Since my last post, I've been keeping my head low, avoiding conflict with the wife but things have gotten considerably worse.
A brief tl;dr; review of my situation. I'm immigrant in the US, Wife is US citizen. We have a kid ~5yro. Wife is verbally and now physically abusive.
This posts tldr; wife hit me with my laptop lid, ended up getting stitches above the eye. She also first added our current address on her license / ID and the next week went back to dmv and asked them to change the address back to her parents house; hid it from me while also living with me during the same 6,7 months period (in a bid to make it appear that we don't live together when i eventually file for citizenship - I have other documentation to show we've been living with our kid at this current address but this one just boggles my mind as it's just being petty)
Main post: since my last post I've been avoiding arguments/conflicts and simply leave the house if she's looking to pickup an argument/fight. Last saturday, she sent our daughter out with her parents for a trip outside the city. I asked her to refuse the parents as I wanted to spend time with the kid as it was my day off. The kid starts crying that she wants to go (she spent the prior 3 days at the grandparents house and was back home just the prior night); so I said NO. The wife puts the clothes on her and tell her she's going even though I said NO and when I mentioned that I wanted to spend time with the kid as I'm busy during weekdays. I have no issue with the grandparents hanging out with them both.
She sends the kid out and I'm just upset and fuming. Undermining like this in front of the kids has happened before where I put my foot down but the wife will ignore that and do as she wants.
Anyway, with the kid gone, wife wants to spend time together but this is a boundary (undermining me in front of kids) that I don't want to tolerate. I just left the house and spent time out till the evening.
The evening and the next day wife wants pretends like nothing happened and comes asks why i'm still upset and to let it go. I explain that she needs to stop undermining me in front of the kids. I am working so I tell her I can't talk and she needs to give me space. This usually for some reason makes her mad. The first two times she tries to push the laptop away from lap, hit its lid to close it, basically getting physical. I tell her leave and lock the door of my home office. She comes back in, banging on the door for a while. I'm trying to focus on work but can't so I open the door, she comes in and hits me in the chest twice with her fists.
I come to my bed and tell her I'm working and she needs to leave but she doesn't. As I'm sitting on the bed working on the laptop, she starts her usual tirade of how she has to put up with a 'piece' like me (talking about my looks or personality whatever) and blah blah. I get pulled into her frame and say something mean as a comeback (my fault, i should've stfu), She goes crazy and punches the laptop. Its a friggin aluminum laptop with sharp edges, the top/front of the lid hits my near my forehead and i'm basically seeing stars. Trying to process wth just happened. She leaves the room and I notice I've blood flowing down on my nose. I check in the front camera on the phone and there is quite some blood flowing. Later on I notice its a big fucking cut and I ended up getting 3 stitches for it 2,3 hours later at the urgent care.
I leave the house but with my bloodied face, I cannot leave our general area and not go on the main street looking like that. At that point I'm just standing there, in the fucking cold, (forgot to pickup my jacket as I rushed out) and contemplating if I should end it and report it. Googling on my phone what'll happen with the kid if I report. I see scary stories as to how child services take the kid away and put them in the system in such situations. I change my mind instead of reporting. After about 20 minutes freezing in the cold, shivering and bleeding, I come back up and tell the wife she should thank the kid as thats the only reason she isn't in a patrol car right now.
anyway, she claims how its an accident (yea you were punching me minutes before that and threw the laptop / punched the lid a few times before the last hit took the laptop to my face). I'm super depressed the next 2,3 days thinking how I ended up in such a situation.
fast forward a few days and with her constant nagging trying to make things ok, I try to let go.
It's been a week and today we went outside for dinner.
She had to took her Driving license out for some reason and I noticed it had her dad's address on it. I asked her whats up with that (as I made her update her address to our new place about 7 months ago) and she says oh its the old card, the new one is at home or something. (this kinda stayed wtih me as she was hesitant to update her address but because I'm an immigrant and will be applying for citizenship soon, I realized it'll be a problem because her friggin state ID says she lives with her dad when she's been living with me for the past ~3 years.
Back 7 months I sent her to update her address on the license and she went begrudingly. We had an argument a few days later after that and she threatend she'll go back and change her address (pointing that it'll create an issue whenever I apply for citizenship). anyway I thought that was just a meaningless line she said.
But when I saw her card today and noticed it was issue AFTER the NEW card she got when I asked her to update her address to where we live, I noticed something was off. I matched the temporarily slip for her license/ID from 7 months ago and yes, she actually went back a week or so after to again chagne her address to her dad's home (meahwhile living with me as usual).
This is super petty and I cannot beleive I've been living with someone so petty. The citizenship isnt the problem as I can apply as a solo person in 2 years, rather than as a married person in 6 months but the thought process of hers. (she has threatened to not sign my citizenship paper work in the past over smaller arguments and thinks its some weapon). I confronted her just now and at first she acted like not knowing anything and said she never changed the address on the card but when I showed her the dates from the 7 months old temporarily slip from DMV and the date on her new card (pointing to her dad's address), she said I pushed her and that she doesn't trust me and that I'll leave her blah blah (we have been married for over 5 years) but every fight, her only line is how she brought me to the country and how she wont sign my paperwork if I don't do x and y. e.g. a few weeks ago she has been pusing for a kid but I'm not financially in a position to bring a new life into the house and she said she wont sign the paperwork unless I have another kid wth)
I'm at cross raods. On one hand I dont want to live with a physically and verbally abusive person and on the other hand I don't want to leave our kid as the collateral damage if I leave the wife. :(
What should I do?