Hey guys. Since becoming more alpha I’ve actually lost friends rather than gained them. I get girls more easily but men seem to be threatened by me and they’re passive aggresive/purposely leaving me out of events etc. Also new men I meet who are physically more beta/don’t workout are passive aggressive toward me even when I am nice to them and don’t compete with them. Sometimes this happens with other jacked men too.
Just before lockdown started, I went to a bar with friends and was hooking up with a friend of a friend’s gf. We were all there together and I started getting attention from some other girls. Another woman (few years older) tried to hit it off with me in front of everyone and I played it cool and she left for a bit. I didn’t initiate anything. Then I went to the toilet and she followed me. My friend clocked it and came to grab me.. he told her to piss off and was angry with me. He said I was supposed to be dating his gf’s friend and I wasn’t strong enough with the other woman but I could tell he was just jealous that I got attention and he didn’t. He was punching me in the ribs calling me stupid but to me it was a translation for “I’m angry that you got so much attention and I can’t get that”
Now I’m a nice guy. Even when I know other men can’t compete with me I don’t rub it in their face because honor and respect. And getting girls isn’t the goal of my life. I actually want real bros. It just pisses me off that they can’t see that and by being nice I get treated like shit it’s weird. I didn’t do anything wrong with this woman. I got attention that I didn’t look for.
So my question is how do you be Chad AND likeable at the same time? My friends joke that I look like a fuckboy which means they subconsciously think I look like I fuck a lot of women but they only put a negative spin on it because they can’t do the same. They have left me out of the pack so many times as if I’m some dishonourable guy who chooses hoes over bros but I never do.
My female friend who’s a PHD biologist (a very logical female who’s honest about hypergamy) told me that I’m a threat to 90% of men. Also at the bar my friend’s gf told me when she was drunk that I’m really handsome and every girl at the bar probably wants to fuck me. My friend didn’t hear and neither did the girl I was dating. (Her friend)
So what am I doing wrong and how do I become more likeable? It seems that men don’t respect me for whatever reason. Are betas more liked by everyone because they’re softer and more agreeable? I mean I’m never an asshole to people but I’m always strong in my convictions and never lie. I thought this would command respect from other people but it doesn’t seem to. Hmm or maybe that’s not it. It’s just I have this one friend who everyone loves but he’s not alpha at all. He’s adopted the new age mantra and is all about positive vibes etc. I’m not like that as I’m a realist, but I’m not an asshole either. So I don’t get it.
What do you think?