I cannot imagine anything more disgusting than being pulled back for forceful kisses when I already moved away once. let’s get rid of these harmful romanticism, they’re destroying young girls and grooming them for more abuse as they grow into young women.

Mcccy · 2021-03-04T18:17:36+00:00

Also:

He's an asshole to anyone but me!

He's cold and distant, so mysterious! I can fix him!

Boys are so opressed and are scared to show emotions, it's ok he yelled at me! It's not his fault!!

Only_Lime2520 · 2021-03-04T19:57:20+00:00

OMG this is one of the big reasons why I can’t stand K-dramas. Sometimes the guy legit drags the woman around by her hand or collar and they play romantic piano music in the background 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

shutup201 · 2021-03-04T20:17:18+00:00

It's so upsetting because they still push this toxic narrative on teens. I just watched a show called Ginny and Georgia on netflix and the teen Ginny has several toxic interactions with her neighbor, a boy named Marcus. Somehow, this damaged kid is going to be endgame for her lol. Entertainment really needs to do better for us.

Pahapan · 2021-03-04T20:30:06+00:00

There was this one time when my ex was about to throw a balled up piece of garbage in the trash but instead threw it at my head. I wasn't amused. He tried to get me to laugh it off, saying he'd just been fooling around. I said I didn't appreciate having garbage thrown at me. He went to kiss me and I turned my head away, so he pushed me over (I'd been sitting on the floor) and got on top of me. He repeatedly forced me to kiss him while saying, "Don't resist me." His tone was cloying, like this was all some fun game.

Behavior like this, forcing kisses, hugs, physical "affection", etc. is a HUGE indicator that a man is sexually abusive. When this incident occurred he'd already slept with me (i.e. raped me) when I was so drunk that I was in and out of consciousness and he'd later go on to use physical force to rape me. Avoid these men like the plague. They are already telling you that they won't take no for an answer.

the_wave5 · 2021-03-04T22:00:50+00:00

I will never forget the disgusting LVM I briefly talked to and went on a couple dates with. A grown adult who decided he was coming over one work night, forced the issue until I caved, whined "kiss me" when I didn't do it as soon as I saw him, tried to **make me kiss him**, and then couldn't understand why I got pissed and literally kicked him out.

I had to tell him that a kiss is not fucking guaranteed, a kiss should be given freely, don't demand it for god's sake. I'm getting heated just remembering it. That was the end of "us", I'm happy to report.

Throwawayrightaway28 · 2021-03-04T19:21:30+00:00

I so agree! FDS is changing me for the positive. I went on a second date last month that was going well-until the guy just kissed me out of nowhere. I was shocked and dismayed, so I put my mask back on (we were dining at an outdoor restaurant). Later he walked me to my Lyft and went to kiss me goodbye. I still had my mask on so he moved to remove it without even asking me! I was outdone. I ducked him and got into the Lyft. A guy who can’t respect boundaries standing up outside in the daylight is for sure a rapist you’d have to fend off at night. Everything about my body language was saying I wasn’t interested in a kiss, but he still tried to force it on me. Blocked and deleted. But I’m loving the mask while dating. It’s such a great non-verbal boundary.

Jekawi · 2021-03-04T22:11:26+00:00

... Fuck. I was definitely like that. In fact, I think this is the big appeal of the enemies-to-lovers trope

esoldelulu · 2021-03-04T23:37:12+00:00

Can’t watch stuff like that much as I get flashbacks due to cPTSD. TW: I remember when I said no, pushed his hand away, turned my face away, my rapist just casually overpowered me and continued to grope and kiss me. Anytime I objected, he “affectionately” squeezed me harder or used his weight and gross face to muffle me silent.

I always thought if ever pressed, I could knock a guy down if I had to. But when I realized how easily trapped I was and how much stronger he was WITH LITTLE EFFORT, it’s terrifying. No ... I’m not WonderWoman after all. HIS punch will knock me out, dislocate a jaw, HIS grip on my neck can easily crush my windpipe.

How then can you survive? Comply. Endure the brevity of his self-indulgent masturbation, violating your body. Or endure him punching you, breaking your bones, bashing your face in, cuz you trying to assert yourself by refusing to have a sex with him is such an offense to him.

I just wanted to live and get away. See my family again. Cuz those terrifying moments suffering, I didn’t want those to be the last memories for my life. He later said he couldn’t help himself, cuz I wore “that dress.” It was the first time in YEARS I wore a dress cuz I finally felt confident to wear something that didn’t cover my body shape. And he perverted that confidence with his ugly sense of entitlement. He was so convinced that we had a “magical” moment. Bragged how he knows how to maneuver a woman even when she starts aloof.

Fuck these guys who think our resistance is a challenge to their manhood, that they’re entitled to use us as they please. Fuck these decrepit lechers who use rape and misogyny as an aphrodisiac for their depraved limp dicks. They’re cockroaches in human form.

I’m tired. But don’t worry, I think I just had to purge a lingering thing. I’m okay now. Much stronger, happier, and viciously protective of myself and my well being.

anotherone1119 · 2021-03-05T03:46:52+00:00

Ugh reminds me of my “first kiss” with an actual boyfriend. I was 14, a freshman and he was 18, a senior. I liked him and thought he was cool bc he drove a nice car and smoked weed and whatever. But he was creepy as fuck, always outside my classes before I even got out and I kept dodging his attempts to kiss me and finally he grabbed my head and forced me to kiss him 🤢

lanicaragua · 2021-03-04T22:12:44+00:00

Yep, this is also deeply rooted in songs starting from the most basic things like saying “you’re mine” and those type of stuff

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