Got such a huge fucking dose of the Red pill this week.

kyledontcare · 2017-06-08T04:17:57+00:00

My sympathies to you in your pain and break up. Like you said you got a massive lesson and reminder about women. The best thing I could tell you is that the next guy may well be the one paying the bills and changing the diapers. Rejoice because it is not you doing it. Countless men didn't learn until they were divorce raped and bankrupted and living in their car on instant noodles and peanut butter by the spoonful. Literally thank God that's not you. Now go be awesome and live life the way you want.

bingobongo991 · 2017-06-08T04:04:15+00:00

Yep. It only took my first two girlfriends to break me down. First one when I was 16/17 lied to me nonstop and cheated on me. Second one lied from the beginning about everything. I haven't had one since, so like 7 years? Fuck all that shit man. Get a hobby or multiple hobbies and do whatever the fuck you want

romofrolo · 2017-06-08T04:18:44+00:00

Pull back men. Control your thirst.

Not sure about the glass ceiling, but there is glass floor.

MGTOW thump. Glass crack. Exit building.

OP. You are a lucky guy. You are holding on to a treasure, you don't know it yet.

You will make gains as what mgtow and red pill knowledge say is 100% true.

Take the pill and see for yourself.

She will come back knocking on the door one day. They ALWAYS do.

The journey starts for you as it did for me and many others before you.

Work on yourself. In few years she won't even exist as a bad memory. You will find it all amusing one day, if you do what's right.

Go. Your. Own. Way.

ZergSuperHighway · 2017-06-08T05:00:25+00:00

This story is very similar to mine in a lot of ways except I was in her position in a way.

See my mother (only 59 I'm 27) took her life last summer, and my ex (35), instead of showing loyalty and a backbone broke up with me less than 2 months later. Because I wasn't showering her with attention 24/7 and grew apathetic as I came to grips with never being able to see my mother again I wasn't my ex's personal entertainer anymore. She had no idea with how to handle the relationship or be alone with herself while I would meditate or just quietly do stuff by myself. At first it started with hanging out with her emotional tampon. Then it progressed into fucking other guys again (which was no surprise because she cheated on me flagrantly and constantly). Finally she decided to move to Texas with a 45 year old programmer who she doesn't even fuck but strokes his ego and emotions so hard he puts her up and pays for everything (aka Beta bux). Finally she settled back in with her "genius" "avant garde" ex-lover who gives her lots of drugs and sold his food truck business to travel all over the world with her on his dime attending all the drug-infested hippy festivals for "conscious" and "awake" people. The best part is the entire end of our relationship was my fault. All of the friends I made through her had a giant slander campaign going against me because I was a weak piece of shit entitled rich boy who abused and neglected the perfect rare flower my ex is claimed to be. I was told to get over my mother's suicide a week later. And to get my head outta my ass and take care of business. I was told to man up and stop being a pussy.

I've never wanted to physically hurt someone in my life as much as I do today.

When she moved to Texas literally the next day she called to tell me she was fucking other people and moved on because "she's a girl that moves fast" and that I didn't "get" her. Literally one day and treated me like I was a stranger that she despised. After a year of living together and sharing the most intimacy I've ever had. She was the NAWALT unicorn I thought as I was semi-red pilled at the time from my own experiences. She duped me hard. We were gonna get married and move to Vietnam together.

The pain she caused me in how she coldly cast me out of her life like a stranger changed me for the rest of my life. It was greater pain than losing my mother from her abrupt death and greater pain than my 27 years of being abused by my severely alcoholic father. I gained 75 pounds in a year because I literally laid on the couch and ate and drank alcohol and played video games 72 hours at a time because I was so destroyed. I woke up every day at 4 in the afternoon and would ponder for another hour if that day was the day I'd either shoot myself right out or go suicide by cop in a violent conclusion.

I will never be able to trust or respect a woman as I did for the rest of my life. I'm doing better. And on the track to getting healthy again (I was 6 months away from my life-long goal of my pro-MMA debut before I met my ex). She ruined all of that. But not forever.

At the very least I learned a great deal about female nature and the red-pill and this forum saved my life literally. I now see women in a completely different light and will never let my guard down again.

When I finally climb out of this abyss I will be made of fucking adamantium. I have no doubt that if I can succeed in getting to my goal of professional MMA I will severely crush my opponents because my resolve will be so strong. And on the road to success I will never deviate for pussy not even once. Not even a quick NSA lay. All I care about anymore is being #1. And getting attention from females through my sport is no longer even a consideration. All I care about is perfecting my craft and being the best I can be for myself. I'm just so unbelievably fucking angry deep down inside.

ZergSuperHighway · 2017-06-08T04:29:53+00:00

This pain is what will give rise to indifference to women, society and their male disposable agenda to meet feminine imperative (alpha fucks, beta bucks).

Familiarize yourself with this suffocating feeling. It will come and go in waves.

Read the book 'The Manipulated Man', by Estar Villar. Its about 70 pages.

Remember brother - you did nothing wrong. Your biology and social conditioning were designed to meet the bitch's reproductive strategy.

The next guy is no different.

Don't escape the pain. Live it. Find social support here and among friends and family.

She was just a woman. And AWALT.

andreas-mgtow · 2017-06-08T06:51:34+00:00

I only have two pieces of advice for you, brother:

Let your anger flow until it fades on its own
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Paladin2903 · 2017-06-08T04:48:23+00:00

Sorry you had to go through that, and welcome to modern women. Ain't they grand?

They're entitled, narcissistic, manipulative, selfish, and couldn't give two shits about any guy.

They can get what they want, when they want. Oh, and they have all the laws, courts, and society on their side.

Whatever guy she's with is just the flavor of the day. They just have far too many options. They get more attention in one day than they used to get in a year.

letsriseup · 2017-06-08T04:35:00+00:00

Good. Good. Let the hate burn.

This was your first major dose of reality. It's a bitter pill to swallow at first.

But I remember taking that chit and kept ingesting pill after pill until I got a clear picture of gender dynamics.

Now I am immune to erratic female behavior.

I truly do not give a chit about cheating, jealousy, etc. because I don't emotionally invest in any girl and simply focus on personal goals. They come and go..it doesn't affect my path.

This experience can make you stronger. Don't take the simp way out and try to make feels work again. Go forward and don't look back. That's what I did and I've enjoyed more women and leveled up in life more than I ever could had I been stuck like a blue pill simp on some girl.

ghost_Rogue · 2017-06-08T07:25:40+00:00

I'm sorry this happened to you but you are in the right place on this forum. Don't give up. You WILL get through this. And it will make you a better and stronger person.

You can't control anyone else's actions, but you can control your own reaction to them. Realizing it's not your fault might make it easier to let it go.

Out of personal experience the only thing I would say is try not to waste too much time being angry, depressed etc. She already proved she is not worth any minute more of your time.

And don't try to fill the void with other women. Use this time to focus on you. Your own desires, goals, hobbies and passion. In a few weeks or months you will feel a lot better, and while it will always be a mental scar, you will learn from it. Transmute the negative energy she created into something positive for your life.

HammStar · 2017-06-08T08:25:54+00:00

You should be extremely proud of yourself for sticking with your instincts by not caving in and trapping yourself with children. You already conquered a hurtle some men never jump, and think of how much worse it would have made you feel if she took your child away from you and they were being raised by that guy too. I hate to say it, but after becoming sexually active, no woman goes three years without sex. She was probably screwing around or cheating on you. Maybe even with that guy, which is why it is so easy for her to move on. Also you shouldn't be jealous, but more sympathetic, of that guy because shes using him as the emotional tampon just the same.

Now you have the wisdom and the experience to know for sure what it's like to be on both sides of the fence. You have an unbiased and objective view of the game they run and what it can do to you after investing so much time trying to believe it wasn't true. I've been in your shoes a few times before I learned my lessons, and I know words won't help the hurt, but your better now. Relationships that long are meant to end, and at least take solace in knowing she won't get an atom of the good man you are anymore, and that her nagging problems are on someone else's shoulders now.

romofrolo · 2017-06-08T10:15:24+00:00

Didn't believe branch swinging was truly real until I experienced it myself.

The way society is, a man will not even believe certain things until he not only sees it happen to him, but has someone explain wtf just happened.

Learn from this. Become better. So long as you do that you are good. Remember, you could be paying child support and alimony.

ninja_prease · 2017-06-08T11:11:23+00:00

I was with a cop for four years and she did this shit to me. It just intensified my alcoholism. I now have 4 years sober and girls I never dreamt of do notice and pay attention to me now, but I'm mgtow. Now I get to look back and when my friends say, "didn't you used to be with a cop?", I can say with a straight face, "I was with her a hundred pounds ago" ....and a lot of beers ago. She's bigger than the titanic. I'm sober. I'm at peace brother. I say this to all my brothers and I have since I was a little kid. I love you bro, and all you guys for that matter. We all are good guys with huge hearts, and that's obviously not what women want.

801735 · 2017-06-08T04:14:45+00:00

There was this story about (and by) a chick not so long ago (later his side also iirc or vice versa)... iirc they met, they thrived then some issues iirc, marriage, move in yada yada, counseling, she loves him now again, kinda, bla bla Maria can suddenly see now again, she's not blind anymore, a while later she's going out a little bit with her best growlfriends, everything is ok now, her mobile phone even has some txts from her infidelity, not all are deleted... wait what?!?!? Some bitchslapping happened, how dare he hit hheeeerrrrr yada yada bla bla attention now? Me?

Your story reminded me of theirs. He's been working it out hard man and everything was ok and she even got pregnant by that someone else guy.

Now that I think of it, iirc she was surprised the worker drone guy didn't want to raise some1 elses kid and she abortused or sth like that.

Anyway long story short, first up, then a bit down, then a little up again and working it out and now, after, they no more.

Imo working it out rarely works out.

Yaaaaay! (kids cheering in the background)

Sry for your situ. Fortunately it will pass. Try to use as much of that

Fuck me. Fuck my life.

to get yourself somehow forward. Every step counts.

Jonlife · 2017-06-08T05:35:06+00:00

Now you know how diabolical they are. They can't love the way a man loves. You did everything right and still ended up in ditch full of shit. Even if you changed your mind about kids it wouldn't have mattered. Rule number one: Your way or the highway. Stop compromising with females. Egalitarianism never worked. "Happy wife, happy life" propaganda has been shoved down all our throats since birth.

Assassintraining7 · 2017-06-08T05:36:04+00:00

Make no mistake, Friend. This was her purely acting on her hypergamous instinct. You guys were together for a long time, she realized that her clock was ticking and that you were serious about not wanting kids. You didn't do anything wrong. You TOLD her 'fucking NO' and she just figured you would change your mind later. (They always do that btw) Honestly I know you blame her but she isn't and neither are you. Women aren't men, they don't feel the pain men do, they don't have the same amount of empathy men do, and they certainly do not LOVE like men do. Nobody is to blame for this, not you, not her, not her new guy, it's just the sad truth and I'm sorry dude. Feel this pain right now, don't do anything crazy, but feel it and own it and eventually you can start going your own way.

romofrolo · 2017-06-08T07:21:46+00:00

Just wanted to say how sorry I am you had to go through this.

Fortunately, there is no kids and marriage involved, because she would fuck you up further, that's how they all are, a woman like that wouldn't miss the chance to drain anything left of her use from you.

As almost everyone here said, take it as an everlasting reminder and don't make that mistake ever again. She's not even worth thinking of, it just drains your energy and you're losing your shit over and over again every time you give it any attention, it's just not worth it. SHE'S NOT WORTH IT.

Replace that thought process immediately with something else, every time you think of her or anything related to her, stir your thoughts away to something else or simply get up and do something, do 20 push-ups, go for a walk/run, anything to clear your mind.

Of course it'll be hard since the whole situation is still really fresh, but don't let that stop you, force yourself to push through it in any way you can, it'll go a long way.

Invest in yourself, do everything you ever wanted to do, any hobby/passion you have, focus your time on that and work hard on it, it's never too late to accomplish anything you want in life. I know that gets thrown around a lot, but it really isn't. I really hope you get all of this shit behind you asap and turn your life for the absolute best you can make it.

casra888 · 2017-06-08T11:01:26+00:00

One thing you will never receive from a woman is gratitude.

romofrolo · 2017-06-08T05:12:02+00:00

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PaleCommunion1 · 2017-06-08T05:20:49+00:00

learn from it bro. women use you and throw you away. maybe do it to a girl, see how it feels to be on the other side. or don't and go full MGTOW.

romofrolo · 2017-06-08T07:09:08+00:00

Bit of back story, we hadn't had sex in 3 years. Two years ago her dad got cancer, last year he died.

Well did she also get cancer? I get that under difficult times her libido would plummet, but 3 years is in no way normal. Seeking intimacy with your SO is a very normal part of coping.

I helped my gf through the worst 2 years of her life and got her back on her feet so she could branch swing as soon as I wasn't of any more use.

Ain't that some shit. My ex's mom died while we were together. It was a difficult time, but we powered through. I helped her throughout her time at uni (2nd diploma which she really wanted, but wasn't a 100% necessity). When she broke up with me she said she is annoyed that someone else will reap the benefits of her raising me to become a men. Which was eye opening.

Later she told me that she is annoyed that I am living an active life after we broke up, because she expected me to be a couch potato like I with her. Absolutely no soul searching on her part on how she might have affected me. Zero. Selfish people are gonna be selfish.

scouse_till_idie · 2017-06-08T07:24:42+00:00

you learned the hard way, but now you're free

sidel3 · 2017-06-08T08:16:28+00:00

Took me a year to get over my divorce. Took my ex 2 days and was replaced. It's heart breaking to realize women do not love the same as men.

No kids and no alimony sounds like a win though.

loofy_goofy · 2017-06-08T08:40:10+00:00

Well, she wanted to have kids, you didn't. That's the real major flaw in your marriage, so she started to search for some other man who wanted kids probably month or years before the break up, you were used as a backup plan or boyfriend.

It's pity that your empathy investment go to nowhere, but so what? It's good thing to support someone who's relative is dying of cancer.

It sucks but women are in a hurry because their reproductive window is relatively short. So branch swinging is relatively short, you are also hated know probably because you've 'wasted her time' and 'were an asshole', also demonized, all her friends being told how shit of a person you are.

Ghost her, keep yourself busy so you would distract your mind from recurring fantasies of your life with her and 'how things ought to be', it will go away after a couple of months. Maybe improve your work, or don't know, find yourself easy projects to do. Read books that you hadn't had time to read. Or maybe lose some weight.

Also it's great if you have some close people to talk things through, however nowadays it's a rare occasion. But we have MGTOW, so it's absolutely ok to feel shit after break up for a long time.

Take your time to heal, women are in neurotic hurry about getting into relationships due reproduction and social pressure, you don't.

romofrolo · 2017-06-08T09:06:22+00:00

All the best mate. Hope you can move forward and forget about her - don't give her any attention, and definitely don't pick up when she rings you in a few months after things somehow don't work out with the new guy. Look after yourself.

rdx711 · 2017-06-08T11:39:06+00:00

Something similar happened to me. My girlfriend of over 5 years broke up with me when she found someone younger. I had spent countless hours educating her and fixing her. I had put brakes on my life and development (obviously my mistake). And she left when she was good enough for someone else. Things were going rough for a few months. Just when I thought things were improving, BAM! Breakup. Learned a lesson: either don't be with someone who needs major fixing or if you do then don't fix them.

Zombocom1911 · 2017-06-08T18:00:24+00:00

I'm royally fucked in the head from some of the shit we went through and she's moved on with no fucking problem at all.

they have absolutely no problem finding a new guy. This country is an absolute horror for men, paradise for women. To hell with this earth.

jumanj5ever · 2017-06-08T05:56:53+00:00

All women have someone they're fucking or have someone else they want to fuck. They don't just chop one arm off from the gravy train. They work on another whilst on it

2ndAvenger · 2017-06-08T06:01:25+00:00

Go out into the woods and dig a hole, break some bottles and burn some wood, instant stress relief :D

Kawaii_Knight · 2017-06-08T06:52:48+00:00

That sucks but you got off easy. Now you can live a bitch-free life. Many good things ahead for you.

romofrolo · 2017-06-08T07:08:08+00:00

I'm very sorry to hear that. Briffault's law is a bitch:

Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place. Past benefit provided by the male does not provide for continued or future association.

Or if that's too verbose, just picture a woman saying "what have you done for me lately?" and dumping you if it benefits her.

romofrolo · 2017-06-08T07:21:49+00:00

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Shimakaze4 · 2017-06-08T07:24:00+00:00

It might hurt now, but just think how fucked you'd have been if you were married and had kids. Just think how mr bluepill chad will be on the hook, because I guarantee you she will be pregnant within a year, when the baby rabies hits, it doesn't let go.

I would say almost all of us, myself included have been monkey branched and lied to before, that's just AWALT my friend. The first time you get a dose of the red pill, it is indeed bitter, but it makes you a much stronger, much better person. She has not broken you for life, she's opened your eyes for life. Never again will you make the error of trusting another woman and that is a good life lesson right there.

AshyBoneVR4 · 2017-06-08T08:36:50+00:00

First thing I'm going to tell you to do is get that aggression out. You go to the gym? If no, start, if you do, go every day for a week straight. But you're probably used to that if you're already an avid gym goer. So if that's the case, get yourself a punching bag. A heavy one. Lay into it. Or go to a boxing/MMA gym. I wouldn't say spar with anybody, but go to some kind of a combat sport and get some training done.

Find other healthy ways to vent your negative emotions. Pick up some old hobbies you've let go of.

2017-06-08T09:22:08+00:00

Give yourself time to recover. All of us here were either directly hurt by a female or disillusioned with the feminist agenda ruining society. Take care, brother.

dayone_27 · 2017-06-08T09:59:13+00:00

Heart rending story man. Thanks for giving another glimpse into the predatory monkey branching behavior many have yet to experience.

Bit of back story, we hadn't had sex in 3 years.

She stopped being your gf 3 years ago. This is when you know it's over.

2017-06-08T10:51:15+00:00

Red-pill rage phase; use it as motivation, don't let it consume you. I would suggest hitting the gym, going for a run, or doing some activity to burn the excess anger down in a productive manner.

I would bet a substantial amount that your ex-gf contacts you in the future. If this guy pump-and-dumps her, it will be sooner rather than later. She will use the typical manipulative tactics to sink her claws into you again: crying, "needing" support and companionship, bringing up her dad's cancer and death, telling you how much she needs you. Don't allow her the opportunity to reel you back in like a good beta. Either block her preemptively, or reply that you have moved on and no longer want her in your life... and then block her. Do not expose any anger or hurt; it will only boost her ego that she was able to affect you in such a way.

Hang in there brother. Use this experience as a learning opportunity; we never truly waste our time in a relationship if we can gain something by it. You avoided having a child with this leech and you have personally experienced the game of hypergamy and branch-swinging that all women do. That is a big lesson that many men never fully learn. Work through the rage and then reflect when you are in a better mindset to do so.

romofrolo · 2017-06-08T10:52:17+00:00

I feel for you man but the red flag should have been the no sex thing. If she's not banging you, she's banging someone else. Women aren't innocent princesses of high moral standards like they want you to believe. Men like to fuck, Women need to fuck.

FearLeadsToAnger · 2017-06-08T10:54:54+00:00

Rage like that tempers the soul, even if something like this were to happen again you will be far more capable of controlling your reaction next time, silv. As for this time, don't do anything rash, especially if there's a chance it'll get you in trouble. There is a life outside of this one person and you're about to go on a journey toward finding it.

Personally last time I broke up with someone I played Ark: Survival Evolved for 3 months and by the time I was bored of the game I was bored of thinking about the girl.... That may not have been the healthiest solution, but it was one.

batfish55 · 2017-06-08T10:58:42+00:00

You're definitely among brothers.

So many parallels to my own story, only the branch mine swung to was her boss, not some random dude. Mine cried crocodile tears when she said she was leaving, and when she saw I wasn't buying that bullshit, it was amazing how quick she stopped crying. By the time she decides she's out, she's already over it. Read Rollo's War Brides.

I went depressed real quick. No chick's gonna bang a sad sack. While you're still angry, go get some poon. And not hooker poon, it's not the same. Angry can translate to assertive. That'll help. And the best way to get over one woman is to get under another.

BinaryResult · 2017-06-08T11:18:10+00:00

Go to the gym.
In your situation i would suggest to go fuck a whore asap. If you have some money hire an escort. Why? Because it will reset some fluids and kickstart your body for a new path. You obviously are not in a situation to go fuck normal women and you cant be subjected to that stress and their psycho stuff.
Dont hate the world. You will feel very alone, and confused. Ditch all your hate in the gym. Be patient, it takes half the years of the relationship for your body to heal from a sick relationship for the average man. Say your relationship was 10 years, you will start seeing results in 3 and feel 100% back in 5.
Work on your diet. I suggest you a well planned ketogenic diet.

-Alphalete · 2017-06-08T13:09:07+00:00

Once again, AWALT.

Women will always want more. Do not be angry at yourself. Realize your real value for she has taken you for granted. Make yourself the most important priority; lift, read, rinse and repeat.

It may hurt now but remember it's a lesson in disguise. Remember, AWALT.

gods_bones · 2017-06-08T14:56:18+00:00

Why would you waste 3 YEARS of your life on someone you're not fucking? The only thing of value a woman has to offer a man are her wet holes. Aside from that, it's all just drama and bullshit manipulation.

2017-06-08T08:14:42+00:00

Dude... dude... listen my story, long time ago with my ex, we got in a fight, she left home, few hours later i try to call her, she was drunk or high because she ACCEPT the call instead of DECLINE it. And i know she did not do it on propose because she did that a lot during our 4 years relationship. I just stay there, alone in the living room, closely listen to her with an other man, having wild sex, hearing all the noise, the moan, the bed moving, she was saying "fuck me harder". She did not know about it, she came back home, extremely high and drunk and she denied it, staring to freak out and leaving to her parent house. I almost killed myself dude... i know this is hard but BRO, it get better, you will have the worst time of your life in the next few month, just fight through it. The best way to forget about those kind of bitches is wild sex with an Asian girl. Asian girl are fucking crazy, they are the worst demon ever, BUT they fuck like GODDESS and they are WAY MORE faithful. Tell her your last girlfriend cheated on you, she will fuck you untill you pass out all night... but dont get involved in a relationship, just PUMP AND DUMP!

It get better bro believe me

liftweights · 2017-06-08T12:05:25+00:00

women don't care about your 'connection', that's why if she stops having sex you leave immediately. mine didn't stop sex but we were 7 months in and she left because I confronted her over her messaging with other guys right in front of me. it's been over a month and I haven't heard shit from her. it doesn't matter your history, women will move on to someone who they perceive as 5% more alpha with no regard for you, your memories, etc. being supportive of them through tough times actually makes it worse because in their twisted minds they see you as weak if you're nice and supportive. I still have breakdowns regularly and my gf left me at the beginning of may. but I don't want her back because she is less than human

foreignuserirl · 2017-06-08T12:49:06+00:00

the hardest part for me was learning how well they are able to seem like they care, only to prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that they never did.

all the best mate

2017-06-08T14:39:24+00:00

You weren't married you have no kids, no support! Life's Good!

ninja_prease · 2017-06-08T17:45:29+00:00

I went through basically the same shit just 5 weeks ago. It hurts man. Hang in there. Keep your mind occupied. I still have flashbacks of her and I tougher and I know she's basically treating this new guy the same way she treated me. Try to take your mind to a different place. Keep moving. Clean your house, improve yourself. It will get better and you know it. You have brothers all over this world going through the same thing. Being on this board helps a lot, so at least you're in the right place. You're gonna be ok, dude.

2017-06-08T17:50:20+00:00

He's not going to be any different than you lol. He's just one branch in a jungle of branches that doesn't end until she hits the wall.

His time will come the same way.

Qazwsxedcrfv567899 · 2017-06-08T07:24:43+00:00

Brutal. Lesson to learn if you stay with someone don't be theyr emotional tampoon.

bsutansalt · 2017-06-08T10:06:22+00:00

Go over to trp and look up the light switch effect thread.

DopeMeme_Deficiency · 2017-06-08T18:23:35+00:00

Sorry to say this, but... She didn't go 3 years without sex... You did... There was another chad somewhere

Morb357 · 2017-06-08T18:55:27+00:00

This new guy may not be new at all. She could've been cucking you the whole time. It's quite common.

2017-06-08T19:20:08+00:00

"This bitch broke me for life."

Don't say that. You're a man, stand proud. You're just upset in the moment (understandably), but not only you'll get over it, you've contributed a very valuable illustration of monkey branching that women do. It's natural for cunts to do that.

romofrolo · 2017-06-08T08:16:28+00:00

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CIAC50 · 2017-06-08T11:19:06+00:00

Just use the metaphor of illness. Two divorces were like a broken leg or appendicitis I got better and whilst I regret the time lost I've recovered and that's something to enjoy, the freedom from the ties that bind.

drogosan · 2017-06-08T11:21:14+00:00

You dodged a bullet and survived, man. As far as I'm concerned, you won the lottery and escaped from a toxic relationship relatively unscathed.

rocketsmurf2 · 2017-06-08T11:33:23+00:00

We are with you, brother. No, we won't ever experience the pain you do, nor can we make it go away, but from our third party perspective we all know that despite the current hurt and turmoil, you absolutely will go on to do truly amazing things in life.

Godspeed, friend.

Poofysmoof · 2017-06-08T11:33:57+00:00

You dodged a bullet, imagine if you had given in and had kids. Not only would you be pissed abut a guy at her place but kids to deal with sharing and paying for. Great job standing your ground.

sadbasturd99 · 2017-06-08T11:43:24+00:00

Can I get her number ?

Oz70NYC · 2017-06-08T11:44:46+00:00

Blue pill me from 5 years ago would be livid after reading that, especially in how it parallels my divorce from back then. Red pill me now laughs at how these broads branch swing like chimps.

I won't bore you with a long post, what you needed to see has likely been said by others in the thread. All I'll say is there's no roadmap for the journey ahead of you. Go your own way, find your truest, best self and conquer your world.

2017-06-08T11:50:09+00:00

Why even care? Just treat these scum like they could walk any time and disappear tomorrow and youll be good.

rtmlex · 2017-06-08T12:11:37+00:00

Go to the gym, fuck her best friend/sister.

MidnightParlor · 2017-06-08T12:16:37+00:00

I sympathize. Been there. Don't hide from the anger. Think about why you are angry. Slowly adjust your expectations for people and for life. De-program yourself. Things will improve for you. If you live in your own place, or a place that allows it, get a dog. It will make you happy and restore your outlook on life immediately. Nothing else is so unconditional in its love and loyalty.

Griever114 · 2017-06-08T12:41:45+00:00

Bit of back story, we hadn't had sex in 3 years. Two years ago her dad got cancer, last year he died. You all know how much it sucks watching cancer eat someone. But I was there for her, I helped her get through everything. There was some other nasty shit last year I helped her through as well that I won't go into.

Hate to break it to you but she was probably fucking him during this timeframe. If she wasnt wanting it from you, she was getting it elsewhere. I get losing a parent but not 3 years of "celibacy."

Lesson learned.

sfactor360 · 2017-06-08T12:42:27+00:00

This new guy will probably use her and dump her. Make sure that by the time that happens you're living the best possible life that you can, so that you can rub it in her face later.

Marque01 · 2017-06-08T13:06:25+00:00

Sorry to hear this, bud. My ex and I are about 5+ years apart and I still have bouts where I miss her. The good news is that now they are far less frequent, and less painful. It takes forever, but it'll wear off. I used to say 'the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else' but that's probably not good advice here now :)

You caught her. Your suspicions were correct, which means your gut instincts are working.

Focus on the shitty 3 years of no sex ,vs the whatever it was that attracted you to her in the first place. At least now, if you're not getting any sex, you're not having to deal with some chick's bullshit at the same time :)

2017-06-08T13:12:06+00:00

Dude, you're one of the lucky ones!

Prometheus444 · 2017-06-08T13:15:46+00:00

Same thing happened to me, almost scary how alike the situations are. My relationship lasted 6 years as well, she was living with me and I truly intended to marry her. Fast forward to one day her car breaks down in my driveway and she has to have her father pick her up to take her to work. I also conveniently dropped my cell phone in water that same morning, prompting her to tell me she has her old phone in the glove box of her car that I can use. Upon turning it on it was evident she had not deleted anything on the phone. I had thought we were at a level of trust where checking phones was a clear invasion of privacy and not necessary. Boy was I wrong. Emails from dating websites all over the place. Texts with a guy named "Rob" that had messages like "I can't wait for you to come over tonight, going to wait for you to shower babe", and I completely lost it. Throwing up for an hour before I could even talk. She always came up with stories about needing to sleep at her mom's house to help out with the horses, as her parents were separated and not living together. This happened in 2012 and still to this date I will not even consider dating another woman. She had me fooled 100% and I never saw it coming. I still am angry about it, as she really messed me up. I don't think the anger ever truly goes away, but it does subside significantly. It led me to be a much better person, and still causes me to treat people much kinder than I had in the past. We are better than the pieces of shit who do things like this to people. Hang in there brother, you aren't alone. Feel free to PM me if you want.

2017-06-08T13:23:07+00:00

All I can say is, it isn't for life. It is for right now. It passes.

fickle_fuck · 2017-06-08T13:26:45+00:00

Best thing you can do is not dwell on that shit. You've already wasted enough time with her, so why waste anymore? Go book a trip, take sailing or flying lessons, or whatever makes YOU happy now. The best revenge is living a happy life.

fruguy · 2017-06-08T13:48:58+00:00

Ouch. I've been betrayed similarly and understand your pain and anger.

It's cliché but time does heal.

Hoosierdaddy1964 · 2017-06-08T13:57:42+00:00

we hadn't had sex in 3 years

Dude, seriously?

Should have nexted her a long time ago.

mikaelnm · 2017-06-08T13:59:11+00:00

Look on the bright side, at least she's his problem now.

freethinker1976 · 2017-06-08T14:00:48+00:00

That's how the whores do it. Every one of them. They cry their eyes out publicly for a day or two for the catharsis and sympathy then they move to the next guy they had lined up. They'll fuck him and suck his cock dry like they never did you.

Mac290 · 2017-06-08T14:03:44+00:00

Sorry I'm late to this one. Now you know what you know, and it's a bitter pill to swallow. It's your pride that hurts, and your pride is in your control. Just remember that you are not alone, and some guys had it much much worse.

bbbboring · 2017-06-08T14:10:09+00:00

Read stoicism

SirGuileSir · 2017-06-08T14:10:23+00:00

Now that you know how much time and you have wasted, please ensure you have no financial ties, then drop all contact with this form of cancer.

2017-06-08T14:28:56+00:00

Write this stuff down/save this post for when you start to get weak and start looking at things with rose colored glasses in case she comes crawling back.

bdf39 · 2017-06-08T14:30:09+00:00

Try to find some type of group where men hang out that fits your personality - maybe a running club or some type of meet up. Just for social interaction. Also relationships hurt when they end for a multitude of reasons but two observations: 1) The sadness you feel is less about losing her and more about what the situation is telling yourself - IE: You are replaceable/ You aren't good enough/ You aren't desirable

We experience bruised egos coming out of relationships, and when they end we feel those types of messages. The truth is they are bullshit who cares what the ending of a relationship tells you, you are a man you have value simply because you exist, challenge those false beliefs coming in, and find validation from within and from other sources that aren't females liking you or something that can easily disappear.

2) I was told by someone who studied and read a lot about relationships that any happiness you feel going into and throughout a relationship will be felt as sadness as soon as the relationship ends. So 6 years of probably some good moments = all of that emotion flipped on its head over the next few weeks. Sucks but you have to fight through those chemicals that are telling you life isn't worth living.

2017-06-08T14:55:43+00:00

She is never yours it's just your turn

MRA-automatron-2kb · 2017-06-08T15:13:37+00:00

I can relate to your experience.

It's not your fault and have a productive recovery.

2017-06-08T15:52:02+00:00

She was probably fucking him well before that day

gundahir · 2017-06-08T16:31:23+00:00

fuck man that sucks but is textbook behavior. she had that "old guy friend" orbiting around her, chatting with her, possibly meeting her, the whole time. she then first made sure he is a branch that would take her weight before she finally left her current branch ( you ). swinging like a monkey, thats how it works. i dont know about your circumstances but often guys in LTR lose contacts, friends etc. go catch up with some male friends and listen to their stories. you will see that some of them can tell stories very similar to yours. a shit ton of people on this subreddit can, thats for sure.

hintsofgreen · 2017-06-08T16:55:13+00:00

You will grow from this, in a way that you cannot imagine. Claim your independence. Command your fucking life. Don't let people do this to you any longer.

You should not regret what you did for this person. You did it out of the goodness of your heart, and this will be a reminder of your innocence and humanity forever. However, you now know that you may be vulnerable in the future because of your kind-heartedness. You must control this aspect of your life.

You are a good guy. You will be a wise commander.

Benny757 · 2017-06-08T17:03:14+00:00

Welcome home, friend. Glad you found us. First, the good news. You are gloriously free! A nice free fresh start for you, cut clean, and with you owing no responsibility to your ex whatsoever. From what you describe, if you look back at it, you do see now that you were a man shackled to serve, and serve you did. Now you serve yourself. The door is open. You are out. Let all of your lessons sink in and start your journey, just one step at a time, into the horizon of adventure which is your LIFE!

2017-06-08T17:07:35+00:00

Sympathies, brother. Pain from this level of betrayal and hurt really hurts in the now, but it will make you stronger in the future. You're among friends. Hopefully there's some solace in that, and that you will get better and this bitch missed out on the best man she ever had. Just don't give her the time of day when she inevitably returns. Ignore her texts, calls, emails, whatever. She's dead now. Just like my big cunty ex is dead in my head. They don't exist. Make no mistake, she will come back and it will be up to you to protect this new gift you've been given.

I recommend the gym completely. Take all your emotions out on the iron and start banging out 5x5's as often as you can. Exercise scientifically improves mood and relieves stress too. It's a win-win.

And don't ever feel inferior to any other man, brother. This new faggot, he's not shit in her eyes. If anything, pity him. He's merely next in line to get colossally fucked over.

BooDoug · 2017-06-08T17:45:13+00:00

Tune in with the force of MGTOW, let the anger dissipates.

2017-06-08T17:48:35+00:00

I get there and she's laughing her head off with the new guy (windows were wide open, I wasn't creeping). I'm royally fucked in the head from some of the shit we went through and she's moved on with no fucking problem at all.

This is how they are, they have no issues moving on at all which to me shows they don't really care. They don't at all take into account all the things you helped them with...its really fucked up but i've seen women more loyal to guys who physically abused them for so many years, they for whatever reason in their stupid brains were extremely loyal to these guys even though they were treated like garbage...

I wasted fucking years with her and I hate myself for it. I've never felt pain like this before and I have no idea how to manage it.

Yep, it sucks, the truth is hard to see this is why bluepills and purplepills keep lying to themselves and find ways to make fun of the those who see the truth.

TL;DR I helped my gf through the worst 2 years of her life and got her back on her feet so she could branch swing as soon as I wasn't of any more use.

I can relate, I met a girl who was physically abused by previous partner, she was extremely low on self confidence, i boosted her back up which just allowed her to branch swing to a higher status male....

Search youtube for Patrice O'neal, he's has some funny and knowledgeable red pills on women and never to put them in most important place or they'll step all over you and run off while using you as support for confidence (when they need it)

Bonesteel50 · 2017-06-08T19:56:44+00:00

Mine was fucking the new guy in my place when I was gone. You are not alone!

eltonl · 2017-06-08T20:24:17+00:00

"I'm royally fucked in the head from some of the shit we went through and she's moved on with no fucking problem at all."

Its like I said in another post, women HAVE NO HONOUR. If you help another man he'll be grateful and will respect you for that. With women this shit doesnt happen.

xcross69 · 2017-06-08T20:38:57+00:00

_LL WH_R_S.

2017-06-08T21:33:08+00:00

You dated someone for three years without sex. Holy fucking shit you're pathetic.

calloberjig · 2017-06-09T01:57:53+00:00

While you are in the anger phase, use it for fuel to lift heavy weights and build your body. Future self will thank you for it.

Curthurley · 2017-06-09T03:51:26+00:00

Bro... you're a lion that just got released into the wild. You are free. You understand what a female is capable of and you def know the pain they cause. You've survived the hurt. Now go out and be free from the chains of their bondage. We are men, and im damn proud of it. You should be as well. If its sex you need, trust me, thats easy to get.

2017-06-09T16:59:40+00:00

In this day and age. If a woman/girl is attractive. And she's a millennial or late 90's person.

They will never ever stay with one person. Because its too easy. She has so many options.

Atleast be happy that you didn't get divorce rapped or have a bunch of kids that will be fucked up for life. This event is going to make you stronger. If you survive.

Take two weeks off. Feel every bit of emotion. Let it all out. Punch a pillow, scream at the top of your lungs, cry, anything.

After those two weeks. You start piecing your life together. The biggest revenge you can have on such an individual is to live a better life.

As cliche as it may sound.

Girls don't fucking know how much damage they do to a guy when they're abused in such a way like you are.

This whole ordeal could damage you for life. Or make you stronger than ever before. Knowing damn well to not trust any female with such a level of responsibility or commitment.

Right now you feel like a huge hot knife is penetrated into your heart. Making it more painful with each breath. Asking yourself "Why am i still alive".

But trust me. This is a blessing in disguise.

Because if this was you in a marriage with kids. Most guys can't recover.

Anything that made them who they were. The woman that was supposed to love him. The kids who were supposed to live a happy life. The financial stability that ensured their survival and comfortableness in society.

All of it gone. Nothing left.

TekkenHybridLags · 2017-06-08T10:14:12+00:00

Sounds like the 7 year itch came early bro, dont feel bad its just biology.

ReekFirstOfHisName · 2017-06-08T10:54:09+00:00

Hope this makes you feel better. Works for me:

https://youtu.be/14K6KtBlusY

romofrolo · 2017-06-08T09:34:14+00:00

Dude wasnt a bit of a hint the fact that you didnt have sex with her in 3 years?

You can blame women all you want but something is wrong with you...

How can you live with a girl and not have sex? Whats the point on staying with her?

You're truly messed up if you stay with a girl and dont have sex and dont want to have kids...you just needed someone to talk when you got home from your job? I can do that aswell if you pay me bills, clothes, restaurant and everything...

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Title	Got such a huge fucking dose of the Red pill this week.
Author	romofrolo
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Comments	258
Date	June 8, 2017 3:54 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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