Why does this seem like propaganda for being polygamous? It’s really annoying

mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-05-25T04:05:16+00:00

you have the thought, Do I want to be poly?

No, I don’t have the thought. And no I’m not interested in bonobos. I’m not interested in giving any bonobo the time of the day by hearing them talk either. That audacity made me laugh.

Sage_Planter · 2020-05-25T05:10:16+00:00

A few years ago, I read an article written by a poly woman. Reading the article left me exhausted. Her lifestyle sounded so tiresome. One man is more than enough. Two? No thank you.

nymphaetamine · 2020-05-25T09:32:43+00:00

The poly pushers always talk about monogamy as if we all secretly want multiple partners but are forced to stay with one person at proverbial gunpoint by, idk, the church?(they usually cite Christianity as the reason we’re all “forced” into monogamy). I am not religious. I like monogamy. I don’t want to share my partner not do I want more than one. The thought of either of us sleeping with someone else nauseates me. Polyamory seems best suited for people who are bad at picking faithful partners, who’ve given up on ever finding one and have arrived at the “whatever, fuck it” point.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-05-25T04:55:58+00:00

LVM propaganda. Trashy.

blerty567 · 2020-05-25T03:37:22+00:00

“....Which is great”

Like ok that’s .... impartial.

I got this from the Snapchat news page

Wait__No__What · 2020-05-25T05:25:56+00:00

"...benefit from further interrogating compulsory monogamy"

This is the most awkwardly written thing I've ever read. I mean, yeah, you can question a concept or a social construct, but if you're going to interrogate it, that's means you expect it to answer back. Like, what?

And I'm straight up going to take a swing at the next person who uses "thrupple" in a conversation with me. Guess that means I'm not feeling very poly.

Oh well, maybe I can catch the next bullshit fad.

watchoutwoman · 2020-05-25T09:26:01+00:00

Once again this poly shit being shoved down women's throats is advocating for multiple women and one guy. I weep for the women of the next generation.

sofiacarolina · 2020-05-25T04:54:43+00:00

No the video did not make me wanna be poly, all it did was make my synesthesia act up and I could smell everybody’s BO

VaporwaveVampire · 2020-05-25T07:51:21+00:00

Many poly people admit jealousy is very much a thing. Monogamous relationships have their problems as is. I can’t imagine how chaotic a polyamorous thing would be

noavocadoshere · 2020-05-25T09:20:48+00:00

interrogating compulsory monogamy.

who writes like this? absolutely insufferable.

pinkyberries · 2020-05-25T06:40:52+00:00

Poly relationships never last longer than a few years unless both of the people are very mentally ill and "hippie" types who smoke weed 24/7 and talk about "vibing".

cherthemusical · 2020-05-25T15:19:41+00:00

How is his video any different then most videos from the past 30 years? A bunch of scantily clad women dancing around one man and making sexual innuendo? So revolutionary. I'm disappointed in Harry.

2020-05-25T19:15:02+00:00

I don't know any poly people who are happy or well-adjusted. Polyamory overwhelmingly attracts abusers and emotionally unavailable people who don't know how to have a real relationship. All the poly couples I know end up getting divorced or are somehow still together despite abuse, addiction, and other crippling issues.

Of course if you say this, you're the bad guy. Meanwhile nobody in the poly community cares how creepy they are or how they disrespect other people's boundaries. Multiple girlfriends and I have horror stories about poly couples creeping on us and refusing to hear our "no."

Poly people can say those people were anomalies all they like, but it's the norm. I tried giving it the benefit of the doubt but every poly community I've met has been a shit show and it's so bad that I can't even be friends with poly people because they inevitably get creepy.

2020-05-25T20:58:56+00:00

I am so old that i remember times that this kind of behavior was labeled as depraved and promiscuous.

butterflyhatch · 2020-05-25T14:26:09+00:00

If poly was one woman with multiple hvm maybe. But we all know poly is just one way 🙄

CedarBrush01 · 2020-05-25T14:15:59+00:00

Frankly... My biggest critique of polyamory in the current social context is how it's been manipulated by colonialism to most benefit mediocre white men.

Hearing my community elders share stories handed down from pre-contact, as well as analyses from Naomi Sayers on marriage/family law and Dr. Kim Tallbear on polyamory, indicate to me that the monogamy-based nuclear family is very much a social construct that was forced on my and my kin's nations in an effort to harm and undermine our societies. Monogamy has been used to assimilate us along with other inumerable tactics of violence. However, do I think modern-day polyamory is the solution? No. The solution is looking at how devalued women, two-spirit/trans/GNC people are in comparison to men. To me, that is the actual issue. And I wish The Cut would talk about that instead of promoting polyamory under the face of yet another privileged white man.

Title	Why does this seem like propaganda for being polygamous? It’s really annoying
Author	blerty567
Upvotes	105
Comments	39
Date	May 25, 2020 3:36 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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