Acknowledging an important day

TheSwedishEagle · 2024-06-04T04:59:30+00:00

Leave it. Not your problem anymore. She wouldn’t do the same for you.

NewDay0110 · 2024-06-03T23:53:58+00:00

Leave it. She chose to exit the relationship and sever ties with you, and with that she loses all benefits you offer too. She deserves nothing.

rpm04004 · 2024-06-03T21:09:23+00:00

From experience, no good comes from it. My guess is she wouldnt really know if it was your dads one year death anniversary nor text you. Lifes not all about reciprocity, but… move on as much as you can. There are certain things that make it so you cant move on like kids, finances, kids, and also finances. Finances about kids. This you do get a say in, its totally optional so i wouldnt. Its really up to you and why you want to in the first place

Vintage-Card-Man · 2024-06-03T20:13:45+00:00

I'm going to disagree with most folks here. I would send a very short message the morning of, straight to the point. This is especially important if you have children. When it comes to kids, always do things that will reflect you in a good light. Courts don't want parents fighting and evidence that you're trying to be amicable is critical.

Tasty_Yogurt_9478 · 2024-06-03T20:03:59+00:00

Leave it . She might think anything seeing that text

Happy-Perception-823 · 2024-06-03T19:04:08+00:00

No leave it...

BatteredAndBedamned · 2024-06-03T18:07:07+00:00

I think your heart is in the right place if you are struggling with this.

I understand as I am leaving my wife and I am still very much in love with her and care for her. Nothing good will come of this, yes, you want to be caring and supportive, but imagine where this might go. You are better off taking a moment of silence to send some positive thoughts and energy into the universe for her and then continuing on with your life.

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2024-06-03T18:05:30+00:00

Nope. Nope. Nope.

If she wanted anything from you, she wouldn't have left.

JustAnotherBoomer · 2024-06-03T17:57:53+00:00

Get her out of your head. If you keep picking at a sore, it will never heal.

potatotornado44 · 2024-06-03T16:55:01+00:00

Leave it.

captainchippsixx · 2024-06-03T16:54:40+00:00

Sounds like the split was on bad terms- you saying she left you. Then I would say never talk to her again. Ever

Dunkman83 · 2024-06-03T16:36:17+00:00

Dont, its gonna become a slippery slope

Miserable_Ad_1172 · 2024-06-03T16:24:25+00:00

It’s a sad thing for anyone to lose a parent but if you are divorced then don’t message. If separated you could maybe send a very short non emotional message. It’s hard as you don’t want to feel like a cold hearted prick but also as many said on here nothing can come of it and subconsciously you may be just wanting to reach out in any form. It’s a tricky one to decide. Just go with your gut.

bluephotoshop · 2024-06-03T16:06:48+00:00

Send that message if you are still on speaking terms.

0neMinute · 2024-06-03T15:44:53+00:00

Leave it be, not worth it

CrazySanta7 · 2024-06-03T15:40:06+00:00

No. She would not do the same for you. Some part of you still seeks validation from her. You want some reason to reach out. Dig deep and don't message her.

Malcolm_tent8 · 2024-06-03T15:23:38+00:00

Leave it, just leave it, no good is going to come of it

Title	Acknowledging an important day
Author	OriginalGrapefruit19
Upvotes	4
Comments	18
Date	June 3, 2024 3:14 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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