Can’t take the screaming and yelling…

WitchDoctor431 · 2026-01-05T22:41:31+00:00

Get a small digital recorder and keep it in your pocket all the time familiarize your self with the power button and the record button just by the shape anytime she talks to you no mater what it is put your hand in your pocket and hit record when she is gone save it under the date and topic sounds like with in a week that topic will probably come up again and she will gaslight you just save that conversation don't show her what you recorded trying to prover her wrong it'll only get turned around on you and you'll be apologizing for trying to defend your self . Wait until you fIle the lawyer will ask for evidence and thats what you give them let somebody who is impartial listen to it and make a decision ohh and save every text message, FB message, and all social media they will ask you for yours also but save hers she will try to delete any any things that may show her in bad light.

MaximumIll7812 · 2026-01-05T18:59:08+00:00

Staying for a child is almost never the right answer.

Just by coming here and typing this out, you already know what the right thing to do is and no internet stranger's opinion is going to sway you....go with your gut.

Its an unenviable situation, dont turn it into a living nightmare for 5 years, then deal with it.

RespectInevitable479 · 2026-01-05T14:54:41+00:00

File yesterday

SaaSWriters · 2026-01-05T14:33:41+00:00

I want to leave but she’s pregnant. Any advice gents?

You can do it the hard way, or the harder way.

The harder way is to stay with her.

The hard way is, you have to prepare your legal case. I can relate to staying while she is pregnant but the problem you will have is, she will discard you at some point anyway.

So, get ready to leave.

Talk to 25 lawyers. Some have responded that it's an overkill - my counter-argument is, it's better your talk to all those lawyers than be one of the father complaining about how unfair the system is.

Now, build your case.

Don't let her know.

Don't try to work things out - they never will. She sounds unreasonable.

Get as much help as you can.

Also, find a way to stash money where nobody else can touch it.

DivorceCoachGio · 2026-01-05T12:21:06+00:00

You’ve already done the right thing. Those recordings are your objective truth. They aren't just for a judge; they are for you, to remind you that you aren't "crazy" when she tries to gaslight you later. You need a coach, a therapist, or a solid group of men who understand high-conflict personalities. You cannot process a "breakdown" while still being actively broken down by someone else.

Difficult_Gap_3417 · 2026-01-05T09:09:23+00:00

Does she have family nearby? If she does tell her that you want a separation or divorce that she needs to go stay with them. If you can get her to leave. Looks better for you. Because it is abandonment courts will be more in your favor. If she refuses to leave and you have a 2 bedroom place move yourself into that room and install a keyed door knob that locks. This way she's not able to mess with your things when you are out. Then start going out and enjoy yourself. I REPEAT NO woman IS WORTH HURTING YOURSELF!!! Do you think she's been faithful? If not tell her you want a DNA test to confirm that the child is yours. Otherwise you are the dad and do have an obligation to support your child. Just some of my opinions.

fewdo · 2026-01-05T09:05:19+00:00

There's a podcast called "why she stayed" which is women talking about how long they stayed in abusive relationships and how they got out. Sometimes they talk about small stuff that we all put up with endlessly but mostly they discuss the hard decisions between loving someone and recognizing when it's time to go. I've found the podcast to be very validating.

frazld54 · 2026-01-05T08:37:18+00:00

Never leave. Make her leave.

Ok-Anything-3605 · 2026-01-05T08:25:32+00:00

Hormones can certainly affect people but this seems a bit much, is it her usual behavior? If so get some space for a few days. If not ask her to see a doctor. Take care of yourself first right now and don’t engage with her

Jwoot1111 · 2026-01-05T06:33:46+00:00

This isn’t going to work long term. So you have to go.

She will change and become super wife. For a while. Then she will show you again how she is. So maybe a 2nd chance is fine. But not a 3rd

How long of a marriage? How many kids?

Key_Rock4862 · 2026-01-05T06:08:32+00:00

Absolutely leave, it doesn’t need to be permanent. Just takes the heat out of the situation. When things cool off a bit you can make a plan. If your wife needs things, maybe someone else can step up for a while

domgamepat · 2026-01-05T05:27:12+00:00

Was she like this before the pregnancy?

MasterPip · 2026-01-05T21:58:56+00:00

RECORD HER.

Do not let her know you are recording. Two party consent usually does not apply to the marital home (see state laws).

If my wife was screaming, yelling, and calling me names I would 100% be recording her. The court will absolute take her unhinged outbursts into account.

Coffeecankicker · 2026-01-05T05:19:53+00:00

Your wife is pregnant. She’s having crazy hormones and chemical issues and all kinds of shit. Settle down. Go to therapy.

Sun_God713 · 2026-01-05T05:18:53+00:00

Leave, bro. Stay in your car, a hotel, whatever… just leave. ASAP.

Title	Can’t take the screaming and yelling…
Author	Latte_Larrys_Cafe
Upvotes	12
Comments	44
Date	January 5, 2026 5:14 AM UTC (7 months ago)
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