I’ve seen a lot of uninformed ideas and opinions on Mindfulness and Eastern spirituality and philosophy on Red Pill. Some people discarding Mindful practice as simply ‘staring at a wall and breathing’. Others asserting Mindfulness is ‘passive acceptance’, so not ‘Alpha bro’.
I thought I would take the chance to retort some of the misunderstanding and how effective a Mindful view can help a man trying to swallow the pill.
Mindfulness, in essence, is a way of cultivating a skilled, intentional expansive way to interact with yourself and the world. It is ‘paying attention, on purpose, to the present moment, without judgement’.
One of the key principles is ‘radical acceptance’.
To change anything, we must first accept everything.
A key tenant in Buddhist philosophy is that suffering is caused by a man’s inability to accept the present moment, in it’s totality. Instead, to fight against it, to wish it were somehow ‘different’. To resist and deny. It isn’t the present reality which creates suffering, but his relationship to the present moment.
He must first learn to accept the reality of everything, before he can make conscious, skillful choice and action.
Most people resist their circumstances. They spend their time complaining, in victim, resentful, discomfort because things are not how they want them to be.
Buddhism also distinguished between pain and suffering. Pain is inevitable. Pain is a human emotion. Things in this life will cause us pain. Suffering is caused by resistance. The longer we live in resistance, wishing things were just different, we suffer.
In resistance, we do not move. We are in conflict with the now. We are passively wishing, hoping, begging, praying that things were just different. It allows no skillful action, no conscious response. We reject the now.
To first change anything, we must first accept everything. This does NOT mean passive acceptance. More on that soon.
Blackpillers, anger phase men, incels, most MGTOW’s, all live in resistance to the way things are. They are so caught in bitching, complaining, whining, crying and playing victim.
Does anything change? Do they get anywhere? No.
The truth of reality, the present and the now remains the same. But their resistance causes them to not move. Their lack of acceptance causes suffering. It’s NOT the truth of the present which causes their suffering. It is THEIR lack of acceptance.
Again, we cannot change anything, until we accept everything.
Imagine a man is on the side of a river. He must cross the river in order to find his way home. The River has a heavy current, is deep, there are rocks and it’s freezing cold. He can choose to resist the present moment. He can drop in despair, wishing their was a bridge, cursing the universe and all the while resisting crossing the river. No action allowed. Knelt in a ball of suffering.
Or, he can radically accept the present, because IT IS ALL THERE IS. The PRESENT, right now, cannot change. It is painful, almost defeating, difficult and frightening. But he accepts it. He allows it. He says ‘ok, this is exactly what it is’. He is now free to move with it. He can consciously enter the river. He can carefully move from rock to rock, swimming when he needs, choosing the rocks large enough to rest on, and when the distance is short enough to give every last effort to swim to the other side.
He makes it. As horrible, scary, and difficult as it was. He is on the other side, and can begin walking home.
Only by first accepting everything, can he now achieve change.
Mindfulness does not endorse passive acceptance. It does not endorse avoiding life. It is actually a way to engage more fully with the total experience of life. It is a way of accepting and moving skillfully though life’s trials and storms.
If you want to get to the other side, you must first accept the river is dangerous, deep and cold. That is HOW IT IS. That is the PRESENT MOMENT. The present moment can NEVER be changed, because it is ALREADY HERE. Only by radically accepting it, can you begin to work with it.
If you bitch, complain, wish it were different, cry about the present, you will never be one with it. If you remain passive in anyway, you will never use the present. You will never choose the most appropriate, conscious, deliberate, effective course of action.
Becoming RedPill IS radical acceptance. It is seeing the present moment in it’s entire truth. Women are not saints, they have options, they want men of value. Becoming a man of value is difficult. Where you might be in the beginning is NOT optimal. Out of shape, no purpose, no great value.
You can resist the truth. You can wish it were different. Does it lead anywhere? No. It leads to inceldom, MGTOW, and forever angry. It leads to constantly filling the board with female hate, posting the next ‘muh, ain’t women bad’ news post, pushing black-pill shit. All just ways guys lash out at the PRESENT MOMENT. They lash out at the way things JUST ARE.
RedPill men first must radically accept everything. The truth of the SMP. The truth of women. The truth of men. The truth of where they are at RIGHT NOW, IN THE PRESENT.
Only then, can you begin to move forward. Only then, can you make conscious, deliberate choices.
Mindfulness is being aware of how we relate to the WAY THINGS ARE. How we relate to the present. Do we resist it? Or do we radically accept it, and so free ourselves to take action?
A component of Mindful Meditation, is cultivating our awareness of how we respond to the present. Becoming more and more aware of when we resist, and when we radically accept. Even in the ‘small’ moments. Do we not want to approach that girl, because ‘if only she gave me more IOI’s, or we just bumped into each other, or I knew the perfect line or wasn’t nervous’? All resistance of the present. You don’t know her. You have never spoken. She might reject you. You might forget something. It might be uncomfortable. It will be cold approach. Radically accept that shit, so you can take measured action. STOP hoping it was different. The present moment can NEVER be different to what it is.
Mindfulness aims to help people navigate and respond to the world’s (Red Pill) truths, in a way that allows accepting, conscious, considered action to move forward and get to the other side of the river.
It can also help us change our entire response to whatever is HAPPENING RIGHT NOW, in it’s totality. We can see life’s struggles, circumstances and realities as challenges, opportunities, and possibilities, and not unfair shit that is ‘happening TOO us’. Acceptance is the first step to freeing ourselves to do something.
Radical acceptance. To change anything, you must first accept everything. What you resist, will persist.
What are you resisting, or just wishing would be magically different, which stops you from taking action?