Book recommendation: Self Love?

dday_throwaway3 · 2022-08-21T18:57:26+00:00

Forget self love. Mental point of origin is what matters.

For your own wellbeing, your interests need to be the first thought that originates in your mind. Your sense of enlightened self-interest must be your mental point of origin. Even teamwork and cooperation need to pass through the filter of your self-centric mental point of origin. The feminine-centric world will make every effort to convince you to put the needs of “others” (really women and female interests) before yourself. But you cannot help anyone until you first help yourself. During the safety briefing when you fly, airline personnel tell you to put on your own oxygen mask first before helping others. It’s like that. You can’t pour from an empty cup.

Frame is everything. In every relationship, one partner enters the others frame. It is therefore incumbent on you, as the man, to ensure that your woman is in your frame. You cannot let the balance of that frame shift to her. Far too many men get married and actually believe the vows they take: “In sickness, and in health… for richer or for poorer… ‘til death do us part.” The fact of the matter is, women divorce men all the time if the circumstances of the marriage change and she now deems you of lesser value to her. If you get fat, go broke, can’t hold down a job, or are utterly useless around a house, then a woman reserves her right to untie the marriage knot. Command respect, don’t demand it.

otherelbow · 2022-08-21T21:19:47+00:00

Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins. It may not be conventional, but it was the most helpful book I read during my divorce in terms of helping me respect myself and move forward.

mfolivas · 2022-08-21T21:06:40+00:00

The other thing that I would recommend is to become a better version of yourself in all aspects - physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. Once you start moving towards that better version, you will see progress and with that, you'll gain confidence. I always tell men, it's ok...I know this is a shitty situation. It's ok to cry and get upset at the beginning, but after 15-30 days...stop the pity party and get your ass to work! Questions like, if you could pick the job of your dreams, would that be? What would the best version of you be like? Write that down! Remember bro, this is a new chapter, you hold the pen...make this the best version, and learn from your mistakes. Get a mentor and an accountability group.

Metallicatica · 2022-08-21T19:20:08+00:00

Sovereignty by Ryan Michler. Start Where You are by Pema Chodron.

Gattsama · 2022-08-21T22:31:31+00:00

Second David Googins. Also recommend Stoic philosophy. Can start with "Enchiridion" by Epictetus. Before you can love yourself you have to be honest with yourself. You might have a lot of work to do before you can get to the love stage. Are you obese, addicted, weak, lack discipline, lack drive, have no purpose, uneducated or just dumb.

Be brutally honest with yourself. Then you can figure out how to proceed and build the best you.

Striking-Trainer8148 · 2022-08-21T23:25:45+00:00

The alchemist by Paulo Coelho

LDNbisKIT · 2022-08-21T20:18:26+00:00

Black Hole Focus by Isaiah Hankel. Helped me out a lot.

upvotersfortruth · 2022-08-22T04:46:52+00:00

Not sure about self love - but self care is absolutely critical. And talk nicely to yourself.

pter0dactyll · 2022-08-22T09:54:07+00:00

Self compassion by Kristin neff

2022-08-23T15:43:46+00:00

Watch 12 hours of Coach Greg Adams. Your whole mentality will shift.

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2022-11-12T16:29:50+00:00

The best book recommendation: The New Testament. Read it daily. It will change your life.

Title	Book recommendation: Self Love?
Author	Falafelluvr1976
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Date	August 21, 2022 6:47 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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