Advice needed: Taken men in committed relationships liking a lot of seductive photos of other women. Is this low value?

Hanna-love · 2020-06-16T21:31:54+00:00

OUT OUT OUT. This is BAD news. What you've seen is probably the tip of the iceberg. Guys like this don't see anything wrong with what they're doing and will never respect your feelings. He has already lied to you to assuage you temporarily and blamed you for being upset at something he said he wouldn't do (??? men logic). OUT.

electroloop · 2020-06-16T22:47:32+00:00

Leave. If you’re high profile, conventionally attractive, and successful, he definitely does not see that or respect you. He would go ape shit if you started following buff models and liking their photos. It’s a respect thing. LVM behaviour.

cherieblosum · 2020-06-16T22:21:01+00:00

Trashy to do it. Disrespectful for him to not care about how it makes you feel. Think about if you want to pursue this. Behavior like this only gets worse with time.

lmnsatang · 2020-06-17T01:25:17+00:00

his LVM sign is flashing in all its neon lighted glory. don't just leave - run.

i have a fitness insta page, and i get many guys who follow me who obviously have girlfriends. some even DM me lmao. personally, this behavior disgusts me but my page is monetize so i'll gladly take the likes and comments and i never respond to them :)

i compare these LVM with my bf, who doesn't even have instagram. why does he even need it? he has me, and honestly SM is a waste of time if it's not monetized because what exactly are you getting out of it other than mindless swiping?

throwmefaraway85 · 2020-06-16T23:22:10+00:00

This behavior is some of the lowest of the low.

Girl, you're beautiful, have an amazing job, friends, and I bet hobbies. You deserve someone who loves and appreciates you and is committed to your relationship, not a low value slave to his primitive instincts who gaslights you when you call him out. You already know are worth so much more, that's why you had to ask ♥️

Dump him and never look back

CassieGreen85 · 2020-06-17T00:14:51+00:00

Words are cheap, his actions tell you exactly what garbage he is, not to mention he's negging you (blaming you! WTF!) with that "looking for trouble" accusation.

msromperstomper · 2020-06-17T01:25:41+00:00

Dump him. This kind of comparison game will eat you alive. Seconding what another person said - this has zero to do with you and is all about his inability or unwillingness to control his base urges. And who knows, if he didn’t use social media he would be the type to gawk or chase after these women in person.

2020-06-17T01:33:18+00:00

Don’t stay with him to the point you find the screenshot downloads he uses to jerk off to.

LadyGrimes · 2020-06-17T03:30:52+00:00

He won't change he'll only get better about hiding it. Next him seriously.

ImPiqued1111111 · 2020-06-17T03:31:17+00:00

Why would he need to make an effort to change his behavior? He could just not do it.

SuccessfulShow5 · 2020-06-17T05:11:49+00:00

Go ahead and look at the first post I made on my Profile ... all I can tell you is that what you allow will continue. No you are not wrong in disapproving this behavior. Many women are OK with this, but that doesn’t mean YOU have to be ok with it . And if he knows you aren’t OK with it and he keeps doing it anyway that’s disrespect. That goes with any issue really.

I’ve been seeing this particular issue with social media frequently on this sub Reddit lately and also other HVW forums is there like a bug going around with men?!! What’s going on?! Is it the pandemic causing men to just be indoors and bored and glued to IG?

deerstop · 2020-06-17T09:56:50+00:00

It's not about the photos. It's about you telling him that X makes you very uncomfortable and disrespected. He keeps doing X blatantly. Yes, it's bad.

ErikaNaumann · 2020-06-17T12:42:05+00:00

It's bad that he follow those women 🚩 It's worse that he lied to you 🚩 It's even worse that he tried to gaslight you 🚩

3 red flags. You should leave when you see one, you got a bundle already. What are you waiting for?

throw248348 · 2020-06-17T19:37:19+00:00

is this even a question?????????? sounds like you know the answer

laeriel_c · 2020-06-18T09:35:53+00:00

Trust your gut, it IS low value and trashy. Even more so because hes unwilling to take your feelings into account and stop his shitty behaviour. That means he doesn't care how you feel and disrespects you. Get out before you get too caught up in this, it's so damaging in the long run. My current partner was following a couple of cosplayers when we met that weren't even particularly trashy, and he unfollowed them when we became exclusive without me even asking! If anyone makes you feel crazy you should get out ASAP.

2020-06-17T03:06:19+00:00

Men like looking at half naked and fully naked women and nothing you do or say will stop them from doing so, I promise you. They’ll just get better at hiding it. I wouldn’t stress myself out about that if I was you.

rinabean · 2020-06-17T12:44:49+00:00

Is he the same guy you already posted about hitting up his ex for sex a month ago?

And the one who makes you feel weird always complimenting your beauty and never anything else about you?

There is no point being exclusive with a guy you don't know is high value, that is you limiting yourself from finding a HVM

I feel like it’s low value and trashy.

you're damn right so stop hedging saying you're not sure if he's HV or not, he's not

I'm angry on your behalf. He shouldn't have done that in the first place and that even after you told him how it makes you feel, he's still doing it... and blamed you! That's outrageous. So disrespectful

Respect yourself, don't give him any more second chances. He didn't deserve the first. You can do so much better than a man who makes you feel insecure and makes false promises!

ChristianGirl93 · 2020-06-17T15:07:23+00:00

Yep.

Title	Advice needed: Taken men in committed relationships liking a lot of seductive photos of other women. Is this low value?
Author	Quizillla
Upvotes	43
Comments	43
Date	June 16, 2020 6:39 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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