If all women watched and actively got off to porn of just men with huge dicks, men would feel insecure.

The_Pyramidion · 2021-03-28T17:31:48+00:00

Lmao my ex lost his fucking mind and cried how it gave him body image issues and insecurity when I casually mentioned some actor being attractive a few times because apparently this actor not being short and not having a dad bod like him hurts his feelings and is TrAuMaTiC.

Same guy was choking his weasel to porn with women that look nothing like me several times daily and told me "yeah, you're okay looking tbh" or "women from here are pretty, but not BEAUTIFUL". Their brains are fucking fried.

throwaway1378420 · 2021-03-28T16:24:57+00:00

They do get insecure about it. But instead of giving up porn and accepting the effects it has on people's expectations and self esteem, they cope by living in their own little fairytale where they truly believe it's only the men of porn who are unrealistic, not the women.

Suspicious-Leg-1407 · 2021-03-28T18:19:50+00:00

Porn for women: videos of men who actually did something with their lives

MadameDestruction · 2021-03-28T21:07:01+00:00

Hahahha oh have I got a story for you!

I once dated a male who watched porn, which at the time, I was fine with. I caught him a lot doing it but passed it off. One day I was horny, so I tried seducing him wearing my best lingerie but he said he wasn’t in the mood. Stating he was too stressed out. I was understanding but heartbroken that maybe there was something wrong with me.

Later I catch him jerking off to porn, and start yelling at him. He tried reasoning that I wasn’t “hot” enough before and didn’t keep trying after he declined. I was furious.

Next day when he came home, guess what I did? Explicitly watched porn and had my hand in my pants. I made sure it was ahem ‘big dick’ porn just to make him more annoyed. I ignored him while he yelled. We broke up that day.

God my life was trash before FDS lol.

NottodayScrote · 2021-03-28T18:50:56+00:00

They definitely get insecure about it. My ex considered masturbation a form of cheating. Except when he did it of course.

2ndMrsDeWinter · 2021-03-28T16:37:44+00:00

Ohohhoho BOY LET ME TELL YOU. I used to think porn was fine/good (I am working on myself in that aspect rn, especially since learning so much on here about how predatory and abusive it is) and loved porn of jacked guys with huge dicks. My self proclaimed “secure” ex could NOT stand it. Mocked my choices, whined about “why was I even dating him,” asked why I would masturbate to porn when I had him, etc etc. He would get SO insecure and jealous, and yet thought it was fine for him to follow dozens of porn stars and only fans girls on ig. 🎶 hypocrisyyyyy 🎶

Peak_Tree · 2021-03-28T18:14:40+00:00

Problem is outside of gay p*rn men in p*rn are mostly UGLY AS F**K. When I discovered porn as a teenager the fisrt thing I noticed was how the women were beautiful and filmed in all angles but the men didn't appear on screen most of the time except for their genitals. And when they appeared they were mostly super ugly, super old or very frecuently both things at the same time while having sex with a conventionally beautiful woman that could pass for a teenager.

Honestly I think of those poor women that had those repulsive men have access to their bodies as another form of degradation.

Froetsa · 2021-03-28T20:59:09+00:00

Fell insecure? They'd cry, yell, punch holes and stomp angrily and slam doors. I couldn't look at regular people, god forbid I really liked some artists/creator/online persona. Can't imagine what if I had some favorite porn actor

eatchickpeas · 2021-03-28T17:08:48+00:00

the men in porn always look rubbish, they might have huge dicks but they never look handsome or beautiful the way the women have to be. it's really hard to find a man who doesnt worship and binge on porn nowadays

miss_peach94 · 2021-03-29T01:56:58+00:00

This reminds me of my porn sick ex when he called me ugly, would tell me openly he found other women more attractive than me, made fun of me for being tall, said I was a 6/10 at best and even told me openly that he ogles another girl at uni. He was really insecure about his penis size and one day asked me to tell him his dick was huge (it was average) because it would make him feel better. The guy wanted to kill himself when I told him I wasn't gonna lie and say his is the biggest I've seen cos it wasn't and that I've been with men much bigger than he was and probably will be again after him 😂😂😂

logickilledthecat · 2021-03-28T16:44:46+00:00

First of all, 90% of men in porn have huge dicks. And yes, it makes small pp'd men insecure as fuck.

SECOND OF ALL 🗣

The female equivalent to guys taking their emotional and sexual attention away from their hot willing girlfriends and wives and towards jacking off to their favorite fantasy porn women "getting fked hard" is NOT watching porn.

Oh babe, I am not emotionally attached to any of these women, so it's not cheating. It's natural for a man to have sexual urges, and wanting variety. It's just a fantasy.

The female equivalence is to take our emotional and sexual attention away from our boyfriends and husbands.

To keep going on dinners with other men.

No sex because that's not what it's about for women (remember: FEMALE equivalence). Just being provided for, being made feeling secure, attended and cared for. Have other men look us in the eyes in the most suggestive way, the way women look into the camera during porn so often. Allow them to give us compliments, money, or gifts. Share laughter and intimate stories. Productive discussions, talk. We gawk at them, too. Not many words needed, both parties know what the other person wants. That they are hella turned on. We give them our attention, they give us theirs.

Or to alternatively have a company around that hires out people we can pick and select according to what we find hot and attractive. We order these men to our homes. They perform sexual acts on themselves or with another woman/another man, whatever we are into. We watch them, from another corner in the room, and please ourselves sexually to their sexual acts they are performing in front of us. There is no interaction, and they might not see us getting our pants down and masturbate to them but they of course know what they are here for, and what we are doing. but they look us in the eyes every so often, to suggest that we are there with them, doing the sexual acts with them.

Babe, what are you jealous about ? I am not emotionally attached to any of these men. It's not cheating. It's natural for a woman to feel looked after and made special. By as many men as possible. It's just a fantasy.

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-03-28T20:55:44+00:00

That's the part that just continually blows my mind about men - what would happen if the situation was reversed and the woman was criticizing their dick, or their height or their baldness or pasting 10" dicks all over the wall and collecting hyper realistic anime figures with giant schlongs, etc. etc.

They'd freak the fuck out. So why the HELL is it okay to do it to women!?? Rhetorical, the answer is misogyny, it's always the hatred and contempt of women. It's incredible how many men just can't see women as human.

caligulawillblush · 2021-03-29T08:11:43+00:00

They already do feel insecure. My ex said I shouldn't watch it (even though he did) because he was jealous. He naturally had a great 7 inch one (it was honestly the perfect penis if there ever was one) but thought it was too small, and used a penis pump until I convinced him it was unnecessary. I then found him following a pornstar on Instagram that looked nothing like me and had the word "Slut" tattooed on her arse, very classy (he always said he was so happy I wasn't promiscuous, but clearly liked that if he watched girls with tattoos of the word 'Slut'). Hypocrisy again from my ex, nothing new.

They do this to themselves though - of course he was watching porn where girls were taking massive cocks and getting "stretched" or whatever. No sympathy for them tbh, they really do it to themselves. They won't give it up though.

cakepancakepancake · 2021-03-28T19:56:44+00:00

This one dude out of nowhere told me that I'm not as hot as these twins we both know. I was baffled as no other man had said something like that to me ever and stayed silent while he went on and on about how they look like models. Fast forward a couple of weeks, I remember looking though my phone's recommended articles and came across this one article on this really cute kpop idol who I used to have the biggest crush on lol. All I said was "Oh, I remember him! Still as cute as ever!" and this scrote got so offended and started pouting like a child saying "D-don't talk about other men... :-(" lmao I almost laughed in his face, it was the audacious hypocrisy for me 💀

Mind you, I'm from a different country and stand out a bit, but am still considered conventionally attractive even here, while he is literally Alex Mahan's (Yandere Dev's) lost and a bit uglier twin cousin lol... Definitely looks like a stereotypical incel...

Funnily enough, when I brought it up saying it was rude to tell me stuff like that (especially because he claimed to be iN lOvE with me), he said "Damn... I wish you didn't remember..." and tried to gaslight me into believing I just misunderstood him, that he couldn't believe I thought he saw "girls this way... you this way.... 😔". Literally would have punched him had that not been a text conversation.

kycake · 2021-03-29T05:49:36+00:00

personally i’m not worried about my male looking at attractive women in porn, the reason why i’m completely against porn or having a partner who consumes that content is because 90% of porn is straight abuse, violence, degradation, towards woman or women in it. if my partners is getting off to a woman being abused, be it in a mild or major way, then i don’t want to be with him. male violence against women has been normalized to the max. of course main stream media is to blame as well as porn, but still porn is a huge driver for normalizing women being in pain specifically for male pleasure. and even the idea that the only reason a woman might not like porn is because she is insecure of how pretty the girls are is strongly driven by media. like no, i’m not at all worried that my bf is looking at bigger breasts than mine while orgasming, what i am worried about is him looking at a woman being degraded or in pain while orgasming, or worse that he’s orgasming because he is seeing a woman being degraded or in pain. anyway your concern is valid too, regardless of why u don’t want your partner watching porn he should respect your boundary with that. i just wanted to point out that porn is very problematic and evil in general. the women actors being attractive is hardly the main concern, or at least it shouldn’t be.

Title	If all women watched and actively got off to porn of just men with huge dicks, men would feel insecure.
Author	Alyssapocalypse
Upvotes	467
Comments	35
Date	March 28, 2021 12:40 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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To keep going on dinners with other men.