When we have thoughts of confidence we tend to naturally exude confidence. Rather than having thoughts of “stand up straight, shoulders back, look straight ahead” if we have thoughts such as “all women love me” (even if that thought is questionable) we tend to reach the desired result more efficiently and naturally.

When we have these thoughts we are inspired to take action and override self doubt. If we see a hot woman, some may think “she is so hot, is she too good for me?”. Men that think “all women love me” will be more likely to approach her an act in an attractive way. It is a self fulfilling prophecy.

Now, you must have a level of confidence to believe these thoughts, otherwise they are just noise. If you’re not naturally confident, that’s where “fake it till you make it” comes in. If you don’t initially believe these thoughts you need to tell yourself these thoughts and take the action that such a thought would trigger until it becomes natural and you believe it. Reinforcing the loop.

When you are feeling shitty about yourself, these thoughts probably don’t arise naturally. That’s where conscious control comes in. Force these thoughts in your mind and you will feel change.

As they say, change starts from within, and your thoughts control so much of your life. You need to consciously feed confident thoughts and believe them and take action to create change.