Why would a woman like this not lie about her past?

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-10-10T15:29:47+00:00

why lie or tell, it almost never comes up.

SmurfESmurferson · 2019-10-10T15:10:36+00:00

She should self select for men who don’t care

That said, her problem isn’t her past or her N count. Plenty of party girls lock down a LTR when they grow sick of the scene. Her problem is that she’s clearly repellent to men for a relationship, for some unspecified reason - until she figures out why that is and addresses it, her situation won’t change

CamoWoobie1000000 · 2019-10-10T16:40:58+00:00

Why would anyone not be an ultra sociopath that does whatever is in their best interest even if it might hurt or decieve others?

That is the core question.

we-are-men-with-ven · 2019-10-10T16:25:50+00:00

She started when she was 14. That's really sad :(

iLLprincipLeS · 2019-10-10T15:04:14+00:00

RPW is for men to groom naive women and has plenty of male replies which works in the man's best interest.

Aaren_Augustine · 2019-10-10T15:09:52+00:00

The problem is, assuming this crazy shit is true, such a woman isn't really going to rise much further here. She's a career sausage smoker, bouncing from job to job that suddenly, this late in the game wants to be the CFO.

She don't have the skills. Didn't spend some time cultivating them and in many instances went in the opposite direction. The skills she does have she'll restrict because "she's just not that way anymore" and obviously isn't self aware enough to understand how clearly she fucked up her chances

So, yeah, she should straight up void that part of her life and never bring it up. Its not something she can change.

wtknight · 2019-10-10T15:40:02+00:00

I think that she should lie if the guy she’s interested in is a former manslut himself, because she’s the kind of woman a guy like that should be settling down with, not some wholesome, low-N woman. She should tell the truth to low-N men though, because I don’t think a low N man would be compatible with her and he deserves to know the truth about her.

abaxeron · 2019-10-10T15:46:59+00:00

but how does that make sense for her when she knows it will make men distrust her?

Lying will make them distrust her even more. Statistically; obvs there's some chance that they'll never find out.

Barely-moral · 2019-10-10T16:40:14+00:00

If you care about your partner then you want them to make an informed decision when they choose to be with you. Hiding your past would make them unable to make an informed decision.

That is it.

Orange_Paisley · 2019-10-10T18:22:13+00:00

I know former cam girls and strippers who are in happy marriages, settled down with kids and nice houses and the white picket fence. I don't write down a list of my flaws and hand it to potential partners, but I would rather be frank and have a partner who loves me, all of me, than one for whom I have to pretend to be Pollyanna all the time.

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PickUpScientist · 2019-10-10T15:33:23+00:00

so that she could screen for a partner that doesn't mind the high dead bedroom risk, or maybe even find a guy with comparable experience. sure, she could lure some poor sucker in easier by lying or omitting it, but that's pretty fucked up. dead bedroom is a nightmare scenario for most guys. that sub is mostly about non fucked up relationship strategies.

goatismycopilot · 2019-10-10T15:12:57+00:00

This is really badly written and either it is a story by a 12 year old boy or they are totally lying about something.

cassandrarose39 · 2019-10-10T15:05:57+00:00

Many people don't even discuss their sex history with their partners anyway.

Depends. When all you want is a fling, who gives a shit? If it's for a ltr tho, it's a whole other story.

nevomintoarce · 2019-10-10T16:18:53+00:00

Her problem is that she's not willing to walk the talk i.e be a woman who can take care of herself financially and mentally. She's looking for a man to make her into a kept wifey type woman and pretend that she doesn't have a past and she's a "good woman" instead of partnering with a man who accepts her.

[deleted] · 2019-10-10T16:32:00+00:00

Well.. sometimes life sucks.

You know... some women are only not homeless because they either exchange a place for sex or pretend to like a guy, sleeping with him and pretend to be GF only to dump him once she's back on her feet. It's not fair to the guy BUT... I can understand that women do this to avoid landing on the streets. I still don't think it's ok I think there are better sexless arrangements you can make but I can understand it. I would have offered my spare room for a friend in need but sometimes you have nobody.

I'd appreciate her honesty. It's not like a virgin woman is worth more than one with a high N-count.

Grek27 · 2019-10-10T16:53:58+00:00

Truth rarely stays hidden forever, if I found out I'd drop her immediately.

AngelFire_3_14156 · 2019-10-10T16:54:12+00:00

There was plenty of good advice given on that post.

Did anyone read any of it?

[deleted] · 2019-10-10T17:37:08+00:00

Presumably she would be better off being transparent and finding a man who accepts her past, since that's a thing many men do (accept such pasts) for some reason. Seems better than living a lie...like TRP is about short term churning through people, but here she wants one single person for the long term. since such men are available might as well choose a man who doesn't have a problem with her past, or even one for whom it is a positive...there are men like that too, for some reason.

Ofourkind · 2019-10-10T18:51:10+00:00

Kinda pointless to lie about something nobody cares enough to ask about

HWGA_Gallifrey · 2019-10-10T19:49:28+00:00

This is major baggage and a huge red flag for any potential suitors. She made poor life choices and is fearful of the consequences. The reality is that party life style has taken its toll and now she wants some idiot to bankroll her life. She wasted her youth and now wants to play housewife.

Personally, I love watching the mask slip on women like this. Like when a porn video of her getting drilled in college gets sent to the husband after she said she was a virgin, or he finds out she just won't give him blowjobs, or the guy finds out right before the wedding he's lucky number 351 in her journal.

md8716 · 2019-10-11T06:13:34+00:00

Sure, you can lie about your n-count, but any man with a brain can do a little bit of critical thinking and figure out a ballpark without without needing to actually ask for the number.

azngirl7689 · 2019-10-11T12:25:11+00:00

This change isn’t going to last. It’s too 180. Red flag 1.

She literally traded sex for favors. Red flag 2.

Idk man it’s a Chinese red flag parade.

MuleFool42 · 2019-10-11T19:22:41+00:00

She needs a man that doesn't care about her past. The best way for her to find that man is to be honest. It's a great filter because it weeds people out quickly.

For some men, a low n number in their partners is important. There does seem to be something from a evolutionary standpoint that is strong enough to push some guys for that preference. Yes, some are insecure, but a lot aren't, it has more to do with fidelity and spending time, energy, resources, on kids he knows are his. Also, higher numbers of n count in women is showing in the data to correlate more with divorce, since 2000.

So she needs to find the right guy. She has time though. She just needs a guy to understand and accept her, and that part of her is her past.

I really don't think she'll have that much of a problem. There are plenty of understanding people out there.

jx_young · 2019-10-10T16:02:21+00:00

why do women keep asking this? do they not value honestly in relationships at all anymore? are they just too stupid to understand why lies abotu their character might damage their relationship?

like damn you dont gotta be a genius to comprehend why men dont want lies about who their potential lifelong partner really is

Kos_-_Omak · 2019-10-10T22:30:36+00:00

I mean yeah, most men don't want to marry worn out sluts.

But any guy who has experience with women is going to figure out that she's is a turboslut. That kind of history is way beyond the normal shit like saying her n-count is 5 when it's really closer to 20. This chick is basically hooker tier slutty.

And even if she is able to convince some beta dupe that she is an innocent good girl, eventually something is gonna happen and clue him in and he won't be happy.

Honestly she should probably just find some swinger dude or some other kind of degenerate weirdo who fetishizes sluts.

cassandrarose39 · 2019-10-10T15:09:40+00:00

The problem with lying about a past like this is sometimes people from that past will go way out of their way to ruin a person like this if she happens to get out. It’s not just her but anyone with a questionable past is going to bring out people who will out someone. Some people are just rotten inside and don’t want to see others succeed.

The best way to beat them to the punch in dating is to find a way to say it first. Or some of it first.

It’s definitely not a good strategy to start out the first date with all this lady has.

I believe an underdog like this can still beat the odds and find love. She still needs solid advice which is what she got from that thread

Title	Why would a woman like this not lie about her past?
Author	GlaceMarill
Upvotes	4
Comments	156
Date	October 10, 2019 2:58 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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