Q4Women: weed and sex

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2016-09-07T02:17:25+00:00

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TW_CountryMusic · 2016-09-07T01:53:15+00:00

I've never smoked weed because I'm a fucking square. But I have had female friends describe stoned sex as an amazing experience.

I love drunk sex though.

I will say that when my boyfriend was smoking frequently (several times a week) he didn't have much interest in sex. Things went back to normal once he cut back on his smoking.

Bekazzled · 2016-09-07T05:49:28+00:00

It's a hell of a turn on. Not something I do all the time because, like having alcohol, it can delay to orgasm even though your are much hornier. I also just love sex, so I don't want to always have it while stoned.

Personally, I'm much hornier on weed than alcohol. So delaying that orgasm isn't necessarily a bad thing... it's actually tauntingly sexual, and when I do orgasm, it's intense.

But yeah, I've certainly had a joint, some cuddling and amazing sex. Because I'm stoned I might be a bit more frank with my partner and ask what he wants.... or try to explore some areas that I think he might like but hasn't outright mentioned... because sex is also about being turned on about what my guy finds hot, and I want him to explore that, because I find it hot. I'm more willing to investigate this while stoned.

I KNOW that some women (and men) just respond badly to weed. If someone feels inherently paranoid when they try it, they're never going to feel sexy while having it (and from what I can see someone can enjoy weed socially for years and all of a sudden develop a phobic response to it). I don't think it has anything to do with the person's mind-set going into it - it's more about whether weed affects the person's chemistry to the point that they feel tired, reclusive, horny, or anxious.

But no... it doesn't kill my libido. Even if I don't come the first time I'm excited because I'm in a permanent state of horniness at having ALMOST come.... and I keep thinking about sex, and usually orgasm during round 2. (Awesome delayed gratification!)

The odd thing is though that the other drugs listed aren't going to make me want sex, because my body reacts to them in different ways:

MDMA. Only tried this a few times. Each time my mind went to academia and such: discussions about the economy, research topics. I've written assignments on MDMA and woke up the next morning thinking, "I bet what I wrote last night was horseshit" and nope, it's still gold. It seems to heighten my focus. Once on MDMA I ended up at a nightclub standing at the back of the bar answering questions about what stocks to invest in, and explaining to a growing group of people how the GFC happened. The group grew from my friends to nearby interested people over the course of an hour.
Speed - only tried it a few times. I stay away from this because I don't like the feeling when you're coming down. I'm talkative and interested in other people's stories when on this, but not horny.
LSD - A bit giggly and talk-y. I will eventually find a way to sneak out of any public event so I can do some research at home. Pathetic.

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BiggerDthanYou · 2016-09-07T02:34:32+00:00

But now I've heard from several women that they stopped smoking weed because it kills their libido and this ruins their relationship.

i don't think it necessarily had a libido-killing effect on me... but i mostly just wanted to sleep. i don't smoke anymore and i haven't for a long time, but i seem to remember a lot of dryness when i did, too.

Or that it makes them too paranoid and insecure to enjoy sex.

it seems to affect people differently (so what i'm going to say is just about me) but i rarely ever smoked enough to get to a paranoid or insecure state. i think it's only happened maybe 2 times (one of which i was watching UP for; man, that storm was intense...). but no; i always felt more comfortable with it, at least at the degree i was smoking. i guess occasionally i would get a little anxious, but it was rarely to any extremes.

i've had sex while drunk, i've had sex after taking ecstasy, i've had sex stoned. none of it was as exciting as totally sober sex to me. even when i was nervous about what i was doing, being able to sense everything as sharply as possible... i don't know. i like it better. i want to take it all in when i'm with someone, so not being under the influence of anything is ideal for me.

sublimemongrel · 2016-09-07T02:45:42+00:00

Not enjoyable for sex. Goofy and paranoid, not horny.

philomexa · 2016-09-07T03:28:45+00:00

I'm a self avowed life long stoner, but I don't care for sex on weed. I become incredibly distracted by how thirsty I am, and then I over think what's happen to the point of taking me out of the moment. Mind alerting substances are like the anti-aphrodisiac, quite frankly I'd rather have sex while sober.

ABCYZ · 2016-09-07T02:44:44+00:00

Isn't that illegal? O.o

Truecelacct · 2016-09-07T16:12:49+00:00

Weed increases my sex drive. It makes me more relaxed and much easier to get in the mood. When I smoke alone I inevitably end up masturbating at least once, even if I don't have the time.

It doesn't make me paranoid because I'm old enough to realize that guys like pretty much anything you do in bed. You're worried about looking fat at that angle? He's loving how big your ass looks at that angle. You think the noises you're making are gross? He's fucking loving it. I don't really have any hang ups about sex, so weed can't amplify the paranoia, if that makes sense.

anitapk · 2016-09-08T08:25:54+00:00

Alcohol and weed used to dry me up like nothing else when I was on the pill.

I'm not anymore and I quit smoking so I can't say, but alcohol is no longer a problem. Crap, even no foreplay is no longer a problem!

ConfusedPill · 2016-09-07T04:34:45+00:00

Weed sex is aight, Meth sex is heaven on earth

Askeiu · 2016-09-07T05:39:02+00:00

Pros: At first, you're super sensitive. Touch feels great.

Cons: After a while you get tired. So fucking tired. And, perhaps just because of overall dehydration, you get dry mouth on both ends, and then the lack of lubrication makes sex start to feel a good deal less pleasant.

Recently I had an arrangement with a guy where I'd go over, we'd both get stoned out of our minds, then we'd fuck for the next 6-8 hours. It was fun at first because I'm not a regular smoker, but eventually I realized I like sex so much more when I'm not high. The initial rush isn't worth the next three hours of being super tired and unable to get properly wet.

EDIT: Booze is where it's at. Instant horny juice.

hakosua · 2016-09-07T06:05:47+00:00

Ah shit -- weed was my go-to! I recall an ex-girlfriend complaining that I needed to be high to touch her (to which I responded, "oh, well, yeah, sorry.") Actually, the last time I smoked weed was with her on her birthday -- I had several joints, coupled with a 40 oz. and a little bump of coke, but it wasn't enough to get me out of my own head.

Unfortunately, now that I'm sober, it's harder to half-assedly enjoy a half-assedly good sexual encounter. I went from sexually very chill to very finicky. On the other hand, being forced to really reflect on what I like has led to some crazy fun adventures. So, yeah, I miss stoned sex but I don't regret my decision. If something seems to be too good to be true -- like if a drug seems to completely cure all sexual inhibitions -- odds are that it is indeed too good to be true.

Edit: For brevity and self-respect. Nobody wants to know every dumb thing we did on the night before I got sober.

lollygagyo · 2016-09-07T06:39:21+00:00

Weed and sex does not work for me at all. I get really...tired? I just want to eat and am all about sleeping and cuddling. Sex feels like way too much energy. And my libido is usually really high and I'm pretty much always good to go.

I don't tend to get insecure about my body or performance with or without weed in the mix.

I love sex on MDMA, coke, speed and ketamine (just a touch, tho -- but tbh, this one is probably my favourite. It even tops MDMA). LSD is hit and miss for me. Half a tab or a tab and I'm likely to be fine and find it amazing, but I remember once an ex and I took 4 tabs together and we were both just like dysfunctional kittens. We couldn't stop laughing or marvelling at the cool patterns on each others' bodies for long enough to get anything properly sexy done.

Weed & coke & ket seem to fuck men up sexually. Ice/meth weirdly enough seems to turn them into fiends that can go forever. Total pornstar experience.

[deleted] · 2016-09-07T08:17:07+00:00

I've smoked weed only a couple of times, it made me feel worse, dunno why. Weed and my OCD didn't match well, only alcohol makes me relax a little.

I didn't notice any change in my libido either.

stone_opera · 2016-09-07T08:38:12+00:00

My husband and I smoke weed regularly. I grew up in a place where weed isn't really stigmatised the way it is in the UK, so I don't really get that paranoia or insecurity.

I definitely think that it makes sex better. I wouldn't describe the effect as "female viagra" though; you still have to be in the mood for sex before you smoke, I think there's just something about weed that makes you feel closer to your partner, and less inhibited.

dragoness_leclerq · 2016-09-07T01:44:32+00:00

Weed makes me feel awkward and self-conscious around other people and kills my libido so no, it's not conducive to fun sexy times.

Seranade · 2016-09-07T03:10:21+00:00

I've finished that big crazy drug phase in my life, but hallucinogens get my vagina buzzin. I get literal tingles down there and it feels good man, so they're my #1 choice. Especially since you can't do anything except talk for the first few hours of the trip, so sex feels so much more intimate after that.

MDMA is fun, but I'd rather do things other than sex. Plus it messes with erections, so it's not fun for him either.

With weed I get the same pleasant "tingles" except it's my whole body vibrating as well, but I never liked smoking and coughing for hours and the smell is awful so I'd rather fuck sober than on weed.

Title	Q4Women: weed and sex
Author	BiggerDthanYou
Upvotes	5
Comments	88
Date	September 7, 2016 1:38 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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