Wife and I headed for a divorce and for the first time in our 10 year history she's acting like a parent. Planning, collaborating, active parenting.

She's actually been reading parent books and I've seen her start to properly parent kids. e.g. Don't ask them 50 times to do something.

I'm furious. For the first time in our relationship she is not being, as she describes it, "inherently lazy". ALL the frustrations I've had trying to be a partner with her in the past 10 years have disappeared. For the first time EVER she looked at the budgets I've been trying to get her to coordinate. I didn't know she had mental health issues for years before meeting.

I pulled her up. Got her re-educated and on a new career path. Paid for everything for years! She's admitted she's never loved me. Settled for me.

Talking with my therapist I failed by not setting boundaries. I ignored the red flags b/c I was "in love".

I don't know why I'm posting this but I'm just pissed. So pissed. And now I'm going to lose 50% of the time with my kids. The only thing that matters to me.