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Finally Divorced

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May 8, 2020
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Just a quick update here because some people have been asking about my status.

Two weeks ago my divorce was finalized so I'm 100% free and clear. I stayed firm in the negotiations and was able to walk away with a great deal. She didn't ask for much at all.

It was definitely the right decision and I should have listened to everyone here and done it a lot sooner.

For anyone else on the fence I'd say go for it. Separations never work. When women are done they are done. Cut your losses and move on.

Thanks for the help guys!


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Title Finally Divorced
Author themerovingian01
Upvotes 39
Comments 38
Date 08 May 2020 05:40 PM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/661237
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/gfxo7t/finally_divorced/
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[–]SepeanRed Beret31 points32 points  (12 children) | Copy

For anyone else on the fence I'd say go for it.

It’s not that simple. If you’re alpha and get plenty of attention when playing dread, and you’re on the fence, sure. Or if your wife is so low quality that even if she was loving, submissive and kinky you still wouldn’t want her, sure.

But lots of guys are stuck in the idea that their wife is naturally bitchy and low libido, which is just wrong.

When women are done they are done.

They’re done - until you raise your SMV a few points. Then they’re fucking ready for more.

[–]ancient_resistanceShit coming out my eyeballs18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

But lots of guys are stuck in the idea that their wife is naturally bitchy and low libido, which is just wrong.

Can confirm, was said guy. My wife is a totally different person than she was in December, when I was sure we would need to divorce to be happy. Now I'm sure we don't. What changed? Spoiler alert: it had nothing to do with her, and everything to do with me.

[–]so_woke_da_wookie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t let up.

[–]part_wolf24 points25 points  (1 child) | Copy

lots of guys are stuck in the idea that their wife is naturally bitchy and low libido

Ah yes, the Faggot Indicator Light is a standard feature on every model of female. Best thing to do is consult the manual.

[–]SepeanRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good one :D

[–]Rifleshoot8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

It can be annoying seeing the amount of people that act like getting a divorce is the best solution to any marital issues. Maybe if you've been making steady progress for years and nothing changes, you can finally say "its all her", but that just isn't usually the case. Sure, you can get plenty of post wall girls willing to jump into bed with the first guy that shows them attention, but if simply getting sex was the goal, then why not go over to TRP? The goal of MRP should be to learn to lead your household and your life as man, not simply to get a few extra crumbs of pussy. It just so happens that when you start leading your household as a masculine man, you end up turning your wife on. Who knew?

[–]so_woke_da_wookie1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Usually, the guys who whine about divorce being their only solution, are the same guys, who have done no divorce preparation.

[–]umizumiz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Damn so true

[–]hack3geRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

A woman will never be done with a high value man - if a woman is bitchy you are still the problem plain and simple.

I got ILYBINILWY and my wife was searching for houses and filing for divorce - now she gags herself on my cock and begs me to fuck her ass - that doesn’t seem like she’s done with me.

The only question eventually will be are you done with her.....

[–]RomulusTurbo2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I can second this. I used to work in physician recruitment firm and half of the office was joking about how no-one wanted to hire this Gynecologist, because all the patients would want to switch to him. Anyways, I saw the pic and this guy and he was/is an NPC Mens Physique competitor and everyone was joking about how sexy he was. I was already in pretty darn good shape, but was skinny. After seeing the way people reacted I was like "Fuck it, I'm gonna do that shit!"

So, I got in touch with a dude that my brother knew of that was a competitor himself and started paying him to coach me on diet, exercise, what gear to take etc. I'm about 3 months in and my wife bites her lip every time I take my shirt off in front of her! And that's with 2 months of no gym and just home workouts! I'll be competing in my first show this August. When guys on here and TRP say to LIFT! There's a reason! Nearly every area of your life will improve!

Guess what else changed? Now my wife wants to workout with me every morning and eat better herself and is looking damn sexy if I do say so myself! It's a win-win-win you get the idea. I feel like Charlie Sheen I'm winning so much!

One last thing... When women say they like you the way that you are, that's bullshit. If that were true then they wouldn't get all hot and bothered when a dude with an 8-pack shows up in a movie. Be that guy!

[–]Massive-Plate2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Lol.

I grabbed cutting gear.

I went from 215lb, to 186lb.

Wife gives bj weekly, sex. 3-5 weekly, and her friends eye fuck the shit out of me. This is from a bday bj, and sex monthly for 4 years.

One of her friends finds an excuse to see "us".. much more frequently now.

Old HS friends facebook me and say I'm photoshopped...

And the girl friend requests went from zero to 5x daily ( I am in public groups).

I know I'm not "there yet", but holy fuck... so far lifting means everything.

Likewise, I am no longer a drunk captain, not an asshole, and calm. Dread works 100%

[–]RomulusTurbo0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Nice!

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[–]InChargeManRed Beret14 points15 points  (6 children) | Copy

Just a quick update here because some people have been asking about my status.

Really?

[–]helaughsinhidden6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

*doubt*

[–]themerovingian01[S] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yes I got two PMs asking if I took her back yet.

[–]part_wolf7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

You realize everyone was giving you shit because we were hoping for you to succeed?

At least, some of us were.

[–]umizumiz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I am happy this saga ended in your favor.

I felt like I knew you a little bit, bro. Hahaha

Keep on grinding

[–]so_woke_da_wookie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Your comment should be required reading.

[–]Chump_No_More6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Okay, you're "finally divorced". That's not a status that's worth writing about. That's lazy and low value.

Either tell us what you've learned from all this and how you've changed your paradigm, or go fuck off.

[–]hack3geRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I mean at least post the required I went out and fucked half my town and the validation from it felt great. This dude couldn't even get there.

[–]Tambamwham2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

It’s always infidelity. Unless there’s mental illness, abuse, or addiction... every break up in this planet involves somebody else. And it is kinda funny watching guys make post after post for months not realizing the truth and operating off the wrong information. Atleast you’re out and you know alot more than you used to about life.

She still with the other guy? What have her kids said about the divorce and her cheating? You tell the guys wife?

[–]umizumiz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OP answer this

[–]jakethesnake50003 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Congrats. Feels good, doesn’t it?

[–]part_wolf4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

FUCK YES.

Welcome to the rest of your life.

[–]LazerSpin1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Congrats!

I'm only now starting on the road that you just finished. Have a drink to celebrate and then get back to work on yourself and your life!

[–]Chump_No_More2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Congrats for what?

For focusing on ending his shitty marriage instead of the cause of his shitty marriage?

What do you think "The 'stay plan' is the same as the 'go plan'" means? The guy stubbornly refuses to do the work and pulls his signature drive by to tell us, "divorce solved all his problems and life is good now".

He can't 'finish' what he hasn't started. The saying, "no matter where you go, there you are" applies directly to him. Until he starts to genuinely un-fuck himself, he will be living in Einstein's definition of insanity.

I guarantee you are on that same trajectory of endless self-sabotage if you think divorce is the end-goal.

No. You do not congratulate a man for learning nothing.

Do not be this guy.

[–]rightsided5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

What are you going on about? This dude got out of a relationship with a BPD, single mother of two kids. That's a big fucking win.

He did finish what he started: a train wreck of a marriage that was going to have him royally fucked if he 'toughs it out' as you seem to be suggesting.

[–]Chump_No_More0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nope, not suggesting that he 'tough it out'.

Divorcing a 'BPD woman' is a no-brainer, and he wants a pat on the back for that? Fuck that.

Read this guy's history and it will become clear to you that he understands nothing and has not done the work.

He'll be back a couple years from now, crying about how the next 'BPD woman' is fucking him over. He'll (again) ask a bunch of internet strangers to hold his hand and tell him what to do.

[–]LazerSpin1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Committing and finishing a divorce is a big deal. Period. If you have no such experience then you have no baseline. Life is not a replay of LA HEAT.

The end goal of all end goals is to live a happy life, whatever that means to you. Divorce in the case of OP and me is just the first step. The congrats is on taking the furst step. No one is sucking anyone off for “beating the game”.

[–]Chump_No_More5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you have no such experience then you have no baseline. Life is not a replay of LA HEAT.

Yes, I've been there. Twice. 1st wife of 20 years abandoned me & kids for high school flame. Caught 2nd wife fucking multiple co-workers, and was zero'd out.

Took 2nd time to realize that common denominator was me and was how I found TRP, roughly 7 years ago. I did the hard work, I un-fucked myself, and now I'm back stronger than I ever was. My life has turned around in ways you can not imagine.

So yeah, believe me, I get it. I'm a vet here, I know this guy's history and he's done nothing.

Unless you're willing to smash a failed paradigm, develop mastery of your Frame, internalize abundance, and actually become a high-value man, you are dooming yourself to make the same mistakes over and over. Divorce is nothing more than a change of venue.

This guy wants a cookie for doing the easiest part. No.

[–]_-resonance-_0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Out of curiosity, who filed the initial petition?

[–]themerovingian01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I did.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

In this situation it was too little too late and the risks far exceeded any possible reward. If I kept at it for another 2-3 years and we still ended up getting divorced I would likely have owed alimony and taken a significant hit to my assets.

I did learn a lot from this community and throughout the process of ending the marriage. I know what I did right and what I did wrong and hope to not repeat those same mistakes.

For now I'm focused on reading, lifting, my daughter, and my business.

[–]z2a1-90 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Congrats

[–]rad_dynamic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Couldn't really give a fuck but I hope it all goes good for you in the future. You seem happy so more power to ya



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