For the men that love to ask “What was she wearing” when a woman says she has been raped. Explain this!😴😴

trettles · 2020-07-09T02:56:41+00:00

It's also common in countries where women are covered head to toe. It's almost as if what women wear isn't the problem.

meecy166 · 2020-07-09T04:30:53+00:00

This reminds me of the post about Egypt and how oppressed the women are, even when they are fully covered in burkas. Also if it’s the woman that is so wrong and sexually seductive, why don’t lesbians rape women at such high rates that men do, I mean lesbians see women everyday in short skirts, crop top etc. one last thing, if a man can control himself, in a beach or in a swimming pool filled with half naked women tanning/swimming, why can’t they control themselves everywhere else. A word where the rape victim is blamed and not the rapist is a world I don’t want to live in. It’s so sad that in so many countries women are told to cover up, stay away from men, yet men are never thought on consent and how women can wear whatever they want to and still shouldn’t be raped. I remember being 8 wearing shorts and a 25 year old man was staring at me seductively, and then my dad asked to go change and then he threw all my shorts and revealing clothes away. I’m sorry my post is so long but this is so sad, a child should have more control than a fully grown man 😞

tw231116 · 2020-07-09T07:34:43+00:00

After I was raped, my rapist said "I knew you wanted it or you wouldn't have worn that skirt."

meecy166 · 2020-07-09T03:04:09+00:00

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Few_Direction · 2020-07-09T12:34:48+00:00

Rape was even more of a thing during those times when women did everything “right” according to misogynistic men, and they were still blamed and shamed for it.

PerfectChaosXiii · 2020-07-09T10:10:01+00:00

Apparently there's a lot of studies or rapist interviews out there suggesting that promiscuous looking women (like think insta baddie outfits, dancer or atheleisure clothes, or women who get told they have seductive facial features with how they do their makeup) are actually the least likely targets? Rapists seem to go for people who seem 'lost' and have their guards down. The violent or most dangerous rapists who plan on getting targets in the streets (the type to carry scissors around) just look for the ones that are easy to grab and subdue.

I always see women who look confident and unapologetically 'promiscuous' threaten people without even engaging directly with them. Women like that come off as intimidating to 'traditional' people who excuse rape culture. Promiscuous looking women being avoided by men with bad intentions makes sense too, because if you look like you're an experienced woman (the type who knows her own value and has standards) people are literally intimidated and unnervered to approach you, and the creepy ones who will go away pretty quick from what I see. I honestly think a big reason why people assume promiscuous women keep getting targeted is because a lot of people assume promiscuous people just have a lot of unsafe sex, and are likely to be on drugs, drink recklessly and hang around the wrong crowd.

Adminious · 2020-07-09T11:09:22+00:00

We also add the kids are normal in children clothes when they are rape....

So yeah always the rapist fault

ThatsWhat__I__Said · 2020-07-09T15:03:29+00:00

Does anybody ever ask men what they were wearing when they were sexually assaulted? You know how they always jump into women's conversations about rape - about how they were raped too, and it's not just a female issue, etc... no of course not, no one asks - that would be absurd.

My boyfriend actually posed this question.

Dont_Settle_for_Less · 2020-07-09T07:11:38+00:00

Say it louder for the PERV AND CREEPERS AT THE BACK!!

UnofficialUnicorn · 2020-07-09T12:43:26+00:00

I refuse to interact with men like that.

missyou2017 · 2020-07-09T14:13:22+00:00

The fact that people think that’s a common open conversation between rapists is that could somehow be a statistical fact is absurd. Any gender can be a rapist. Glad we are changing so much but still sticking to this crap. Go feminists!

Where I live it's a frequent (sometimes rhetorical) question when there's news of some woman or a teenage girl raped. Get out of your 1st world bubble and realize rape and victim-blamng is still rampant as it ever was. Go anti-feminists!

RavenWudgieRose · 2020-07-09T13:30:49+00:00

My heart hurts. I wanna stab someone just to make the hurt stop for these women. From any timeline, I would love to spit on the graves of these rapists.

somegenerichandle · 2020-07-09T12:40:11+00:00

tbf, even victorians wore bloomers with a slit down the middle so they didn't need to take anything off to pee.

GibbledKibble · 2020-07-09T14:05:04+00:00

Victorian ladies carried hat pins and were encouraged to use them on any man who touched them or spoke to them inappropriately. I say we bring back hat pins.

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-07-20T01:52:30+00:00

That's actually such a good way to put it.

Title	For the men that love to ask “What was she wearing” when a woman says she has been raped. Explain this!😴😴
Author	Chantelmorris345
Upvotes	2421
Comments	52
Date	July 9, 2020 2:19 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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