Almost lost virginity at 16

hell_inna_bucket · 2020-07-19T01:28:30+00:00

You have now learned the consequences of porn.

Andrew54321 · 2020-07-19T01:25:01+00:00

Stop smoking weed. Wait until you’re brain development is complete. Lift. Sidebar.

genericredditusrname · 2020-07-19T02:32:12+00:00

Jesus Christ man, 7 years old? At that age, I didn't even know what porn was lmao. I'm curious though, how did you discover porn at such a young age?

markis655 · 2020-07-19T02:06:48+00:00

It's just some anxiety making your dick go soft. Once your comfortable with her, it'll rise to the occasion. Also try not watching so much porn.

Obediah_Stane · 2020-07-19T02:00:34+00:00

Lots of causes like stage fright, lack of sleep, stress, etc.

It's possible that you don't find her attractive. It's hard to explain but you can find a girl hot, but just aren't sexually aroused for whatever reason. Even a small thing like smell can turn you off. I've had a softie with some really sexy girls because something I couldn't explain turned me off. Then again I've had ragers for some average chicks because something about them turned me on.

Key thing is to laugh it off, keep calm, and don't make a big deal about it. It helps if the girl is chill too and willing to help you overcome it.

AztekShroom · 2020-07-19T01:25:35+00:00

Go back on a nofap streak, will help you get hard... have her give you head before because just the warmth and texture from head will get you hard. Had the same problems my first time as you.

catsdontsmile · 2020-07-19T07:45:02+00:00

Ugh don't smoke and much less at 17, that's my takeaway. Kids who smoke are pathetic. And grown ups who didn't give into peer pressure don't have the habit. You are also addicted to porn? Seems to me that's your problem, addictive behavior. Nip that in the bud.

Infernir · 2020-07-19T03:20:52+00:00

Pro tip: never smoke weed until you're 25 if you're a guy.

And quit the porn/fapping habit now.

At first just completely quit porn & only fap to girls you personally know irl, also try to include ways you can be having sex with them in real life like (if i improve this & this she will probably give me more attention & affection) or (if i approach and talk to her about this we can hang out & I can escalate, pass any shit test & LMR).

This is what I did when I was young, in college, I only found porn around age 13 though.

If you ever have any dick problems at all or can't get hard even for a 4/10 chick 100% go Nofap & Noporn completely for 3 months. It WILL reset your dick hard & your mind state will also be x100 better for mating & attracting women

dookbook · 2020-07-19T07:15:11+00:00

17, my first time was the same. Fuck porn

Reconnecting2 · 2020-07-19T06:19:53+00:00

In the book Your Brain On Porn they discuss how porn addiction has direct links to erectile dysfunction. Also it could be because you were just anxious and inexperienced. Anyways, stop watching porn.

nutcasebob · 2020-07-19T10:40:44+00:00

LOOOOOL. Well I got laid at 16 and I was smoking the weed. Sounds like you blew it OP. It will never happen again. You will never have sex for the rest of your life.

Glad you've discovered this hub of toxicity at such an early age though.

OfficialTechLead · 2020-07-19T11:46:51+00:00

She needs to participate in foreplay too. Massage your pants etc. But its probably all the porn.

singlikeacrow · 2020-07-19T11:51:13+00:00

Soon you will look back at this day and laugh. Seems to be a good memory you will have for a long time.

I think the main problem here was performance anxiety. It was your first time, you started thinking too much about not getting it up, while you also think about your impatient friend waiting in the car. Next time take it more easy, and you will find out what makes you get erection.

oooKenshiooo · 2020-07-19T11:58:17+00:00

Chill the fuck out, son.

Beisdes performance anxiety, the most likely explanation is you subconsciousnes responding to her her nervousness / feeling awkward.

Humas have very sensitive antennas for other people being uncomfortable. Chance is, her awkwardness combined with your natural empathy as well as your nervousness killed the mood.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2020-07-19T02:57:42+00:00

I would have just stopped for a bit. When a girl says its awkward or whatever just stop what your doing, leave the room or in this case go on your phone.

Have her sit there and think about what she just said. Most of the time she'll want your attention back. This is a great way to handle ASD

Also Don't watch porn.

eugenechien · 2020-07-19T02:54:28+00:00

Is this a troll story? lmao

31ar · 2020-07-19T09:42:48+00:00

I've been reading this sub for 5+ years, and this is probably the most disturbing post I've read.

I think the one thing that's standing out to me is your complete inability to read parts of the situation.

This girl is telling you to take things slower. Not every girl just wants to reenact a porn scene. There are emotions involved, and basics of trust and comfort, even when it's mostly just sex.

You're completely blind to that, and I don't really blame you because - like you said, you've been watching porn since you were 7 years old, and lord knows how or why you're already reading TRP when you're 16. I'm not age-shaming here, but the fact is that there are some lessons in life you have to understand and experience yourself (rather than learn via porn or TRP -- simply because the way things are portrayed here are through a rather narrow viewpoint, and with a certain resentful skew to them in most cases).

All I'll say is, please know the difference between:

1) Getting a girl to let you fuck her

&

2) Getting a girl to want you to fuck her

There's a HUGE difference, and quite frankly (and sadly) most men have never experienced #2.

Once you experience #2, you'll never want #1 again.

Also, you're 16 - stop being so hard on yourself for "missing the opportunity". Even your body was telling you that it wasn't right.

If the girl was really in to it, you'd probably be full speed ahead.

rickson1s · 2020-07-19T10:33:09+00:00

Thanks for the help guys. Gonna stop smoking weed so much and get back into lifting. I think she wants to hang again so I’ll update if it happens.

urbancore · 2020-07-19T03:53:38+00:00

This hurt to read. I would act like it never happened.

If there is a next time, take charge. Put her hand on your junk. Then ease her into a BJ, my experience is that girls love to please and get more turned on when they know 1) you are turned on by what they do to you 2) you are in to them sexually/emotionally. If she still balks at bj, no problem, hand jobs can still do the trick. Once she has you “good and ready” as you reciprocate, then make your move. Time kills.....move smooth...but with a sense of urgency.

Either way, brush this shit off. We all have our regrets. Don’t let that define you. If she talks shit , at least she’s talking. That’s better than not talking. Walk tall, always.

My first was pitiful. I feel ya.

Sir_Distic · 2020-07-19T03:35:09+00:00

You were nervous because of the situation, having to be quiet and sneaky as well as losing your virginity. No big deal. Next time don't put any pressure on yourself. It'll be fine.

ejuck · 2020-07-19T10:50:38+00:00

Perhaps get off a subreddit like this if youre only 16 and wait until you've tried, failed and grown resentful of women before resort to the whole "red pill" thing.

rockyp32 · 2020-07-19T10:53:39+00:00

porn and fapping do this too you. dont worry tho man youll rpobs get another chance just hangout with her again dont overthink it

DeepC1980 · 2020-07-19T02:33:42+00:00

Best advice I can give you is to forget about it. If it lingers in your mind, next time you are in that situation you will just think about it again, get anxious, and the same thing will happen again. You've got to be fully relaxed and it'll happen.

Poredlehslin · 2020-07-19T06:24:31+00:00

Consider yourself blessed that you right now experience the bad side to porn. Make it your mission to completely abstain for atleast 100 days.

I have been here.

Right now you associate sex with something negative, failure. I would do atleast a 100 day no fap streak and then try again. If you try sex once again and you cant get hard again you'll just reinforce the idea of sex is scary and im a failure.

Take the long approach kid, you'll get there. Overall you did well.

2020-07-19T02:39:22+00:00

You cant get Erectile Dysfunction from porn, HOWEVER it does decrease sensitivity etc....its proven. Even some cases where the study found stronger sexual arousal in men who reported viewing more sex films at home.

319Skew · 2020-07-19T02:31:39+00:00

You'll get another chance. Maybe not with the same girl but you'll score again. At least you're TRP aware. Live and learn.

sawyer94117 · 2020-07-19T02:42:56+00:00

I used to get drunk off a couple of beers. Now I need closer to a dozen.

You may have also felt pressure from trying to keep things quiet/being behind enemy lines. Try someplace where you have more control of the environment.

VOICE_OF_OBLIVION · 2020-07-19T06:37:44+00:00

Quit weed, quit porn, lift hard, do some sort of aerobic exercise ontop.

Simple

L2diy · 2020-07-19T08:08:14+00:00

This world is fucked. Watching porn at 7 years old? All I can say is read the side bar, study it like a religion. Use pmohandbook as a way to stop watching porn, and start lifting. You have plenty of life ahead of you. Look at this as a lesson and quit smoking weed for gods sake.

RPOpenUp · 2020-07-19T08:39:50+00:00

I put on the condom and my dick got soft.

If your dick got soft AFTER you put on the condom you might wanna grab some bigger(bigger diameter) ones.

ToughMoFo · 2020-07-19T09:00:07+00:00

Anyone mentioned pmohackbook? Check it buddy, helped me a lot

HJGamer · 2020-07-19T10:29:36+00:00

Sorry you had to experience this. I’ve definitely struggled with this too. Even if you manage to get a hard on, you will probably be lasting for an hour which can be quite exhausting. This is because of the death grip.

It’s so sad how this is becoming a common issue for the new generation and how it is never taught in sex education or really anywhere except some corners of the internet.

Doing nofap is hard, especially when you’re 16. My advice is also in Mark Manson’s advice in his book Models (it truly has the answers for most RP dillemas). Masturbate once a week, choose a day, and do it by only thinking of women you have met and want to hook up with.

Remember that every day you do no fap, your testosterone and sex drive is increasing which means you are more likely to get success with women.

This issue will persist until you quit watching porn and masturbating several times a week.

My tip for your next time is follow this advice and not masturbate at least 5 days before having sex.

FuzzCod · 2020-07-19T10:29:57+00:00

You're 16 and you're already aware of TRP, you're halfway there mate.

And oh yeah, you're not the first one. It has happend to me a good 4 times already.

CarbonBasedLifeForm6 · 2020-07-19T05:23:19+00:00

Lowkey my biggest fear better luck next time bro

strikethrough123 · 2020-07-19T05:34:34+00:00

Yeah condoms make me soft too

AngTheEphemeral · 2020-07-19T03:46:45+00:00

Cut out porn, and if possible, try getting either cialis or viagra off the internet so that you can bridge the gap in the meantime. Cialis is way better / safer and has fewer side effects. A lot of online vendors won't sell to people under 18, but if you buy it as a peptide, or from certain sites, they won't even verify. I had the same experience the first time I almost lost my virginity, and while I don't have the same issue anymore, I always bring cialis or viagra just in case.

Foozerd · 2020-07-19T02:39:21+00:00

Try to fuck her right away, skip the fore play

Title	Almost lost virginity at 16
Author	rickson1s
Upvotes	106
Comments	92
Date	July 19, 2020 1:18 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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