Isn't it extremely obvious that women have a way better experience of sex than men?

shoup88 · 2017-03-10T17:30:23+00:00

I don't really understand why one of those links sounds objectively better than the other. To me, it seems extremely obvious that men and women have different sexual experiences, but that there is no way to fully explain it to the other person. You can tell me what a dick feels like, I can say what being penetrated feels like, but I don't think you can full understand it. It just turns into flowery language and drawn out metaphors.

NalkaNalka · 2017-03-10T17:50:54+00:00

Did you mean to say that woman have a better potential "peak" sexual experience than men? Because as you actually wrote it... nah. I doubt all the woman the experience a boob grab then a blob grunts un top of them for 30 seconds then falls asleep once he is done would consider that particularly rewarding.

GridReXX · 2017-03-10T19:37:03+00:00

That's all nice or whatever. But most women never tap into that.

And the majority of the women who do only experience that a minority of the time.

And most women simply never.

All in all, men have more incentive to have sex because it's consistently an overwhelmingly pleasant experience.

There's like 5% of women who have orgasms consistently from PIV, let alone the type of earth shattering orgasm you described.

blackedoutfast · 2017-03-10T22:58:47+00:00

women do enjoy (good) sex more than men, but men need to have sex. for a man sex does feel good, but that's not why we want to do it. we have a very powerful instinctive drive to have sex.

to make an analogy: for men, much of life is like being lost in a hot desert. sex is like finding something to drink. obviously it's better if you find a nice cool glass of crystal clear water, but if you're thirsty enough you'll drink out of a nasty mud puddle. it's less about the taste of the drink and more about quenching your thirst. that's what sex is like for men.

for women, sex is like a normal (not lost in the desert) person eating a meal. sometimes you're hungry and sometimes you're full. it can be amazing if you happen to be hungry when someone serves up a great meal that (like Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner). but if you aren't very hungry and someone offers you a bland, boring meal you might not even want to eat it.

and to invert it, women seem NEED relationships in the same way that men need sex. a relationship quenches a thirst in them. that's one reason why they might be willing to put up with a bad relationship rather than being alone, and can feel such a strong desire for a stable long-term relationship.

whereas men can (potentially) enjoy or be totally turned off of relationships in the same way that women relate to sex. as a man, a very good relationship with a cool girl can be extremely enjoyable, but i don't feel a need for a relationship in the same way that i regularly feel i need to get laid.

shoup88 · 2017-03-10T17:45:36+00:00

No. The only thing that's obvious is that women have more access to more attractive sex partners than men do. But that doesn't necessarily translate into "way better experience of sex than men".

To hear women tell it, sex can be anywhere from horrible to meh to scratched the itch to great to "the earth moved and the angels wept and I saw stars".

I don't know if I'd say men's orgasms are pathetic compared to women's orgasms. From the descriptions, men cum once and it can be meh or awesome, until they wait out the refractory period and then they can cum again. Women can have orgasms in varying intensity, from "a little bit", to one tsunami after another, over and over again.

So I wouldn't say women always experience sex much better than men do.

[deleted] · 2017-03-10T23:02:00+00:00

Stimulate your prostate, I heard that's pretty chill.

Me2_0 · 2017-03-10T17:18:23+00:00

Obviously don't know about the physical differences in experience but I do know that erotica written from a female perspective usually has so much more going on than that written from a male perspective.

despisedlove2 · 2017-03-10T17:27:40+00:00

Not necessarily.

More nerve endings just mean that they are more sensitive. For good and bad.

If anything, it would make a woman as likely to complain about bad sex as to gush about good sex.

Part of the alpha widow behavior stems from this.

godfatherchimp · 2017-03-10T18:28:53+00:00

I'd have more nerve endings on my dick if my genitals weren't mutilated as a newborn. Feminists don't care about that though, they only care about genital mutilation when it happens to girls

SetConsumes · 2017-03-10T18:03:43+00:00

You should look into male multiple orgasms and tantra.

A woman's orgasm, especially a multiple orgasms(a true one with multiple orgasms that continue at once layered upon each other) far exceeds a man's normal orgasm.

But a male orgasm where he's had several non-ejaculatory orgasms and then ends in an ejaculatory orgasm where he then harnesses the sexual energy released and loops it through himself repeatedly can exceed or at least equal a strong female multiple orgasm.

It is very different however.

But imagine involuntarily flexing your entire body while you feel the orgasmic energy pass through you over and over again.

waluigisnumber1fan · 2017-03-10T22:34:42+00:00

Yeah, male orgasms aren't really that special. They're easy to achieve - as they are for the women who took the time and effort to get to know their bodies in their teen years - and they act as a release, but they're not something that I care much about.

If it wasn't for blue balls I wouldn't bother with orgasms.

ClarityofDisaster · 2017-03-11T02:19:35+00:00

Oddly, my experiences with sex align much more with the male version...Weird. 🤔😮

Princeso_Bubblegum · 2017-03-10T17:52:23+00:00

I'm transgender so I have a different perspective on this.

The orgasms of both transmen and transwomen change on HRT. And while transwomen are happy with their ginormous orgasms, its not like transmen are at a completely loss. Instead, the transmen I have talked to about the subject said that they find their orgasms now more fulfilling, sort of like a good steak vs eating at an all you can eat buffet, they found their orgasms before to be "excessive."

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trail22 · 2017-03-10T17:56:27+00:00

well except the whole fear of rape, rejection after and pregnancy scares.

I think before sex most men have it crap and after sex women have it crap. UNless your attractive; then either side is probably good. Or

methylotroph · 2017-03-12T14:57:21+00:00

While is a philosophical question of what I perceive as blue is what you perceive as blue, it would be quantitative to compare the neural pathways for pleasure and orgasm of men and women. Unfortunately there does no seem to be much study of this and much unsubstantiated claims.

Me2_0 · 2017-03-10T17:43:40+00:00

It's common to tell girls who take exctasy not to cum while they are booted up, otherwise they wont have a normal orgasm for months and go into depression.

A guy can cum on exctasy and your orgasms are pretty meh for a while but they come back.

Title	Isn't it extremely obvious that women have a way better experience of sex than men?
Author	HopefulAboutADHD
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Date	March 10, 2017 5:14 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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