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[–]InexperiencedZamboniFDS Newbie197 points198 points199 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I remember telling my ex i loved him. His response was:
I know, you've always known how to love me. I'm so lucky.
TF?
[–]manisfestationqueenFDS Apprentice58 points59 points60 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Lol I can relate. Mine walked away. Literally left my place. The avoidance to love, yet it's looking right at them. Aww...
[–]Incredible_AlligatorFDS Newbie24 points25 points26 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Same here. I spilled my guts and he decided never to speak to me ever again. Hoping I don't develop a complex now 🙄
[–]manisfestationqueenFDS Apprentice36 points37 points38 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Definitely avoidant attachment . They push love away, then cry because they are lonely.
[–]Radenoughyet36 points37 points38 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Jesus what is wrong with these men? After saying “I love you” for a year to each other, after listening to a Drake song, my ex decided he couldn’t say it to me anymore, because he “really only loves his bed and his momma”. Mind you, his bed is a very lumpy pullout couch in his mom’s living room that he actually did not love at all.
[–]InexperiencedZamboniFDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have no words to express how absolutely ridiculous that is. I actually face palmed reading it.
[–]I_AM_TARAFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow so romantic 😍
[–]FDStrategistFDS Newbie189 points190 points191 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Omg this is so on the nose. I used to hold a lot of resentment because of this but now I’ve let it go
[–]LylaethFDS Newbie205 points206 points207 points 3 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
My exes didn’t love me, they just loved the hand that fed them so to speak.
[–]mermaid-babeFDS Newbie161 points162 points163 points 3 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
When my ex and I broke up I was pretty much over it before it happened. I cried in the moment and that was it. Now a year later I get so angry. He really didn’t love me. He rarely said anything positive to me. His complete lack of affection could almost be excused if he acted like he gave a shit. I couldn’t imagine being in relationship for as long as we were and not loving someone. But he can’t be alone, so he just kept me down and on hand for when he needed attention
[–]lilygranhpp00FDS Newbie93 points94 points95 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Its sad that so many women relate to this. I find the anger is the hardest thing to let go of
[–]radical__daphneRuthless Strategist57 points58 points59 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The anger is good lesson and not letting yourself get used in the long run though.
[–]LylaethFDS Newbie45 points46 points47 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I’m sorry he used you like that. But lesson learned right? We are done putting in more effort than what we receive. We deserve someone that wants us just as much as we want them. Keep going strong girly ❤️
[–]mermaid-babeFDS Newbie51 points52 points53 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Definitely. I’m not gonna convince a man to want to date me. If he wants me, he’ll act like it. It’s so sad that I have to actively learn not to do this
[–]enharmoniaFDS Newbie26 points27 points28 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I feel/felt the exact same way about my abusive ex: when I finally was able to break up with him I wasn't sad about it at all. Now when I think about the situation I just get angry that I wasted my time.
[–]lunan4FDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I also get so angry every time I think about it and the time I lost. And what really bothers me is that he makes me feel so angry with myself for not having realized this long ago. So I still give him what he doesn't deserve: my precious time being wasted in hating him.
[–]hairspray30008 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It makes me so mad that they get to win by treating us like shit then forgetting about us, while we're left dealing with anger for ages after. It's been a year. He's happily living his life, thinking he's perfect, while I'm thinking once a day about how awful a person he was/is.
[–]Solid-LiquidFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. When I look back at old texts and his actions, I’m like “how could I have been so stupid?”. Mine ex kept me around for sex and not much else, took a while for me to realize that
[–]glowinupThrowaway Account1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
‘Scuse me? You dated my ex??
[–]BlueSilk972710 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Or how naive and easily manipulated I was. 🤦♀️
[–]the_real_veruca_saltFDS Newbie55 points56 points57 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Omg can you believe it took until my LDR ex cancelled visiting me with the excuse 'i just don't really care about you' until I finally dumped him. He really thought he could get away with that. The audacity.
[–]lanadelhayyFDS Newbie55 points56 points57 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The volume inside of this bus is astronomical
[–]seraphinelysionFDS Apprentice52 points53 points54 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I was scammed for way too long. Rather be in an MLM than experience this again.
[–]SayNadFDS Apprentice27 points28 points29 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
But if you think about it, LVM/NVM way of scamming is pretty much the same as MLM way of recruiting - it is textbook strategy of narcissists finding victims.
[–]seraphinelysionFDS Apprentice19 points20 points21 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes, but an MLM only fucks with your bank account. A L/NVM fucks you AND your bank account. Lol
[–]badnewsbroad76FDS Newbie46 points47 points48 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ouch..I felt that too hard :( Knife to my gut..ughh
[–]manisfestationqueenFDS Apprentice40 points41 points42 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Is ok babygirl! You are an empathetic angel, and even though someone took advantage, do not lose what makes you the epitome of love. The person who is getting this love next will fully deserve it and act like it. It will be reciprocated. I refuse to make undeserving men make me bitter. I'm just more careful with my love now. Do one will dim my light! We are naturally giving and loving, and there's people out here in this world who deserves and will earn this love
[–]GenometricPickmeisha™️19 points20 points21 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I feel this! I never let my bitterness over what the previous fool did to me spill over into the next relationship. I don't WANT to become some cold, heartless bitch who hates men and uses them. At my core, I WANT to give love and affection and care and make someone happy, the way a relationship is SUPPOSED to be; just have to find the right person who appreciates that shit and doesn't take it for granted!
[–]manisfestationqueenFDS Apprentice15 points16 points17 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes reading things here. Some women are literal angels and I'd hate to see that side of them go because of an ungrateful crusty boy. We just have to scan them early and take red flags seriously.
[–]crimebunny4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks. I needed this.
[–]bootyandthebeetFDS Newbie25 points26 points27 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is how I feel at the moment. Recently my NVM-ex broke up with me and he even told me I always made him feel loved, well that makes one of us 😔 I also feel anger that I wasn’t the one to break up with him, because I honestly had so many more valid reasons to. Argh, never again am I going to put up with so much crap.
[–]thealamo369FDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I really needed this today. Broke up with my ex recently because he wasn’t giving the slightest effort. When we broke up he said he wanted to “figure things out” with himself and then get back together because he now knows what it’s like to truly be loved and wanted to show that he could truly love me. I was like lol you think I’m going to sit and wait for your dumb ass to come back and treat me like shit again!? I told him I never wanted to speak to him again.
[–]rivkadiditFDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
At least we can love right. Knowing that is what keeps me sane.
Knowing how proud I am of myself for my pure heart and intentions. My parents did so well with me and no man can taint my morality and ethics.
[–]sadgirlhappydemonsFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Big mood
[–][deleted] 20 points21 points22 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well you know how it feels to really love someone. He knows how it feels to be a real long term asshole.
[–]jucamonoleFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This hits home... 😒
[–]loose_leaf_kitt10 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fuck :(
[–]Zadi3l12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I loved my ex. My ex loved what I did for him.
[–]Newwavesupport3657FDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was raised by a porn user mormon who wanted a mini wife. I didn’t get to experience it cause I couldn’t reciprocate due to abuse behind the scenes I didn’t want to accept so I tried to date anyway and got threatened. I felt loved momentarily but as we know mixed signals =no so they understandably stopped putting in an effort. (Teenager, now adult.)
I feel like online porn got bad post 2009. I miss innocence.
I believe most men cannot love. They do not love women. They love feminity and want sex slaves and maids. They want women to validate them without giving anything in return. I’m repulsed. I see too many women talking about their partners who they swore were “loving” raping them in their sleep. It’s scary! Men are scary. No wonder so many women don’t feel loved... men aren’t loving. Most of them are abusive honestly.
Not gonna fall for that cause I’ve seen it. Getting good at spotting ref flags. Just sad it seems like every. Single. Man. Is a raging red flag. Even non violent ones.
[–]itisbetterwithbutterFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You got to love that’s a gift. When someone doesn’t love us back they don’t even receive our love they just like the attention so you actually got a lot more out of this both in the love you gave and the heartbreak it caused. The price of unrequited love but it’s worth it in the end. Keep moving forward and you’ll find the guy who thinks you’re as awesome as you think he is.
[–]mscristalconnorsFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Did it just once. Nope. Never again. I feel bad for the guys I date because I have zero interest in loving them.
I rather love my family, friends, cats, my succulents and my weed....but never a man again.
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Apprentice5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
👊
[–]LifeinGrey4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m in this situation right now. Broke up with my boyfriend because he cheated when he was stationed overseas. Got back together, got married like two months after I turned 18, dropped everything to move in with him, and not even a year later I have to leave because I can’t stand the abuse anymore. I’m scared to leave because I have no where to bring my pets and I refuse to leave them because they’re all I have left now. I gave him everything but I got nothing return. It hurts so bad :(
[–]breadandbunnyFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup
[–]EaslinloveFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I felt this in my bones
[–]lilith-nessFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I did, and being miserable too.
(Far away and a long time ago)
[–]Noirelise2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
damn this made me sad :/
[–]ObscureGoldenSphere1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Aaaawwww
[–]Icedmocha123FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hits home 👁👄👁
[–]typeadhdFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And I oop-
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