Don’t. Even. Think. About. It.

greenetea63 · 2020-07-06T20:03:25+00:00

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pinksuede · 2020-07-06T20:30:15+00:00

"moving more quickly than you'd like out of fear you'll be rejected if you don't" <--- big one for me

OrchidLion · 2020-07-06T20:05:35+00:00

I've never let things go when I was hurt and violated and I've always been angry and always felt the right to be angry. It's justified because how fucking dare they.

Unfortunately doing that has kept me stuck and umhappy after the fact. I need to now learn to let stuff go because I tend to hold on to things forever. Time does not heal all wounds.

onthechainwaxx · 2020-07-06T20:41:32+00:00

I have done all of these. No more.

ironymaiden87 · 2020-07-06T21:30:22+00:00

Argh this was me with my ex for four years. I was even aware of it at the time but I kept doing it because I didn't want to be single. So glad I saw the light and dumped him. I'll never do any of this again.

Jasmineof-Agrabah · 2020-07-06T21:26:10+00:00

I feel it applies with friends and family too.

muffy2008 · 2020-07-07T00:22:01+00:00

This is why I am so happy I found this sub. This sums up my dating life until recently. I didn’t realize it was okay for me to have boundaries and stick to them. I always thought I was “over-reacting” or being “too needy”. Fuck that noise. I’ve learned I am happier by myself than being In a relationship that leaves me emotionally exhausted and always questioning my value.

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-07-06T23:28:16+00:00

Fuck letting it go.

I'm gunna try this thing I heard about called holding people RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR SHIT.

swatir24 · 2020-07-07T01:59:08+00:00

Did all of this for an entire year and that was so exhausting. Towards the end, it was like every cell in my body was screaming at me to get out. I didn't, for a long time, because trauma bonding is one hell of a drug.

veruscka · 2020-07-06T22:07:42+00:00

Damn. This is like a description of me when I was in my 20’s 😞

southernkelle · 2020-07-07T01:42:29+00:00

I've committed all these sins and more in every relationship for 20+ years. At this point I really dont think I'll ever be able to trust myself to have another relationship.

arwenagon24999 · 2020-07-06T20:48:18+00:00

Thank u for this list! Saved in my favorites for when I need a reminder :)

Happycatchariot · 2020-07-06T22:22:21+00:00

It's like being slapped with the truth. Painful and stinging.

lachinoiseroserubis · 2020-07-06T21:51:00+00:00

Its sad, i did that with my ex...

fairywakes · 2020-07-08T04:54:26+00:00

Needed to read this!

Title	Don’t. Even. Think. About. It.
Author	greenetea63
Upvotes	1087
Comments	33
Date	July 6, 2020 7:31 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/hmepg4/dont_even_think_about_it/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/dont-even-think-about-it.705540 https://theredarchive.com/post/705540

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