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Bf is insecure, because gf’s ex(hvm) still pays all her bills

mistflower97

April 20, 2020

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Title	Bf is insecure, because gf’s ex(hvm) still pays all her bills
Author	mistflower97
Upvotes	19
Comments	98
Date	April 20, 2020 12:06 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/g4iffd/bf_is_insecure_because_gfs_exhvm_still_pays_all/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/bf-is-insecure-because-gfs-exhvm-still-pays-all.678007 https://theredarchive.com/post/678007

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A man with means who sees no problem in continuing to enhance the life of a woman he cares for but can't be in a proper relationship with and is honest with her is a HVM trait to me. Not saying that the ex is because none of us can determine that from this one post.

As for stringing the new guy along, we don't know how long they've been dating. Could have been three months. Maybe even a year. Regardless, would you throw all that away for a new guy who you won't know is a HVM until years later of vetting? If anything, it's a good way of sorting the LVMs or the men who don't meet her bar.

If I were in her situation it'd be the best to be post breakup imo. There have been discussions on this sub before about this exact thing, all in favor because no one is actually getting hurt. This new dude is hurting himself and there is no ring on her finger.

Edit: We know nothing about this woman's life (career, education, etc) as the new guy only bitched about his insecurities.

From the comments I'm seeing so far you sisters would drag this woman and side with this dude, which makes no sense to me.

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If my ex wants to give me money I'm taking it.

The reason why FDS advocates having a man invest in you financially... is because for most men, investing financially means investing emotionally. Means they are spending their hard earned coin on you to make sure your affections are earned. And they are not just dating 10 other women because all their budget is going to keeping YOU happy.

This man has invested in this woman and is continuing to invest in her. That is all that we can know. We know literally nothing else. Everything else is assumption.

Why are we complimenting men who have soooo much money that they can just keep their exes on the hook with 1/100000 of their annual income? It does not cost them extra. It is not an emotional investment to be dropping coin on her when he has enough resources that it doesn't make that much of a difference to him. He's already told her he can't take her seriously.

Who's throwing around compliments, sis? No one. The obvious is being lointed out. Most of the women of FDS will breakup with their "HVM", go no contact, and he on't make sure to see her happiness through. If we're complaining about men who do this for women I have no idea where the bar should be for ya'll.

Also, assuming she's on the hook because she's taking his money even though she is actively looking for someone else. I would do the same. If you don't want your ex's money take it and forward it to me.

Edit: see my other posts

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How is that HVM behavior? If a not rich not hot guy was her ex would you be singing the same tune?

This is hypothetical and has nothing to do with this situation. You seem to want to question the character of her ex but we have no more information other than a LVM insecurity mental breakdown.

Her ex is rich and he is hot. If he wasn't then we'd be talking about that instead of this.

Supposedly this woman is a vapid pickmeisha for knowing her worth? She deserves to be taken care of post breakup and to put herself in a position to find someone else to love whivh everyone know is better done when you have money - regardless of her finances, career, education.

How is her ex breaking up with her any difrerent from FDSers breaking up with HVM who weren't the one for them?

You ladies can't seem to grasp that a HVM would ever do something like this for you. So I say it's time to level up mentally.

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You stop.

You clearly have not paid attention to anything that I've said over the course of this thread.

Go back and read it again before making baseless claims.

No one said this ex is HV (excpt the OP in the title)and I've stated this at least four times and no one here apparently can read through their tiggered reefees. He has a HV trait. That is all.

And I have said repeatedly that if you want to know you need to go to the post that was made by that male and getore details. Everyone convenintly ignores that also.

I'll be making a post about High Warning HVM anyways. I see a pattern here in FDS since I joined that is limiting and promotes a terrible pickme traits when it comes to this. So that will be addressed.

You have not been ignored. Women get called pickme on this sub every day. Actual members. None of us have not been and FDS is here for that reason. You'll understand when I write my post.

Either way, do you and try not to limit the love of the HVM who eventually does come into your life.

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I will delete this post in a few days because I don't want it in my history. But I absolutely use men for money and am not into them. At all. Once you turn the tables on these guys and DGAF about them, its amazing the benefits you receive.

Granted, I pay for my house and my car and everyone I date knows that I'm dating around. But there are a lot of women out there taking advantage of men. Should she toss the now "boyfriend" back into the market? Maybe. But that's not for me to say. From my perspective, she's been upfront about the situation (again, as far as we can tell).

Men have been screwing women over for time eternal. If a guy is willing to give you any kind of benefits, who am I to tell you not take them? Get after it.

I will never judge a woman for having her cake and eating it too and I feel 0% sorry for all the men involved.

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