The key to happiness is to stay away from TRP

Archwinger · 2015-09-11T18:55:06+00:00

Desire for sex is inherent in humans, even in the absence of TRP.

This post presupposes that most people are generally happy, until they stumble across some evil internet site that tells them that actually, their relationship is fucked up. They're supposed to be having more sex, lots of blowjobs, and they're supposed to be the dominant leader while their women are slaves! Then they start worrying about this and trying to fix things when they were never broken in the first place. And all this worrying and all this fucking things up by being abusive just makes everyone unhappy. If only they'd never found TRP.

The real story is that most men have a very healthy sex drive, but that sex drive goes unfulfilled for a very large segment of men. Most men have a very, very hard time attracting somebody that they desire to the point where that somebody has sex with them. Especially when that somebody has opportunities to have sex with better and more attractive men instead.

Furthermore, we live in a highly sexualized world. People are having sex left and right. If you're not, then you're not as attractive as the people who are. That doesn't eat at you because you have some kind of addiction or obsession with sex. That eats at you because you have been sidelined. Marginalized as a human being. Dubbed as somebody unworthy.

When you want to have sex, but nobody wants to have sex with you, that's a lot like not being able to find a job, not being able to make friends. It's a constant reaffirmation of your lack of worth.

dreckmal · 2015-09-11T18:59:40+00:00

The key to happiness is to stay away from TRP

Lol, I'm 1.5 years into practicing TRP, and I have never, in my entire life, been as consistently happy as I am now. It also gets progressively better every day.

Thing is, guys come to TRP because of a lack of the sex they want, and the ones who benefit from it, come out thinking along the lines you've just laid down.

Take the pussy off the pedestal, learn how to be happy with yourself, and the world will open up to you.

prodigy2throw · 2015-09-11T18:54:06+00:00

Sex is good

alreadyredschool · 2015-09-11T19:22:11+00:00

Til Stoicism is the ONLY way to happiness.

There is a difference between knowing that external things are only external and shouldn't affect your true happiness and taking pleasure in these things.

You know what, post this over at stoicism without the mention of TRP and lets see what they say. No really, someone who doesn't pursue virtue will be happier with sex and he will be unhappy when he doesn't get it. This doesn't necessarily mean that this person will never find happiness.

or to have it constantly

Yeah, TRP.

Carkudo · 2015-09-11T19:16:17+00:00

Yeah, I will never have sex and will never be loved.

Your point is that I should be okay with that.

Can you actually teach me HOW to be okay with that? And also with being judged constantly for it? And also with having nothing in common with my peers, almost all of whom are now married and busy making families. And also with growing old and dealing with aging all alone. And also with knowing that I'm not just not as good as some others, but that I'm never good enough, for anyone.

No, you can't teach me that? Then your point is absolutely useless to anyone.

And before you use the "get therapy" cop-out - I am in therapy. Therapy does not help with that - both my two previous therapists and my current one admit openly that this particular wound will never stop hurting.

[deleted] · 2015-09-11T19:34:07+00:00

This sounds like some shit that they told me in Catholic school.

SecondSwordofbravos · 2015-09-11T20:23:25+00:00

There is no such thing as sex addiction. Its not defined in the mental health bible: Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders,There is sexually compulsive behaviour, but you equating it to a chemical addiction like that of a heroine junkie is total bullshit.

nomdplume · 2015-09-11T20:35:44+00:00

"Sex drive" and "desire for sex" are two different things. The first is subconscious and the latter is conscious.

You need to expand on this more. It's nonsensical.

I read it as similar to "Being hungry and the desire for food are two different things." To my mind, unless someone has an eating disorder, being hungry is what makes someone desire food.

Desire for sex is when you start worrying that you do not have enough sex.

Wut?

I have no idea how it works for you, but my "desire for sex" arises when I have a sex drive. I get horny, so I therefore desire sex. There is no extrinsic aspect to it. I promise you that, if everyone around me wasn't having sex, I would still desire sex. In fact, that's one of the most common shaming tactics used on me regarding my sex drive - "no one else your age cares about sex like you do - why can't you be more like everyone else? Why do you have to be so complicated? You're not a teenager anymore..."

You start craving for sex. You start contemplating on how to get more sex.

Yes, that's exactly how it works. Just like every other damned instinct that we are programmed to fulfill.

When I am tired, I crave sleep and start contemplating what I need to get done so I can go to bed. When I feel lonely or isolated, I crave getting out in the world and being social, too. It's all reactions to instinctual drives telling us that there is something more important that we need to be doing. How you deal with those drives is one thing, but trying to separate drive from action just seems ludicrous to me.

You start to design intricate plans on how to get more sex.

Sometimes "intricate plans" is required. Like most things in life, having sex doesn't just "happen." It's the result of effort of some kind. No one has sex because they happened to be naked and tripped and fell onto another person and, boom, SEX! You actually had to do something for it to happen.

You start living your life focused on sex.

Well, that tends to happen when our instinctual drives are ignored. Even if you are working to "transcend" your sex drive or something, that action, right there, means you are focused on sex. Living in intentional abstinence involves no less focus on sex than living in an intentional sexual relationship - they are flip sides of the same coin. Ask anyone who has taken a vow of celibacy.

Sex is an indifferent.

The human species would respectfully disagree. You and I are here today, and our species has taken over the world, because sex, for humans, is anything but indifferent.

teeelo · 2015-09-11T22:37:06+00:00

My life has done nothing short of improve drastically since being a Red Pill Man.

I honestly don't know if I could still keep it together this late on my life without the lessons and secrets the free advice has given me.

/r/thanktrp exists for a reason.

[deleted] · 2015-09-11T22:52:45+00:00

Why does this sound like some kind of long con from a low libido women. Is your boyfriend reading this or something??

Edit: You should post this over in /r/deadbedrooms and see how it plays out LOL.

sugarwallsrobinson · 2015-09-11T20:10:19+00:00

Another false equivalence when puritanical asexuals love to equate sex with something destructive like drug addiction. When in reality sex is more kin to the desire to hike or swim or read or build.

wtknight · 2015-09-11T19:51:31+00:00

Life is more about emotional bonds than sex in my opinion. Sex should be an eventual result from some of those bonds. Those who aren't willing to make themselves vulnerable emotionally will never be as happy as those who do.

redmachines · 2015-09-11T20:21:45+00:00

The desire for happiness will always lead to entitlement. Entitlement is what creates assholes and criminals. It doesn't matter whether that source comes from sex, video games or blood.

Xemnas81 · 2015-09-11T22:09:33+00:00

It's not about sex or even relationships it's about status. It is about the fact that, despite being told to internally validate myself, my inherent human value in fact comes from my external attachments ad contributions to reality outside the self. In other words, if I want sex, but can't get it, that's a sign I'm a loser in some or several elements of my life.

blametheboogie · 2015-09-11T22:46:11+00:00

Desire for material goods also weighs down your spirit, I'm going to borrow my friends truck and I'll come to your house to relieve you of your burden.

You're prepared to do without those because you're indifferent about material goods right?

What size shoes do you wear again?

[deleted] · 2015-09-12T10:52:12+00:00

Thank you for that platitude, mr. sexuologist

QQ_L2P · 2015-09-13T03:29:57+00:00

Isn't your consciousness a manifestation of your subconsciousness?

So in essence, a desire for sex is your sex drive being unfulfilled, for whatever reason, to the point you need to make a conscious action to rectify it.

Title	The key to happiness is to stay away from TRP
Author	helpman178
Upvotes	2
Comments	164
Date	September 11, 2015 6:45 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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