Where to go after TRP?

_the_shape_ · 2018-12-26T18:46:40+00:00

I just feel autistic after reading things like The 48 Laws of Power and TRP posts at this point.

Where can I find resources and guidance toward touching this more wholesome aspect of existence that TRP never touches upon?

More reading is going to deepen that autistic feeling if you don't start conversing with people in real life. It sounds to me like you're trying to develop a more profound level of sympathy for others. Reading all the literature in the world regarding this subject might make you feel like you've made some headway in this direction without ever actually doing anything, so take note.

A lot of newbies make this mistake: "Shit, I'm drowning in theory and seemed to have lost my way. Help! Anyone know of any other material I can read to theory my way back out? K thx bye!"

Think of it from now on as earning your right to theory. You speak to a handful of people, you get to read. Videos on working out will show you what to do, but you don't build your body watching YouTube videos, and you don't build your character reading books or blog posts, not without putting in the actual work, that is.

You should be aiming for an imbalance, a very disproportionate ratio of action versus theory. If you find yourself paralyzed with fear to strike up conversations with strangers, freezing up during interactions, feeling awkward during conversations, attacking yourself with self-criticisms afterward, then you'd be doing yourself a serious solid if you neglected TRP and any other reading material for a sustained period of time.

Anyone can ~~read~~ move their eyes over ~~words~~ forms and lines. Not everyone can initiate, let alone hold, an engaging conversation.

CRGRO · 2018-12-26T18:40:13+00:00

Turn inside to yourself and start becoming the master of your own kingdom.

Now that you know the game is real, now that you know the rules, and now that you're ready to play - step in with full possession of your life.

There's the outside world that tells you who you are, and the world inside that tells you who you are. Wear the suit you want to the degree it's reconciled within the two and to the degree it's within the rules of the game we're all playing.

You're enough, stop looking where to go and go wherever you want. Don't hate the game, love the game because you're in it. You might as well own your life within it. Once you're the boss of yourself you'll find wearing the suit a good time, because it's your suit and you decided to wear it.

zboo1h · 2018-12-26T17:31:39+00:00

The gym.

Joeboard · 2018-12-26T20:07:16+00:00

I sometimes think this place is crazy cult like, but then i come across real world scenarios that are talked about on here over and over again and really makes me think stuff like AWALT is 100% true.

I take what I need to take from here, and I assume most other users are the same.

HectoSexual · 2018-12-26T20:06:46+00:00

Get out of the gym, get out of the books, get off TRP and get into the real world.

TRP essentially teaches weaponized autism. It’s insanely useful and practical data, but it needs to be balanced with actual real world experience with real people.

Don’t forget, the organic Chads of the world never studied red pill theory a day in their life. They are out there actually making shit happen.

Don’t be the loser who learned game. Become the winner who never needed to.

RPLawyer · 2018-12-26T20:28:50+00:00

This sounds cliche as fuck but love yourself and people will love you naturally. When you look at yourself in the mirror and feel pride, you feel that dopamine rush, that vibe carries over your day to day relationships with people and people are attracted to that. They will want to talk to you and form friendships/romantic relationships with you.

That happens mostly in the gym, as your physical appearance is always the first impression people have about you. The rest happens when you have a mission and you generally have your shit together.

Where can I find resources and guidance toward touching this more wholesome aspect of existence that TRP never touches upon?

This is The Red Pill. Don't make the mistake of thinking TRP is just about women. In fact, it's not about women at all, it's that people initially come here to improve their chances at getting laid. Once they make their first post and people call them out on their bullshit and tell them to read the sidebar, that's when they realise that TRP is entirely about making men better, in a non-feminist, politically incorrect way. Women are attracted to these better men, and so are other men, in a different way.

If you have truly internalised the lessons here and have gathered a large social toolkit so-to-speak, then get out there and make those relationships happen. There aren't any books with magic spells to allow to form relationships with people 100% of the time. As with all things, practice makes perfect.

ElegantCyclist · 2018-12-26T18:11:39+00:00

Build your business, meet people in real life, fuck hot chicks, develop skills, go to the library, keep reading books, hit the gym.

leftajar · 2018-12-26T22:48:45+00:00

Once you understand TRP, you realize that we live in a clown world. Up is down, left is right, cats are dogs, and so on.

This information is inherently isolating: the deeper you get, the more you are out of rapport with the relationships your current-you has inherited.

A natural consequence of this, for many guys, is a re-sorting of relationships. Before TRP, I had mostly female friends. Now, I have entirely male friends. Before TRP, I like meeting strangers. Now, I think most of them are idiots and prefer the company of my close circle.

When you start living authentically and stop following the plan, it's like you're un-mooring from the safe harbor and entering the choppy waters of the open sea. Out thar be danger, yes -- and treasure.

Ultimately, it's up to you to create meaning. There are a few reliable ways to do that. One is find a way of making money that serves your own values, and then to make a shit-ton of it. Another is to become religious, and humble yourself to something greater. Frankly, if you can get past the ritualistic silliness, belief in a higher power is a great source of meaning. I now believe in God and reincarnation. I know it's stupid and silly, but it makes me feel good and helps me do good, so fuck it.

This is the price of the Red Pill: you have to forge your own meaning. Not everyone succeeds at this. But you can't throw the pill up, so you'd best get to it.

Zanford · 2018-12-26T21:00:07+00:00

Go outside and approach.

If your game is strong, you WILL get fulfilling relationships. That is the easy part. That will come very naturally and easy if you have gotten a girl very attracted to you. She will get into the shit you are into, she will cook, and offer all sexual favors you can think of, give you time alone when you want, etc.

You do not need a bunch of separate theory adn books on maintaining a strong relationship. Just maintain the same TRP principle during the relationship and all will be golden.

Ricklogical · 2018-12-26T20:26:54+00:00

Creating strong long term relationships is luck more than skill. Picking potential candidates for this sort of thing can be a skill, but people change, life changes you.

I hold onto all connections, I constantly search for new ones. That's life. Make new connections, be good to them, don't take advantage or let them take advantage of you. Work towards goals together on small things with them, if they do well try something bigger till they fail or you fail. See what shakes out.

Resources... Nope I'm just an ape. Good luck.

mrpoopistan · 2018-12-26T22:55:50+00:00

Not to sound too dickish, but TRP isn't about the wholesome aspects of existence. Or, more accurately, it's about the idea that if you're not prepared for interpersonal conflict and social game playing, then you're flat-out not prepared for the world we live in.

creating strong, long-term relationships

Only one thing creates strong, long-term relationships. That's being in the shit together with someone. There isn't a magical formula. Humans are hardwired to bond with the people that stand by their sides during difficult situations. It's not an accident that the same chemical that bonds mothers to their babies is the one that also controls the war buddy bond.

SilenceOnTheWire · 2018-12-26T21:46:11+00:00

I've found the advice and all of the subreddit helpful but that it falls short when it comes to connecting to people deeply and creating strong, long-term relationships (not even romantically, but with friends and family).

You dont say...

TRP and stuff like 48 rules of power have merit to them. Theres the people you should save your empathy and the real connections for and the others. The others can be either people you have no interest on so you just avoid each other and keep things polite or they can be lower sorts you cant avoid so at least you can put them to use (or else they will do it to you. Theres types you simply cant avoid in one way or another). TRP and 48 RoP are ideal for such sorts. Needless to say you should try to avoid them like the plague, not actively seek them out.

I think most people who replied have missed OP's point. I think that what he meant was that he wanted real connections with people he could actually like and be at peace with, not some ho or glorified trad ho he has to game constantly and can never let his guard down around of, or people he has to wear a mask to.

I dont think TRP covers that part, thats more the realm of self knowledge and philosophy.

randarrow · 2018-12-26T22:46:42+00:00

Gym/work/nature/school/meetup.com

TheStumblingWolf · 2018-12-26T23:17:44+00:00

Have you read No more mr nice guy? It deals with such matters.

KilluaKanmuru · 2018-12-26T23:22:57+00:00

The streamentry subreddit

Thisismybot8 · 2018-12-26T23:26:01+00:00

Literally everywhere else on the Internet is full of sappy shit. I recommend the book how to win friends and influence people but you might find that "autistic" too

st-johnson · 2018-12-27T00:49:16+00:00

Live a virtuous life

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2018-12-27T03:15:31+00:00

I needed to read this thread. There are so many ways to look at TRP. Yes, there is a majority of young guys, who just want to bang women. That's understandable.

On a surface level, the RP is simply about recognizing the blue pill illusions that don't work. Nobody truly wants a man, who sacrifices himself for others, is overly polite, operates on covert contracts, forms oneitis, doesn't assert himself, and is disconnected from his authentic masculine. A man who has lost his balls.

At first, the RP advice can be a superficial solution. Lift, act like Chad, be totally aloof. In other words, a RP robot.

For myself, TRP actually redirects me to seeking a deeper feeling of meaning. Basically wipe away the BP horseshit, of sacrifice, unconditional love, and ultimate approval coming from women.

Instead, women are a small part, and usually just a catalyst for why many men find TRP. RP taught me to put that area of life in proper perspective. Instead...rediscover my own meaning, my own mission, and don't ever compromise on those things. Don't have a mission, simply so it looks like I'm busy to women. Truly have mission, because that's where true self esteem, self worth and self acceptance comes from. Not through other's approval.

It is ok to not be a RP robot, and get left feeling empty. You can be a man of integrity, compassion, values. When it comes to your relationships, however, RP is just a guide to help them work for you. You are allowed to have connection. You are allowed to talk to women, and expose your authentic self. That keeps you real. Just as long as the RP truths stay in the back of your head. Be strong, be masculine, stay on mission, fulfill your own needs.

[deleted] · 2018-12-27T05:51:59+00:00

The first and most useful "philosophy" book I read in my life was The Tao of Jeet Kune Do, by Bruce Lee. He says: "Absorb what is useful, reject what is useless, add what is essentially your own."

GregTRP · 2018-12-27T12:47:48+00:00

Outside.

RedHeMan · 2018-12-27T14:20:42+00:00

BlackDragonBlog

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-12-28T00:23:00+00:00

Heartiste

Blackdragon

Wall St. Playboys

Western Mastery

SidewaysCircle · 2018-12-26T22:10:28+00:00

Try some LSD

Title	Where to go after TRP?
Author	EmbarrassingPostAcc
Upvotes	75
Comments	51
Date	December 26, 2018 4:52 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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