This message is probably for the older guys here or guys who already have kids. I'm in my 30s. From a physical and material standpoint I have everything a guy needs. Multiple plates, multiple homes, multiple businesses, I'm ripped as hell, etc. Yet, I'm at a crossroad in my life. I am approaching 40 in a couple years. I never had any kids. I just don't want to get myself into a family and dread my life but at the same time, I would love to leave a legacy and pass on my genes. I just dont want to knock up the wrong chick and risk my own well being. If I were to have a child, I want to give them every advantage I can. I want them to be good looking, smart, and be educated in upper class fashion (private schools and tutors) so that this upbringing can increase their probability of success (network with rich kids, privy to privilege and information reserved for the rich)p. I've even considered surrogates and buying eggs as from a financial standpoint it is safer. Nonetheless I will still need someone to help me raise them.
Alternatively, I could say fuck it and just enjoy my life because scenario 1 seems like a lot of fucking work not to mention what if the kids turn out to be duds who just leach off me?
I would also love to hear from guys who do not have kids and older and what life is like. Most of the older friends I have, have had kids. They just happen to be affluent and divorced their wives and do whatever the fuck they want. I never worry about that. However, they still have a kid.
It is more I realize women, she is never yours, just your turn, I dont want to invest so much into a "wife" just to have it blow up in my face because they had a change of heart. I've been married before and I've been in LTRs. Women can be a pain in the fucking ass. May be being raised in a traditional Chinese background my mind has been conditioned to pass on the family name? Red pill has helped me say fuck that to tradition but that part of me still exists.
Some advice would be appreciated.
Tldr: not sure if I should have a kid or not