Does emotional dread game work on men? Does physical dread game work on women?

TRPACC · 2014-12-01T20:29:25+00:00

Yes. Dread game is a normal part of mainstream female game.

Just google how to make a guy jealous or something similar.

A general rule of thumb is that whatever rp people are saying, women are saying the equivalent in the mainstream.

MsLilith · 2014-12-01T18:46:05+00:00

They both work on both genders.

With my relationship he confides a lot of his life stresses in me and I do my best to build him up and give him perspective when he needs it. (And he does the same for me.) If I stop giving a shit, or stop trying to build him up, he's going to notice and feel slighted or hurt in some way, just like I would if he stopped doing the same for me. We are a team after all, both of us feel that if it gets to the point of emotional games, it's better to end the relationship than disrespect each other's well being.

Same with sex. I have a high sex drive, we fuck as much as possible so if he suddenly "withheld" (or in realistic terms didn't want) sex, I would wonder why, it might bring up some of my insecurities. I had an ex who lost his sex drive completely due to a serious thyroid issue and even knowing it wasn't personal wasn't enough to keep me from getting worn down and insecure from lack of sex. (Because women need sex too, it's fucking biology). If I "withhold" sex its because I'm sick, injured or sad (like that rare crushing sadness, not like it was a rough day) so my guy would be thrown for a fucking loop if I suddenly lost interest in sex which could bring up his insecurities thus dread gaming him.

fiat_lux_ · 2014-12-01T18:56:23+00:00

I think it does. I've read "girl game" material (some of it selling well) and caught myself several times thinking, "Yeah, that would probably work on me and most guys I know if we weren't aware of it." Even if I was aware of it, I'm generally fairly lax about these things. If it isn't too ethically questionable and doesn't seem like it'll be consistent behaviour, I might not care.

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Any deliberated move against someone else's confidence, even minor ones, can technically qualify as dread game. Even bpers will do so, to knock a bragging guy off his pedestal.

E.g. An rper appears to feel a bit too confident about his ability to woo women. A bper chimes in with a long lecture on why that rper is getting ahead of himself and is unlikely to ever find a successful LTR.

IRL, if the bper's efforts worked, then the rper would question his abilities and consider giving up or settling when it comes to his LTR goals.

nopbeentheredonethat · 2014-12-01T12:43:28+00:00

I think you misunderstood the concept of dread in the context of TRP.

Applying dread mean that you are demonstrating to your lover that you could have the possibility to go elsewhere. It can be just very lite hint like : Getting back in shape, buying your own underwear (for a man), hint that some other people shown you interest, innuendo about where you "could" have spend some time with somebody else, etc...

The point your trying to make with "dread" is the following: "If your not fucking me others might be interested!"

M_rafay · 2014-12-01T12:46:37+00:00

Generally no(men would welcome you shutting up), and possibly no.

FollowThisAdvice · 2014-12-01T14:33:16+00:00

Red pillers arent in touch with their own emotions enough to actively want emotional affection so a definite no from that one.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2014-12-01T14:41:44+00:00

Remember that song: If you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it

That's how women do dread game. "I could get another you in a minute - in fact he'll be here in a minute."

PostNationalism · 2014-12-01T12:50:30+00:00

No, men are not emotional glass houses that will get wrecked if they have to survive on their own for a while.

I do think physical dread game can work on woman sometimes. I know a few woman who will manipulate their man by controlling the sex life that as soon as the man decides to cut it off their hamster goes into overdrive thinking NOW there must be a problem in the relationship that they need to work on. They have no idea that maybe the man just wanted to gain some control on his life and happiness.

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hyperrreal · 2014-12-01T14:45:35+00:00

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SquidwardsEuphoria · 2014-12-01T19:30:06+00:00

I believe dread game works on men, not sure about specifically emotional dread game. Most red pillers will insist that it wouldn't work on men at all, but we need to consider the whole "the target gender can't give you good advice at attracting them" thing. I take my advice about men from women, not men. Men's dating advice isn't that good if aimed at women because it's littered with their hopes, dreams and biases. (Same with female advice aimed at men)

That said, I actually think emotional dread game would work better for both men and women, because withholding sex could just be seen as petty, manipulative and silly (so many women do it anyway) whereas withholding emotional support carries more weight. I don't think this should be done often, only in cases where your partner is actively taking you for granted and being totally horrible.

Plus, "dread game" isn't about being a jerk to your partner. It's about showing that there are other people who are interested. Refusing to speak to your husband isn't true dread game, it's just being mean. Actual "dread game" would involve not being able to see him on saturday because you have events you want to go to by yourself, where he knows men will be there. Not that I'd recommend this in anything other than the most dire of circumstances.

GridReXX · 2014-12-02T18:33:08+00:00

Yes. Yes it does.

I'm not the most affectionate gal in the world.

And my first bf (back in the day) totally dumped my ass.

Thanks to him I have improved this part of my GF experience haha.

Our sex life was great. Adventurous. Loving.

But I'm odd. It's easier for me to be affectionate during sex or very vulnerable intimate moments then on a regular basis.

TL;DR - He ended it because he wasn't getting the every day emotional support and affection.

There you have it. Men and women are similar.

Men like to feel emotionally validated too.

StabbyPants · 2014-12-03T08:19:02+00:00

emotional dread has stopped working on me of late. now, it's more like i'm watching TV and the relationship may be over.

Ignatius_Oh_Reilly · 2014-12-03T17:43:17+00:00

Dread game works on anyone who doesn't realize if you're with someone only because you don't want to be alone, you already are.

Dr_Wally · 2014-12-03T19:24:19+00:00

TRP advocates withholding emotional support and affection if you feel you're not > getting enough sex out of your relationship.

No it doesn't. It advocates treating said individual, with the respect they deserve or else they will find someone that will.

exit_sandman · 2014-12-01T15:36:47+00:00

Emotional dread game (hard as well as soft) works perfectly fine on men who already are the weaker party in a relationship, and probably isn't even necessary in the first place, unless you want to be right on all accounts on purpose and at all times. A man who is confident in him and his position in the relationship probably won't pull up with that treatment. However, there's some middle ground to be covered.

Inversely, sexual dread game against women only works if she's horny but into you to such a degree that she won't leave you or cheat on you; but at the same time such a shrew or so stubborn that she necessitates withholding sex as a punitive measure (though I can see that a woman with a reasonably healthy sex drive can be kinda turned on by you refusing her sex, if only because she's used to having a pussy equals making the rules and considers is an interesting change if this doesn't apply in a guy).

Title	Does emotional dread game work on men? Does physical dread game work on women?
Author	TomHicks
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Date	December 1, 2014 11:40 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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