Hi FDS sisters, I’m fairly new to this sub, but I’ve spent lot of time on here trying to learn how to make better decisions.

I just had a situation arise and could use some advice.

A bit of background...My boyfriend and I just got into a fight, after a very tense few days. We’ve dated off and on for about a year and a half and started dating for the third time in February right before everything with covid-19 happened. We decided to shelter in place together, as we live about an hour apart and knew that we weren’t going to be seeing friends and family for a while in order to protect them and ourselves. (Maybe this was a mistake, but it seemed like a good option at the time given the crazy circumstances). We’ve been alternating between our homes in order to have a little bit of change of scenery, since we’re not able to go many other places right now. My boyfriend is a really good guy and I thought a very HVM. He’s treated me very well, is caring, and attentive to my needs.

However, we got into an argument tonight after he initiated sex and I asked him if it would be ok if we just took it easy tonight and hung out. I’ve been having very bad anxiety about a few different unrelated issues. I’ve also been struggling with the frequency he wants sex (every day, very often multiple times per day). I don’t think the amount he wants is bad, it’s just not the frequency that I’m comfortable with right now (I’d prefer 2-4 times per week). Our differences in this area have caused continued stress over the time we’ve been staying together, but we’ve been trying to communicate about it and figure out a solution that makes us both feel comfortable.

We were arguing for several hours earlier tonight and eventually I got tired and just wanted to go to sleep. He kept trying to make out with me and continue to get me to talk after I’d said I was just exhausted and would be able to better talk about things in the morning. He tried making out with me again and when I pulled away (not in the mood to make out after hours of stress/arguing and being exhausted), he asked me what I was feeling. My reply was, “worn out”. He looked at me and said, “get out”. So I did. I grabbed my backpack and said, “ok.” He then got upset and started saying things like, “So you’re just going to give up?”, “You’re just going to leave me?”, “Can I go back to your house with you?”, “Let’s just go to sleep”, etc. Maybe I should have stayed, but I didn’t want to. If a man tells me to get out, I’m not going to stay. I’m thinking this relationship might not be working, but I’m also afraid that if he is a HVM, I’ll regret breaking up.

Was I overreacting? Would it be wise to continue talking and see if we can work through our issues? Would you stay with someone who told you to get out in an argument?

** Edit: Thank you all so much for your advice. It’s been really helpful to get some objective opinions on this and has actually made me feel encouraged. I feel very icky about his actions and also feel like the security/safety I had with him is done now. I know breaking up will be difficult, but I know I can’t stay in this situation either. I think I knew immediately last that I wanted to end this, but needed a little push to listen to my feelings. I really appreciate everyone in this community very much!