ONS with a girl that has more to her than looks.

But then I suffer a lot with being judgmental of really hot 9 or 10/10 women. It's something girl friends have pointed out to me and I need to work on. It isn't that I put them on a pedestal, the reverse actually. Mostly that I assume they're air headed bimbos until they prove otherwise.

Eastuss · 2017-10-30T12:34:04+00:00

Availability plays a big role. But it's hard to compare a 5/10 smiling at me and a 9/10 looking at me with contempt.

I wouldn't trade my wife for a hotter woman. I would trade her for steady sex with different women for life.

abaxeron · 2017-10-30T12:42:11+00:00

No, and No.

Would be Yes and Yes if I was in an FWB relationship, but the wording says "regardless of the context and the relationship".

nonnimoose · 2017-10-30T12:46:07+00:00

most important thing in a relatively attractive women with regard to how attracted I am to her has to do with her desire for me in the physical and psychological realm

SkookumTree · 2017-10-30T13:40:45+00:00

No. Physical attractiveness is obviously high up there but it's far from the one and only factor that contributes to attraction. I would take a 5/10 with a fitting personality who was really into me over a 9/10 with a conflicting personality who was just fucking me around any day.

Btw this is also why BPD girls are so attractive to many men. They are very good at giving them a lot of attention, intimacy, and acting like he is perfect. This is how you make a man love you.

Do you wish you were still with your hotter ex?

I admit I do sometimes still think about a particularly hot ex of mine, I would legit rank her 10/10, but she's the one who was crazy enough to cut my name into her thigh and she left me for a 50 year old married man. Would I fuck her given the chance? Fuck yeah. Would I get back in a relationship with her? Fuck no.

[deleted] · 2017-10-30T13:49:08+00:00

5/10? No, but i would take 8/10 if she was better in character. Other than that women looks depreciate very fast.

Love8Death · 2017-10-30T14:29:50+00:00

To your question in the title, yes, hotter/more beautiful always increases sexual attraction.

Will a 9/10 always be more arousing to you than a 5/10, regardless of her availability, her interest in you, her personality, the context, and the relationship you have with her?

This isn't true however.

Men in relationships, would you trade in your girlfriend or wife for a hotter woman if given the chance? Do you wish you were still with your hotter ex?

Neither is this.

KerPop42 · 2017-10-30T14:47:33+00:00

No. I'm attracted to most women in general, but classically super-attractive women tend to give me performance anxiety. Also, being unavailable (ace, gay, in a monogamous relationship, explicitly saying they're not interested) reduces how attracted to them I am. Also, personality goes a long, log way. If I can't hold a couple-hour conversation with a girl, I tend to lose romantic and sexual interest.

Mr_Smoogs · 2017-10-30T14:59:19+00:00

Nooooo. I need enthusiastic consent to be attracted to a woman. I've built this up as a defense mechanism of sorts to prevent unrequited love and the frustration that goes along with that.

Christian_Kong · 2017-10-30T15:35:05+00:00

Will a 9/10 always be more arousing to you than a 5/10, regardless of her availability, her interest in you, her personality, the context, and the relationship you have with her?

Yes, only because you compared a 5(dead average) to a 9(one of the hotter people you have ever seen in your life). Personality and all that can add only so much to attractiveness.

[deleted] · 2017-10-30T15:46:17+00:00

Will a 9/10 always be more arousing to you than a 5/10, regardless of her availability, her interest in you, her personality, the context, and the relationship you have with her?

No, I see a performance aspect to it

Men in relationships, would you trade in your girlfriend or wife for a hotter woman if given the chance? Do you wish you were still with your hotter ex?

Definitely not

the_calibre_cat · 2017-10-30T15:47:24+00:00

No, she can undo it. There's this girl that's... a clear 7/10 at least that I'm hanging around. She's way hot.

But she takes no responsibility for her actions and prides herself on starting shit with her management at work, and so she's always between jobs and blames her evil straw-managers as to why she's out of work, she blames her ex-boyfriend for the state of their relationship, she blames her mother for all kinds of shit...

...she's hot, and she's ambitious, but nobody is completely innocent and not responsible for their situation, and that's a huuuuuuuge turn off.

[deleted] · 2017-10-30T17:07:59+00:00

No, once I'm physically attracted to someone other things besides looks also determine my level of attraction to them.

Arobin08 · 2017-10-30T17:54:15+00:00

Yes, of course

wattwatty · 2017-10-30T18:20:25+00:00

Will a 9/10 always be more arousing to you than a 5/10, regardless of her availability, her interest in you, her personality, the context, and the relationship you have with her?

A given 7/10 might be more arousing than a 9/10 if she were particularly sexy in some way. None of the caveats you list would have one iota of impact, however. Don't care about any of those things, because claiming that they impact how arousing someone is is kinda crazy. Those things could impact how one acts on arousal, but don't have a damn thing to do with arousal, per se.

Men in relationships, would you trade in your girlfriend or wife for a hotter woman if given the chance?

No. I am a man, and therefore not hypergamous.

Do you wish you were still with your hotter ex?

Never had a hotter ex. Like most men, I married the hottest woman I was ever with.

Entropy-7 · 2017-10-30T19:31:21+00:00

I have told this story a few times, but here we go again:

I was in a mixed crowd and I said that I prefer "cute" over "hot". Then this one girl - objectively "hot" (blonde, slim, bit tits and such) - says "Is that because you can't get hot girls?"

I said "No, I can get them but they tend to be complete fucking bitches."

Once you get past the 6 or 7 mark it is personality that will carry the day. YMMV but we can play a game of rating girls from my past, like

her

or her

My fiance is very pretty but hotter women will undoubtably cross my path in the future. I don't think I will trade up because wife is a peach.

My "hotter exes" have personality disorders or otherwise require therapy and medication.

[deleted] · 2017-10-30T21:02:17+00:00

In a picture

If the 9 is a feminist cunt and the 5 is a submissive I'd take the 5 every time

Not too many feminist 9s tho

EchoZeroEleven · 2017-10-30T21:27:59+00:00

Yes obviously.

But my dick is on command for the one that's paying me attention, not the babe that doesn't care about me.

Now a hottie that is paying attention to me? Well...

Jex117 · 2017-10-31T01:19:28+00:00

A 5/10 sweetheart beats a 9/10 skanky bitch any day of the week.

newName543456 · 2017-10-31T07:41:56+00:00

Depends on how you define physical attractiveness.

For purely aesthetic appeal relation might not be linear.

[deleted] · 2017-11-08T22:38:52+00:00

Will a 9/10 always be more arousing to you than a 5/10, regardless of her availability, her interest in you, her personality, the context, and the relationship you have with her?

From a primal level? The 9/10 will. But as others said, availability too.

To be frank, when the baseline of physical attractiveness is met for me, its diminishing returns.

Men in relationships, would you trade in your girlfriend or wife for a hotter woman if given the chance? Do you wish you were still with your hotter ex?

I'm incel, but hell no. Especially if its my first girlfriend. I know if I get my first girlfriend I will be super clingy no matter what.

[deleted] · 2017-10-30T12:08:04+00:00

Absolutely not!

When I was 16 this may have been the case. These days I can't even find white wimen attractive.

To me what is atttactive is a feeling if intimacy and natural desire from both parties. I am not good looking enough for attractive women to desire me this way. However some women do see me as a conquest I guess. So cute faces and tiny pot bellies are more attractive to me than the swimwear model.

[deleted] · 2017-10-30T11:47:00+00:00

Does your sexual attraction to a woman always increase with her physical attractiveness?

Is water wet?

Will a 9/10 always be more arousing to you than a 5/10, regardless of her availability, her interest in you, her personality, the context, and the relationship you have with her?

Really I am not sure is water actually wet?

Do you wish you were still with your hotter ex?

Why do you assume the woman the guy is with now is uglier than his ex? Seems a pretty stupid assumption. Tho maybe its just me in wanting to find a woman that's hotter than my ex.

Title	Q4Men: Does your sexual attraction to a woman always increase with her physical attractiveness?
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Date	October 30, 2017 11:07 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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