Blooper here to give advice on what worked and not just criticize

DrunkGirl69 · 2017-01-13T01:48:57+00:00

Step 1: be attractive

Step 2: take better pics.

I tried online dating, got no responses

Did a cut and had my friend take pics of me with my professional camera.. multiple dates in a week.

ppdthrowawai · 2017-01-13T03:02:54+00:00

Okcupid actually studied this and found that copy/paste messages sent out en masse are far more effective use of your time than carefully crafting and tailoring messages to someone who will very likely ignore you.

Makes sense to me and reflects my experience pretty well. I don't think the response rate was any different when I personalized a message vs just saying, "hey, whats happening?"

From a RP lens I would say this: No girl is worth me spending a bunch of time crafting tailor made messages to tickle her fancy and sense of grammar. Reeks of entitlement and there are plenty of fish in the sea that require a lot less effort. Best strategy is to move on and find someone who doesn't give a fuck about nitpicky details

darla10 · 2017-01-13T01:55:16+00:00

Gives us a better understanding of what 18 year old women respond to. You a baby. Congrats on your relationship!

EchoZeroEleven · 2017-01-13T02:48:18+00:00

"Didn't drink or smoke weed (how???)"

Is it actually bonkers for a person to not want to drink or smoke weed?

Carkudo · 2017-01-13T05:53:12+00:00

So,

Be attractive, be attractive, don't be unattractive.

Pretty much true dat. The only reason I stopped being an incel was because by complete chance I ran into someone who finds me attractive. OP's "advice' checks out.

hakosua · 2017-01-13T04:23:04+00:00

I knew a guy who wrote a script to search OKC for compatible women and compose standardized messages based on their profile content. Only, his message to me didn't follow the same template.

I probably shouldn't have been so flattered by that.

... Certainly shouldn't have been so turned on.

Bad decisions were made all around.

disposable_pants · 2017-01-13T07:12:51+00:00

Ok so what if a guy wanted to filter out all the girls like you? What is the specific way to find the girls who put out the quickest with the smallest amount of effort?

You see how all the things you say were negative were potentially the best course of action for those guys?

It can get complicated

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DucksCanDance · 2017-01-13T02:00:20+00:00

Sounds right, I would add that lots of women respond to guy's messages who are a few years outside their range

shogunofsarcasm · 2017-01-13T02:08:39+00:00

I agree with this a lot. The only messages I seriously responded to were messages that seemed like the person was trying to actually talk to me about something they read on my page or about something interesting. I ignored one word messages and any from people who clearly weren't my type (420/smoking friendly mostly, so opposite to you lol), I also tended to ignore messages that were pretty obviously copy pasted, overt sexual comments, and random dick pics unless I felt like calling them out on their shit. They were never responded to seriously.

ifelsedowhile · 2017-01-13T02:19:44+00:00

I don't look good in pictures because despite not being overweight, my body fat is disproportionately stored on my chin and cheeks giving me a puffy face look. so I tried with some less known male celebrity's pic instead of my own because in dire times everything is legit but strangely enough it didn't work.
that's why I find online dating a waste of time. better trying to become rich and then paying for premium escorts.

absurdlivingghost · 2017-01-13T05:39:13+00:00

Did respond Messages where they had at least glanced at my profile to talk about something we had in common Messages with jokes or funny comments

I do this fairly often (over Tinder, though). I don't have much success, though. My profound ugliness kinda trumps other potential merits.

FairlyNaive · 2017-01-13T06:28:58+00:00

18 your olds who wanted to settle already?

disposable_pants · 2017-01-13T11:13:55+00:00

First, I appreciate the sentiment of giving advice instead of just criticizing.

Second, I see a number of quality takeaways from this (others have mostly covered them), but this:

Casual Dating or hook ups only

Throws us a big curveball. It seems you weren't actually interested in hookups (you mention turning down a number of attractive men and screening for a number of attributes that are largely unrelated to wanting to have sex with someone), and very few women state that they're interested in hookups anyway. What's far more common are women who explicitly state they are not there to hook up, even if they will do so with the right partner. There's some insight here (women don't always state -- or even know -- their true preferences), but it's also a major confounding factor.

[deleted] · 2017-01-13T14:53:43+00:00

does my experience help you get a better understanding of what women like or will respond to?

Only slightly, and only with respect to men's sending messages to women on online dating sites.

Nothing in here about self improvement, how to improve, what needs to be improved, how to comport oneself in real life, etc.

I mean, I guess it's ok as far as it goes, and it's consistent with what you hear from other women (don't send a one line intro like "hey" or "yo" or "HI want sum fuk"; at least make it look like you read the woman's profile), but other than that, it's about maybe .5% of what men need to work on.

Macheako · 2017-01-13T20:20:02+00:00

couldn't distinguish between you're, your or their, there, they're

I f--king hate you so much right now...

THIS is the type of retarded sh-t women say that makes men f--kin HATE them...do you know how much f--king work, effort, time, energy, money, goddamn EVERYTHING we put in to get your a--???? B-tch, most of us wouldn't even have college degrees if we thought it wouldn't help out with getting p--sy!!! And all you gotta f--king say for yourself is:

Sorry, but you used "your" when you totally should've used "you're" instead!

Go f--k yourself

AmericanHistoryAFBB · 2017-01-14T05:29:12+00:00

Older than 25 is old now? I just turned 25 and this makes me feel really shitty.

Title	Blooper here to give advice on what worked and not just criticize
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Date	January 13, 2017 1:31 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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