I came across this on Tumblr and had to share it. THIS is what love looks like, day to day. ❤️ - Text is from "Your Faithful Servant" by S. Bear Bergman)

heroic_nincompoop · 2021-06-13T03:46:15+00:00

For any of my sisters here who have trouble reading the small text, I tried to do my best to type out an accessible version of this post:

A user named smallyetbeautiful writes,

"Honestly, it's actually the small, mundane boring things that someone does for you out of love which means so much rather than grand gestures and proclamations."

Another user named pastcorridor responds with a screenshot that reads,

Your Faithful Servant

Let me take that for you. No, kiddo, you don’t have to carry anything, you go right ahead and I’ll just make a couple of trips. Get in the house where it’s warm. It’s not that heavy. I can get it. This is dirty, you don’t want to touch it. I’ll wrestle with it, if you could just get me a towel? Let me drop you off, it’s raining pretty hard. I’ll go get the car. It’s not that cold. Sure, I can help you. Three flights of stairs isn’t that much. You don’t have to take the shuttle, I’ll pick you up. Four a.m. isn’t that early. It’ll give me a good start on the rest of the day. It’ll be nice to have your company. Let me drive. You worked all day. I’ll get this check. No, no, you can get the next one. Did I say that last time? You can leave the tip, how about that. Just tell me what you want to do whenever you decide. Last minute is okay. See if any of the other things you’d rather do work out, and if not it’ll be nice to see you. I don’t mind, I want you to have what you want. Don’t worry about that, I’ll take care of it. Let me make a few calls for you. Hold on, I have the number right here. Did you want me to go with you? I’d be happy to; it’s no trouble at all. Sure, I have time. I always have time for you. Here’s an extra twenty bucks. Pay me back when you can. I don’t want you driving around with no cash at all. Are you cold? Take my coat. No, it’s not bad out. Here, I have an extra sweatshirt in the car. Go ahead and take the last of it. I’m not that hungry today. Call me any time, day or night. I just want you to understand that I’m here for whatever you need. Yup, I can give you directions. Sure, I have stamps. No, baby, that was great, just let me hold you know. Let me run out, it’ll just take a second. I’ll be back before you know it, and then you won’t have to wait until morning. Sure, I’ll look at it right now. It’s no trouble. Sure, I can wait. Just let me know when you’re ready, we can go. Sure, I’ll come over and bring my tools. I don’t mind. Sure, I have time. I always have time for you. Sure, whatever you need. Whatever you need.

Me? I’m all set. Thanks, though.

from "Butch is a Noun" by S. Bear Bergman

heroic_nincompoop · 2021-06-13T03:56:47+00:00

I hear so often about the terrible ways some of y'all have been treated by guys out here. Reading through the comments and learning about some of the cruel, apathetic, careless guys you have been with makes my heart hurt.

When I saw this, I thought it was such a sweet example of the type of love we're all looking for. A HVM partner who truly cares about you and wants to make sure you're comfortable -- not because they're excited over a new relationship, but because of selfless, longterm devotion you feel after spending many happy years with someone you truly see as your partner.

(I'm not sure if I'm making sense, but I hope that all of you guys find a partner who always has time for you!💖)

charliefoxyfeet · 2021-06-13T05:14:33+00:00

This is so sweet, but it also reminds me of some amazing friendships I have with the women in my life, too. Reminder that you don’t need to wait for a man to love and be loved.

cheezukaeku · 2021-06-13T07:33:06+00:00

I couldn't read past the first few sentences without crying, because I haven't been loved like that in my life, and it makes so much sense why I was such a "pickme" for the longest time.

Extreme-Vermicelli · 2021-06-13T04:23:45+00:00

Turn it around though, and it could be seen in a different way. I know too many women who give and give and give like this to their partner. The line between love and people pleasing can be easily blurred in an unhealthy relationship

BlueSkiesOverLondon · 2021-06-13T04:33:17+00:00

This reminds me of my mom.

miwamus · 2021-06-13T04:10:20+00:00

Lovely. Thank you.

firstworldmeh · 2021-06-13T23:51:12+00:00

I thought to myself wow I wish someone treated me this way. Then I thought, hey I can treat myself this way! Finally going to do that pile of laundry not as a chore but as an act of self service.

FDS-GFY · 2021-06-13T15:21:53+00:00

A certain amount of this is loving kindness. At the same time if this is all i ever heard in any relationship-male or female-it feels codependent and likely to end up with that person resenting the other.

CatSweets · 2021-06-13T16:05:32+00:00

This is so beautiful but sad at the same time, because I don't know any man who would act like this without thinking he's being "used".

Puzzles88 · 2021-06-13T14:14:21+00:00

Sure, I have stamps made me LOL.

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