How to not "fast forward" through life?

glowing_dolphins · 2021-05-02T16:16:20+00:00

Plan ambitious achievable events or improvements that are memorable.

A non standard trip that takes organisation.

A work achievement.

Learning.

Hobby skill level.

Afterward, celebrate it with your tribe. If you don’t have a group to celebrate your success with, and remember with, it’s going to be less intense.

Also, use your time. Don’t give a fuck if you’re tired on Saturday morning, get your ass up a mountain, play an instrument, do something.

BlondeHornyElf · 2021-05-02T16:14:17+00:00

imo time is rly just the concept of change. if nothing changes, no time has passed.

Black_Jesup · 2021-05-02T16:28:02+00:00

There is a possibility that half of your life is already over. In another mere 30 years you could be dead—your existence completely wiped from the earth. If that thought doesn’t get you moving, then nothing will.

henry589 · 2021-05-02T16:18:36+00:00

If you have big breakthroughs/goals you will remember moments of each year, and it will feel like life isn’t fast forwarding. The reason the years before working seems not as fast is because if you think about it every year was exciting and different.

First 8 years of elementary school then 2-3 years of middle school then 4 years of high school and 4 years of college. Each of these years was defining who you are, the thing is you need to continue to self actualize after college.

It sounds like you have achieved all your needs in the Maslow hierarchy of needs, but not self actualization( which is your life’s journey tbh)

harmonicpinch · 2021-05-02T16:16:11+00:00

Are you working proactively to make any big things happen in your life?

It doesn’t have to be “becoming a billionaire and taking over the world.” Even just making the effort to gather friends for an event. Daily practice of a language. Planning a trip somewhere. Building a bike for touring.

Anything except passing the time on YouTube/Reddit. It’s too easy to fall into that and a day of that turns into weeks, into months of just chillin.

Nighthawk_Black_ · 2021-05-02T15:38:17+00:00

I can relate. Find things that you enjoy doing after work. Getting caught in the going to work going home and doing fuck all isn't the best cycle to get caught up in.

Musicgoon · 2021-05-03T00:14:54+00:00

Comfort is the death of inspiration. I used to have a 60+ hour a week job. I made a shit ton of money. I would go to work spend practically my life there, come home play xbox for 30 mins, jerk off and then wake up and spend about 30 minutes with my family. This went on for several years. It got soo bland and hopeless that I just didn't have passion anymore.

People get used to comfort. You repeat the same process over and over. There's no excitement. Time just passed by without any noteworthy memories.

We trade in our time for money and we hope to use that money for experiences. And the truth is if we push our comfort, we can have experiences right now. .

It took me a divorce before I really started living. It sounds like you need to push more boundaries and do things that make you happy. Don't just exist. Thrive.

AlfredKinsey · 2021-05-02T16:27:29+00:00

Go outside, learn new skills, grow a business or two, make friends,m. Even when you want to just dick around online, go do it at Starbucks or the park or something.

MrNeurotypical · 2021-05-02T16:51:33+00:00

Oh just do what I did. Quit the shitty job, sell all your crap, fly to Bali, fuck your Indonesian good girl you've been screening for the past 5 years, get a TESOL cert and see all of Bali when not in class, go teach in Bandung for a while and see everything around there, then head off to Thailand and see the whole country for 4 years, squeeze out a kid, fuck anything with 2 legs, you get the idea.

gysman1710 · 2021-05-02T18:48:12+00:00

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SattvaRex · 2021-05-02T23:12:11+00:00

4am walks are the one.

Get on your work clothes and all. Maybe a jacket considering the weather. Single peg of whiskey, hot water bottle. Maybe some cigarettes if you're feeling them (working men drank that shit boiling before refrigeration was commercialised, see Gin Lane on Google and others for more info)

Walk aimlessly, until sunrise. Get some slow music on your headphones if you're feeling it, but no screen time. Feel the natural light kick in.

Deffo finish it off with a play of "Stupid Deep" by Jon Bellion. For the optimal experience, I wouldn't play it beforehand. "every day" by Jeremy Zucker for an alternative, sombre effect.

Take some time to rediscover yourself. Professor Jordan Peterson's work on "Self Actualization" is a good step in the right direction.

But before you get into the paperwork. Please, try out the ritual I recommended.

Tell me how it goes :)

kazuechan · 2021-05-02T18:27:34+00:00

Because you’re not appreciating your present. The now. You’re on autopilot. Take a second and look at your surroundings. Make some notable benchmarks in your life that your brain will remember. Do something spontaneous, something you’ve always wanted to do.

Shipbldr2000 · 2021-05-02T16:02:05+00:00

Great, you have told us about your work.

Now, where is your life? <hint>

thegreyone3000 · 2021-05-02T16:07:13+00:00

Relateable for sure. I was 21 yesterday, now I'm 27. I think it happens when your entire life goes on "auto-pilot" ... Kind of how when you drive your car and wonder how the fuck you arrivade at your destination?

Typically happens when your life is filled with boring mundane, unforfilling shit.

ProFriendZoner · 2021-05-02T22:24:38+00:00

Make a Daily list of things to accomplish. Not to be confused with a "to do" list. A "to do" list is fixing the leaking faucet, mowing the lawn, changing the oil" and whatever.

I'm talking about things you want to accomplish every day.

You have goals. Use this list to track them. Look back at the end of the week and see how far you've come. Maybe it's to do one more rep or set or to add 10 pounds to your lifts. Maybe it's to bicycle and extra mile, or to run another quarter mile. Maybe it's to approach 5 more people a day. Make this daily list. If you have a weekly list, break it down to daily actions so by the end of the week you will have accomplished your goal. Do the same for long term goals. Keep breaking it down to month, week, day.

I'm in a massive rut right now and time flies by whether you want it to or not. But when you see yourself in the same place as you were a month ago or a year ago, you're not living you are stagnating.

I don't have this plan yet, but was thinking about it today and then I saw your post. So, yea, putting down what I want and where I want to be when. Break it down and start doing it. Keep track of it to see your progress. I'm off to do "to do" list stuff right now. But tonight, when I'm doing laundry I'm going to sit down and put it down. And yes, there are things I can do tonight (today even), but the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

Simple-Craft-9577 · 2021-05-02T16:46:45+00:00

I think this has a lot to do with motivations. I myself sometimes find myself lacking a lot of motivation. I always used to think that life would be much better when I had a lot of money. Today I make bank at my job and earn pot loads through my stock trades. Nevertheless, I find myself unable to seek clarity on my goals and objectives.

I feel you. Time does go by pretty fast when you lack innate motivation. Hope we both figure it out soon.

Philidor_2 · 2021-05-02T19:51:19+00:00

Recreate yourself. Learn new things. I learnt how to play guitar via youtube. I am a decent guitarist now. I am learning how to code, and to write creatively by blogging often.

Recreate yourself.

OneTrueQ · 2021-05-02T17:53:51+00:00

Mate engineer an exit plan and a passive income so you can get your time back.

LibertarianLibertine · 2021-05-02T18:51:11+00:00

I wake up, work a desk job, eat dinner, spend time on reddit, go to sleep

Well, there's your problem. What do you expect to happen when you decide to waste your life and time?

ThenIJizzedInMyPants · 2021-05-02T19:00:29+00:00

35 and feeling this acutely now.

I think the key is whether you are working towards a goal, and building in novel experiences on a regular basis. That will give you structure and 'slow' time down a bit.

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2021-05-02T21:12:30+00:00

Practice mindfulness. Live in the present and now.

yowyeah · 2021-05-02T21:24:02+00:00

when you were a child time moves slowly because you are creating memories after you get older you stuck to the same routine daily and you do not create memories that's why time seems to move faster as you get older

same thing happens when you take a travelling road for the first time it seems long but you comeback on the same road it looks like the road got shorter

drkinferno72 · 2021-05-02T21:45:12+00:00

get a hobby, try woodworking or martial arts, motorcycles

cunningcaring · 2021-05-02T22:03:37+00:00

Sit in the dental chair.

If your life is going past fast, you are doing everything right.

facuprosa · 2021-05-02T22:16:22+00:00

set a goal, try to do something new, learn something new or enjoy the little things of life, pay attention to those things and ask yourself what do i wanna do. don't overwhelm yourself with being productive that's bullshit

gysman1710 · 2021-05-03T03:10:58+00:00

This makes me sad...:( any one else stay up st night and think wow this shits weird... i used to think like was gonna be so much different when i was younger.

Vancopime · 2021-05-03T03:22:59+00:00

Go and level up, sounds like you’re complacent in the comfortable bubble you establish for yourself. One of my worst fear is to have a child in the future and not being able to educate them about the rights and wrongs of life (and advance through it via the fast lane), and to me the only adequate way to prepare myself is to go do tough and hard shit.

Disastrous-Bowl5520 · 2021-05-03T04:45:06+00:00

I remember seeing a video about this topic. Can't think of who it was or the title but I'll link to it when I do.

Anyway, life goes by fast when you're NOT having new experiences. That can be learning a new skill, picking a new hobby, or going to a new place,.

It's all about NOVELTY. Your brain registers new events and cherishes them because they're different from your day in day out boring life. Accumulating new life events leads to a full life.

I hope that makes sense.

Chale_cz · 2021-05-03T05:35:33+00:00

I was feeling like this for some time, it's really harsh.

But I believe that switching up day by day things that you do really make a difference. Such as taking another way to work, meeting new people and doing new activities.

Have a look at Tony Robbins RPM way of planning your goals. This will make you realize what drives you in life and how you can take the time you have and really use it to feel fulfilled.

There's nothing like looking back and seeing how much you have grown, what you have achieved and it's like a snow ball, you just keep the momentum going!

Let us know if you need something man!

TheScabSlayerTRP · 2021-05-03T05:51:18+00:00

Experience new things, practice mindfulness, make meaningful progress, practice reflection. Your life is going fast because you are doing nothing of note with your life. You feel nothing new, and your experiences are mundane. The perception of time is unique to everyone, what you choose to do with yours is the key to how you your live. From the looks of it, you are nothing but a desk boy.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2021-05-03T06:25:09+00:00

You're not making enough memories and you're not pushing yourself hard enough. I am about your age and I know exactly what you mean.

Recently I started running 2 miles before every work out. That has definitely slowed time down. I feel my mental acuity has also increased, probably from my ability to better oxygenate my system.

Anyway, you went to bed 27 and woke up 32 because you don't have that many memories. Apparently 27 does that to you because, again, I too don't remember much between then and now. A few things for sure but still.

tetrachromancy · 2021-05-03T13:54:58+00:00

Time passing quickly is something I view positively.

Do you know why?

Because I have goals and every few months I look back and see that I got shit done.

The time will pass whether you take action or not.

It’s up to you to use the time wisely for your future outcome.

i-am-the-prize · 2021-05-03T14:01:02+00:00

people overestimate what they can do in a month or a year, but underestimate what they can do in 10.

the feeling of it going faster is real, as 1 year is a smaller percentage of your life, for each additional year lived.

so where do you want to be in 10 years? ask. then work backwards.

kireol · 2021-05-03T14:48:19+00:00

First, as you get older, time feels like it goes by faster. I think this is due to being so busy all of the time, relative to when younger.

Second, Carpe Diem - Seize the day. Set some short and long term goals for yourself (house, finance, body, mind, hobby, boat, motorcycle, etc). Every day work on 1 goal. You want a new house? Start looking in to what kind of house, what location, what it would cost you, etc, etc. This is how you better yourself, AND it also helps you with feeling like you are accomplishing things, because you are. You'll look back later at the things you've accomplished and not so much how much time has passed.

bjbdbz2 · 2021-05-03T18:42:31+00:00

Man a lot of people are commenting very useful stuff, but I dont think this addresses your question. Your question wasnt “How do I get a better life?” Your question was “How do I not fast forward through life?”

I would look into the work of Eckhart Tolle, read his first two books at least and actively practice it. Owen Cook has a good video on youtube too called “How to get present to the moment manifesto” but its basically just regurgitating his interpretation of Eckhart Tolle.

Oh, and probly do all the other stuff thats being said in here too.

tonybraves4539 · 2021-05-06T02:44:37+00:00

Lots of good advice in this thread

coolguywitharolex · 2021-05-27T00:50:04+00:00

I am young, but I still feel this was; I continue my education, workout, sports, and socialize, but everything feels monotonous. Even spinning plates gets old

dutchgguy · 2021-05-02T16:14:07+00:00

are you me?

Intel81994 · 2021-05-02T16:55:43+00:00

Quit your shitty desk Job

Title	How to not "fast forward" through life?
Author	acertenay
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Date	May 2, 2021 3:27 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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