Discovered LTR's cheating activity from 2017

TRPCops · 2020-05-07T13:46:34+00:00

Fyi since this isn't a question it belongs in regular TRP next time

coldestmichigan · 2020-05-07T12:32:14+00:00

Be like Pete

checkmarks26 · 2020-05-07T11:54:53+00:00

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monky-loves-you · 2020-05-07T11:37:26+00:00

Glad this isn't a post asking what to do. Good on you for nexting her immediately. Always trust but verify.

hiddenpersona · 2020-05-07T12:15:52+00:00

I’m glad you nexted and moved on.

There is no future LTR or wife for me. I know what girls are capable of in the presence of a hot man.

I experienced those things first hand.

I fingered a girl in a club and found out her bf was getting drinks and in a huge line. She introduced me as her college friend then moved on. I was like ??

I had a threesome with two traveling girls. Next week found out they both has husbands waiting at home. She still texts me she would like to see me when she visits my town again. I’m like ???

I had a blowjob from a girl in my car after a party, then dropped off her at some place. Guess where? Her boyfriend broke his legs, she is taking care of him tonight. I’m like ??

My buddy was hanging out with a girl but didn’t really tell us her name or her pictures. Just stories. I met with this chick and fucked her in my car. Then her phone started ringing. Guess who, it was my friend. Ugly thing is she knew I was his friend. I just didn’t know this bitch was his girl at that time. My friend didn’t believe me and we stopped talking. Why? Because some horny bitch craved some dick and drama that day.

Hanging out with a couple, the bf goes to bathroom. Suddenly the girl dropped something on the floor and crawls with her ass out towards me and my other friend. We are like ??

Those things happen not because I’m some sort of a greek god bodied chad. I’m a regular guy maybe with a good face and average height and semi fit body.

I don’t like fucking around with friends girls either. This just happens because a bitch is a bitch.

After all those experiences I simply can’t have a LTR or a wife.

Cheating for women has nothing to do with loyalty. It’s just part of the game. It’s like being on a clean diet and cheating every now and then for taste. It’s normal for them.

UEMcGill · 2020-05-07T13:24:39+00:00

Anyway, i am yet another victim

Are you? You were never a victim. Chalk it up to lack of wisdom. Getting engaged at 23? That's a poor life decision. The good news? All this is information to gain wisdom. At 30, I was a million times more competent than at 21. I had a lot of awesome times with fun chicks after college. So don't lament the past, it's a sunk cost.

ay-fuh-q · 2020-05-07T11:45:25+00:00

Thing is, during that time, that month, i had a gut feeling something wasn't connecting... So big lesson is, your gut feeling is almost never wrong.

Always.

One thing i admire about the bitch is, she would defend her innocence with her life. I never seen someone defend her herself so much like that. This has blindsided me a lot of times when i suspected something.

Gentlemen.... understand this. A woman who is cheating will lie and deny better than any man who gets accused of lying. The tears come on. The "how can you not trust me" lines come out. They will act offended, upset, hurt, etc., that you could accuse them of something so horrible. And the kicker... they say this with HIS cum still on her breath. I lived this shit. It's amazing how far women will carry the betrayal. Lies. Trickle truths. Gaslighting. Manipulation.

Today, i hit her with screenshots, she tried running it down, but she couldn't shake them off, line by line for the conversation...

I had to do that once. When she was in the "nothing happened" stage, she showed me edited screenshots, where she deleted PARTS of the conversation. The conversation made it look like it was all him. Years later, I found the REAL screenshots in her email. She saved the full conversation for herself before editing the conversation for me to see. Cheaters will deny everything until faced with facts IN WRITING or IN VIDEO or IN PICTURES.

I am quite happy with this breakup, because man, i have been wanting out, i just needed a legitimate reason for leaving now i finally caught the bitch.

Your main point of weakness. You wanted to leave her anyway, but waited for a reason. "Because I feel like it" is a reason. Work on this area.

Glad you nexted her. Many guys these days would be asking TRP what to do next.

macheagle · 2020-05-07T13:37:48+00:00

You’re one of the lucky few, OP. Take it from someone who found out years into a 6-year LTR while already in the corporate world and the two of us met on a business trip. We were in the same industry and knew each other’s clients, colleagues, etc. We were also living together. When it’s that invested and you’re much older, the immediate consequences of a breakup is much greater. It takes longer to recover also.

So go out and celebrate bro!!! You’re young and looking back I would rather have experienced that younger rather than older.

AuberyBitoni · 2020-05-07T14:05:56+00:00

It's crazy how they can lie to your face, even when you know the truth. They're so good at lying, they would almost start believing they actually didn't cheat.

TheMainGerman · 2020-05-07T14:29:23+00:00

Remember: Can't ever really trust women. Especially today.

2020-05-07T11:56:47+00:00

After my first relationship, I got cheated on and so I dumped her etc

I was holidaying in her home town shortly after and slept with 6 girls in a month.

Turns out 2 of them were her old highschool "friends" and they knew who I was but I didn't know who they were.

So without even entertaining the idea of revenge I got her back.

Been laughing ever since.

beastin007 · 2020-05-07T12:21:06+00:00

There will be tough times coming and you will be tested and tempted and the whole book will be thrown at you. Stick. It. Out.

LethalShade · 2020-05-07T16:23:50+00:00

It always blows my mind that people can betray their partner like this and comfortably still sleep next to them for years onward.

Rkingpin · 2020-05-07T12:11:33+00:00

You're on the right path.

Count me out in exclusive dating, this bitches got none to offer other than pussy

Yes she cheated on you. However as a man you must take responsibility for not vetting properly, and also attempting LTR in a hyper-sexualised environment like college.

Dont let this girl propel you into some kind of anger phase

2020-05-07T12:49:09+00:00

Should have fucked her mum

takka1013 · 2020-05-07T14:51:36+00:00

I feel you bro , i was with my ex LTR for 3 years , similar to you i figured out her insta password and found 2 convos with guys that she cheated on me with , these are the 2 i found out about who knows how many more there was . I ALSO HAD A GUT FEELING TOO . funny how that is . Goes to show u always listen to you gut !!! I fu#ked her off , it was crazy how even with the evidence i had the convos she still trird to deny and get out of it ..... crazy . Just goes to show you they will cheat and if u dont find out they will NEVER EVER TELL YOU . even if u find out they will try to deny it. Ive had a very bad imagine of girls ever since tbh . That was 5 years ago and ive been single ever since. These days i am looking for a potential ltr again but i cant seem to get thoughts out of my head tht they are all cheating wh#res. So makes it pretty hard for me to not second guess girls . Im seeing someone atm it might be over but im always 2nd guessing weather shes a sl#t or if shes actually decent lol ...

__TheDon__ · 2020-05-07T15:04:50+00:00

Another reason not to be in an LTR during college. I would’ve ghosted her without giving her any explanation, that would’ve made her go crazy. That’s what she deserves for cucking you, but good on you for moving on anyway.

Temptationn · 2020-05-07T20:10:08+00:00

Always trust your gut. Remember AWALT is not bullshit. My last LTR was a textbook “TRP Unicorn” foreigner, straight As in school, never partied or drank in her life, virgin when I met her, cooked, clean, etc and after 4 years I found her texting a dude she was in class with. I didn’t even hit the girl with a goodbye. I simply blocked her on everything, and she never even bothered to reach out to me. They are now dating for almost a year now but it goes to show no matter how good the girl is when you meet her, any behavior changes you make (I was losing frame a bit in the end but to be fair I wanted her to leave lol) will result in her leaving

UriahTheChosen · 2020-05-07T14:14:24+00:00

If anything the lesson to learn is leave when you want to and not when you should.

mysteryspoN · 2020-05-07T14:36:03+00:00

This scares the shit out of me... as someoneone going into an LTr just before college... fuck

beholdthemaverick · 2020-05-07T20:51:08+00:00

When there is doubt, there is no doubt my friend. Our gut evolved over millennia to be able to detect fuckery just like this.

Always trust your gut. You don’t owe anyone reasons for shit either.

You took an L. Most of us have in the past, me included. This was your rite of passage.

Your eyes hurt because you’ve never had to open them before.

Now it’s time for you to write the awesome story of your life.

After you get over this, make peace with what happened, the anger is gone, and you have accepted the parts you played in all this, you will be an ice cold motherfucker.

If you can reach some kind of acceptance, you’ll not only be happier cause you took the lessons for what they were and learned from them, but you’ll be extra vigilant about red flags with future chicks.

You should be giving out your commitment the way they ration meat during a famine my guy.

Keep these bitches perpetually auditioning.

KingGerbz · 2020-05-07T19:29:29+00:00

I haven’t even been here for a year and I’ve lost track of the amount of “I ignored my gut and paid dearly for it, trust your gut” type of posts and comments. Stop thinking your hoe-in-unicorn clothing is the exception to evolution and biology.

dgillz · 2020-05-07T12:50:19+00:00

You do not need a reason to leave. Stop thinking like that.

PRW63 · 2020-05-07T12:54:38+00:00

now i am just picking the one's with high value.

How do you know that??? If you think they are HV,...so does every other guy. The ones that are HV get the most opportunity, the more opportunity the more they will go for it,...the HV ones are the ones with the higher notch count,...because they CAN. So everyone of them could be cheating on you.

jackandjill22 · 2020-05-07T15:20:38+00:00

Damn. Good job tho

Lateralanouncer · 2020-05-08T01:22:36+00:00

You, not a victim. You had your Turn with her and had the best she has to offer ie sex. Unless during your ltr you became lazy and didn't grow yourself you didn't lose anything

helppc493838 · 2020-05-08T01:41:09+00:00

I dont understand this post. I'd say it almost feels like a troll but it probably isn't. It's just how ridiculous the concept is that a woman could throw away a 5 yr LTR. 5 YEARS DUDE! is any guy safe??

bminusmusic · 2020-05-14T22:52:11+00:00

As some others have said, you don’t need a reason to break up with someone. There doesn’t need to be some huge crux moment, which is what my ex thought. It sounds like you weren’t satisfied and had wanted out for a long time yet you settled. That is ok, I fell for the same line of thinking, I stayed in when I just wanted to be free because I felt like she was too nice to me. Ultimately this led . We’re young, it’s best to make these mistakes and realize them now as opposed to repeating them throughout our 20s. Be happy that you’re realizing this now and not years down the road when you might even be legally binded together by marriage!

I’m sorry to hear about the cheating man, but fuck her honestly. I’m sure she tried to defend herself by saying “it was 3 years ago and only like a month!” There’s never an excuse for cheating.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-05-27T14:53:11+00:00

Checkin wassup, found, some hooking up in 2017(in college) with several guys that year. And it was said to be our best year together.

She had lots of her cake, and was eating more of her cake than ever before. It was like the best thing since crack for her.

One thing i admire about the bitch is, she would defend her innocence with her life.

People who lack a functional sense of guilt, remorse, or responsibility can only experience feelings of innocence and wrongful persecution by default.

A related trait to this is a smooth lack of concern for being discovered that they're not what they claim to be.

I never seen someone defend her herself so much like that.

This is a pretty typical trait of people on the spectrum of Narcissism, Borderline, Histrionic, Antisocial Personality Disorders etc. They consist of 100% ego, feelings, beliefs, and image. 0% facts and substance.

Like I said, It's a spectrum of mental impairment from modest to severe.

This has blindsided me a lot of times when i suspected something.

OK, I feel like doing a deep dive here.

In some sense, this kind of narcissism can be seen as a pervasive development delay. That is, a failure to develop more mature mental traits like empathy, a strong connection to the outside world, responsibility, and concern over long term consequences of their choices.

Secondly, women like to brag about how fucking great and special their parental instinct is, but there's really no reason to think there's any difference in parental instinct between men and women. Being a deabeat is largely taught behavior.

Thirdly people on the Narcissism Spectrum tend to respond to being confronted by pulling out the same toolkit in all cases. 1) Charm offensive and denial 2) Hostility, rage and invalidations. 3) Victimhood, pouting, crocodile tears. 4) Discard and pretend the responsible party doesn't exist.

This isn't a coincidence that they do this. It's the same way very young children respond to being confronted by their parents. It's instinctive behavior and the purpose is to manipulate a parent's parental instinct.

So I think the fact that you saw her as being pure, sweet and innocent, vulnerable, flustered, a bit scatterbrained, and this was all a silly misunderstanding you needed to be more compassionate about. That's not an accident. She appealed to your parental instinct to lay off, and not treat her harshly. People with these kind of personality disorders don't really have any other way of dealing with confrontation, so over time and practice than can be disturbingly good at it.

I wasted, college fucking and my time ,

I mean, being lied to isn't some kind of felony.

Plus the sex was good, even if she was really a nasty fake cheating swine, and wasn't who you thought. Better still, you don't have a bunch of medical bills to pay, unlike physical injuries. Cost of treatment and recovery is a couple stiff drinks, maybe.

but that is alright. I cry not. Things are looking good for me past school, i have had offers coming in, now i am just picking the one's with high value.

Cheers.

Hope some of this helps.

Raizzen · 2020-05-07T12:39:07+00:00

I mean she’s doing her (aside from a hundred other guys obviously lol). So you do you. Of course she’s gonna protect her reputation at all cost. It’s her profession lol.

In any case you took this like a champ 👊

Stargazer34 · 2020-05-07T13:10:19+00:00

"i just needed a legitimate reason for leaving "

WRONG. Found the beta

ViolentInteger · 2020-05-07T14:40:40+00:00

Today, i hit her with screenshots

Why? So you could vent your butthurt? Get validation from her for your decision? To inflict emotional distress for your own satisfaction?

Each possible reason is a lame blue-pill reason.

Count me out in exclusive dating, this bitches got none to offer other than pussy

And here we have another beginner in RP theory who can't fully understand women.

It's not her fault. It was YOURS. YOU failed to vet her properly. YOU failed to keep your SMV high. She merely acted like the 300,000 years of evolution told her to.

Until you learn and internalize these facts, you will never be able to grow past this level you're at and you will never truly understand the world.

DaftOdyssey · 2020-05-07T12:31:29+00:00

When it comes to disconnect, would it be possible you can make a post about it? Like signs of disconnect or simply just your anecdotal experience

Wtfbyamey · 2020-05-07T12:36:28+00:00

But you guys are still lucky, girls there have sex in colleges If you live in shithole India, and that too if in v conservative societies , then it takes atleast a month in relationships to move past base 2 No hookups, no ons, unless the girl is ugly AF, or you are a millionaire

Girls in India don’t give af about your looks Fucking ugly , coldhearted bitches

Ivabighairy1 · 2020-05-07T17:30:18+00:00

Da fuq I just read?

Anyone else creeped out by this post?

You hack her e-mail and Facebook and take screenshots because you’re butthurt.

I think this is called stalking.

If you were married, I can understand doing it. But an LTR?

With how whiny and clingy you are it’s no wonder she was getting laid like tile elsewhere.

You are NOT Red Pill nor any where near it.

Hit the sidebar

communistcontrolact · 2020-05-07T11:44:47+00:00

You should’ve ruined her life in any way possible with access to her accounts

Come on dude. Bitches who don’t act right need to be punished

cfbovernfl · 2020-05-08T03:59:44+00:00

Uh... okay. I don't know why you think any of us care tbh. This isn't even a question and you should be banned. Furthermore, girls will be loyal if you deserve it. Obviously you weren't a great option and she branch swung. Blame yourself, not her.

gtfaf · 2020-05-07T12:44:56+00:00

Just punish her as a plate and move on

Title	Discovered LTR's cheating activity from 2017
Author	Soms619
Upvotes	288
Comments	143
Date	07 May 2020 11:30 AM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	askTRP
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