Divorce on the horizon

Technical-Mammoth592 · 2024-12-03T17:32:28+00:00

I hate to break it to you brother, but women speak in half truths from my experience. Her emotional affair most likely was longer than she said and it got physical. She could still be involved, one reason she doesn't want sex with you any longer. I'd dig into her activities and communications first before you do anything.

As far as money, she isn't making that money yet, so alimony or her feeling better than you shouldn't be a topic of discussion. She's also finally decide to better herself because she plans on jumping ship. When women start hitting the gym out of no where or finally deciding to loose weight or go back to school and you have a rocky marriage, they are planning something or already doing something.

thraxx171 · 2024-12-03T06:31:07+00:00

Once you give up your heart to someone else in an EA, there is a very very slim chance of coming back. You only have so much emotional energy to give, if it's not for you. Move on, she's not telling you the full truth, she's fallen out of love. Money is only so important, you need to be able to meet their emotional needs and I think in most marriages, we all neglect the connection and affection. Good luck and stay strong!

AirSailer · 2024-12-03T01:58:50+00:00

Emotional affair, now she wants to separate??? Your marriage is over, just pull the plug.

Google "female hypergamy", she's looking to move up the ladder and your hanging on to her leg keeping her in place.

pieperson5571 · 2024-12-02T22:44:25+00:00

She's gone the first time you took her back.

She lost respect for you then, more so now that she'll be earning more.

Won't be surprised if you discover monkey branching later.

There has been an uptick in cheating of higher earning partners lately here at Reddit. IMO.

Nuke and ghost to heal away from her.

Updateme.

DoughnutObjective806 · 2024-12-02T21:51:09+00:00

You seem to know this is coming but yes, women will 100% divorce a guy the moment theyre making more. It can be 5 cents an hour...it doesn't matter.

"But but I made more than her the first 12 years!, and now she makes more in year 13". Irrelevant.

No-Blackberry7887 · 2024-12-02T19:46:35+00:00

I can't believe how many men go through this. They want sex just not with their husband.

CrazySanta7 · 2024-12-02T19:40:23+00:00

Yes, it is best to split. The 'emotional affair' likely went further than she was saying. When women 'decide' divorce, it's game fn over. It was decided months/years ago. She mourned the loss of the marriage, and it's a complete waste of time to try and 'save' it. She cheated, and if you 'take her back' she loses further respect for you. Each time she's 'at work', your mind will wonder (is she cheating?). Guys will be in her office hitting on her.....about 85% of affairs start at work. You can't stay married for the kids. They are smart and will figure out the 'unhappiness' in the (forced) marriage. Good luck bro. It sucks no doubt.

NewDay0110 · 2024-12-02T18:43:42+00:00

So many of these marriages breakdown at the 13 year mark. It's uncanny!

soontobesolo · 2024-12-02T18:33:46+00:00

Dude. I replied to your other post but I'll do so again:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/1f4yhuc/my_advice_to_those_starting_down_this_path/

If she's going to be way ahead of you on income, insist on a 50/50 custody split and that SHE PAY YOU child support. And alimony, etc. Get a lawyer and strategize! Maybe tolerate all this until she's making bank, but imputed income is a thing.

bo_14 · 2024-12-02T17:03:37+00:00

Your situation is similar to mine, but a little further down the line. We are in the middle of a divorce. My wife finished college last fall, got a good job, and even bought a car and a house behind my back. She waited until March of this year to move out (of our house). Oh wait, that's something else she did behind my back; she took her name off the deed to "our" house. Which made it mine. So, that was actually good. Anyway, she's making close to 6 figures, multiples of my income.

She refused counseling when it was brought up back in March. No amount of counseling can fix that pay gap, am I right? Even so, I am not asking for alimony. But, that's just me. I will probably regret it.

vijar1981 · 2024-12-02T16:58:46+00:00

Mate, she won't be good being single .As soon as you separate, she will find someone "she just met." It seems she cheated before even if she claims it was just an EA .Your wife is most likely resentful of not only the intimacy issues but also of the difference in status or pay.In her line of work, she must be meeting other higher value men (if it really means something)of similar status and pay as her and might be thinking she can do better But you also can do better .Play the long game. If you can delay your divorce for her to get the six-figure salary, do it .Ask for alimony and child support. Consult a lawyer before, though.You have to protect yourself she has everything to gain, and you everything to lose.

Odd-Collection9840 · 2024-12-02T16:08:31+00:00

Went thru the low T levels as well. Docs are not checking for that enough, especially when you get up in age. Would save years of problems for a simple blood test. I feel you. Your problem was a medical one and instead of sticking by you as you get fixed, she chose someone else and is now rejecting you. I would say leave her and be happy, but I know it’s never that simple. It’s a hard choice. Maybe try looking at her and asking yourself the same questions she asks herself when she looks at you. Would you be good without her or with her? She may be better off financially soon, doesn’t make her a better person. Good luck.

Jenova66 · 2024-12-02T16:06:40+00:00

I spent about a year trying to repair things once it got to this point and the end result was me developing into a full blown alcoholic as every attempt was met with coldness and every mistake with ultimatums. Save yourself a lot of mental anguish and make the break before your health is further impacted.

Title	Divorce on the horizon
Author	ChartOne9250
Upvotes	14
Comments	23
Date	December 2, 2024 3:58 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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