So I have posted here before and really tried to change my view on masculinity, dating and women, but it seems absolutely impossible since I don't make any experiences that don't fit these beliefs.
When it comes to masculinity and how men are supposed to look: There is only one body type women like and it is so obvious. Men need to be pure muscle, have beards and need to have perfect skin. Since I don't have any of these characteristics and will never obtain them, I am forever unattractive and will never get any woman.
Also, as a man you need to be extremely confident or even better arrogant. Never show any weakness or else you will eliminate all your chances immediately. All men I know that are good with women and that aren't used as beta bux are like that, because women are naturally attracted to only these men.
I wish all of that wasn't true but I don't see anything different in this world and all experiences I have made with women have been proof that incel and redpill worldviews are 100% correct. How am I supposed to change that when it's so true? I can't continue living all my life in loneliness because I lost the genetic lottery and I'm honestly about to kill myself before this year ends, there is just no hope.
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Hnng, I love this comment so hard.
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While I want to give you sympathy, we can only give you so much when it comes to close-minded thinking like this. You know this isn't true, but thinking helps feed that victim 'woe is me' mentality. I'm a woman and as long as you're not morbidly obese, I find myself looking beyond a man's looks if his head and heart (and self-care/nutrition) are in the right place. Not all women are narcissistic cunts.
Okay. Believe what you want, but damn. Muscles come with working out every day. Start there. Muscles aren't some magical unicorn only hot people get. Get 2 gallon jugs of water and use those as weights if you're broke. No excuses to wallow in self-pity.
Have you actually talked to more than a few women? Are you in high school? This isn't true.
Please please please seek out therapy before doing anything. Google "cognitive distortions" and work on those. Your mental thinking is 'stuck' and it can be helped, but there's work involved. Get out of self-pity mode and work on bettering yourself for you. You will see a difference, I promise.
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You mean subconscious and conscious behaviours? Literally how every human is, not just women. Do you think women are the only ones that function this way? Every human has their conscious behaviors and then the subconscious ones we're driven by (past hurts, shameful desires, etc). Human behaviour 101. This isn't just women. This is why it's important to learn how to become self-aware through education or... therapy. Not everyone is born 'woke'.
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Who is "us"?
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No, and if that's what you got out of that, you're in need of more help than this support group can offer.
Other people have already told you many times, based on your account history, that you're distorted thinking processes (officially called "cognitive distortions" and fallacies) are what's causing your issues. You're under the belief that you're right, no matter how much statistics and education is thrown your way. Nobody can help you unless you want it and it doesn't seem like you want it.
Edit: I'm actually surprised that you're in school to be a lawyer. Lawyers, by design, need to be able to see nuances in human behaviour. You cannot be an effective lawyer and "hate women" as you say. You would never believe an innocent one and can't reasonably defend her.
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Sounds like redpill promotes stupid black/white think persona of men, which is rather toxic.
I don’t have the solutions, but can say with certainty that plenty of men without muscle, beards and aren’t the most masculine/dominant can find women.
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Yeah, it's a cult with cognitive distortions galore and teaches distortions to other people. You can slap these people with statistics all day long and nothing will change. They're just 'flat earthers' of that genre.
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I have alot of trouble understanding the redpill allure. Like I've always been an introvert, awkward, no friends, had a hard time dating, etc., But nothing in my life experience, science, or anything has ever come remotely close to aligning with the claims made on trp. Plus it was started by a politician. I don't trust politicians any further than I can throw them.
The whole thing screams "religion" to me. It's dogmatic, rigid, and seems to stifle the people who get involved. What is beneficial about something that tells you that being you is the problem? You shouldn't have to change who you are to be successful or happy. And you honestly don't. Trp is predatory... It catches you at your lowest and most vulnerable in order to infect you so you can spread the disease to others. You need to be questioning everything... If the redpill was so great, would you be talking about suicide right now? Do all married men have beards and ridiculous muscles? Are all women married to men who make more money than they do?
The answers to these questions alone should be enough to make most people realize that trp is bullshit. It's the mlm of internet philosophies. Alot of these guys are the equivalent of huns, peddling a product via cult marketing, in attempt to pull more guys in to continue the cycle. They talk about how great it is and what its done to improve their lives, when in reality, most of them are even more miserable than they were before they found it, but they don't want to admit they were taken for a ride. So they'll gladly sit at their computers, peddling their magic pill for all life's problems (this alone should be a red flag... There is no magic pill or one size fits all philosophy that explains how the world works), while their lives are falling apart around them because they've alienated themselves from everyone around them in favor of an existence that is skin deep, superficial, and is focused entirely on further entrenching you in a life of loneliness and the shallow pursuit of encounters that are almost exclusively with the types of women trp seems to collectively hate. Trp traps you in a cycle of negative experiences that reinforce their views in order to stay relevant, because certain people depend on it for their livelihoods (authors, bloggers, YouTubers, etc).
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> This is untrue
This is a lie and you're not helping him. Women despise weakness. They tend to be okay with vulnerability to a certain degree but it has to be a pretty specific situation (a woman that is already really into you, and the vulnerability is limited to something challenging that is not as a true weakness). This is my experience with nearly all women and I have a TON of experience
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