Married 11 years. So my wife had an emotional affair last year that lasted 2 months with a Married man. She called it off with him supposedly and has had no contact since. We have tried marriage counselors for months. She decided last night that a separation is best for us both for a year. So we can "work on ourselves "as she puts it. She'd like me to move out while she stays in house with the kids. She decided that she does not want to continue marriage counselors either. Also (and here's the kicker) she is open to us both dating during our separation. That blew me away when she said that. I was somewhat on board with the separation until that part. I think at this point a divorce is best.

Shed like to keep lawyers out and do mediation. Says we can split everything down the middle and custody. She realizes she'll need to pay me child support as she makes way more than me.

Thoughts?