Is this fair?

Strict-Front-2375 · 2024-06-09T17:28:26+00:00

Honestly looks about right. If that's 'fair' is another story, but it looks like 'common practice'. (I've no familiarity with OK legal system personally, just NC and GA).

Adding up incomes and dividing by 2 in general isn't an uncommon alimony set up, so that would be 8600 for both of you, so you each should get 4300, so, 1300 from you to her makes sense for 800 after taxes.

alternative40m · 2024-06-07T21:24:16+00:00

Same boat. About 7.8k a month in income, $500 alimony and $1600 in CS. Healthcare covered through my military service. Ex makes about $3.5k a month

JakobCbol · 2024-06-07T17:25:39+00:00

There’s no such thing as fair. I learned that in my marriage and divorce. Learning this has been… liberating

rsmiley77 · 2024-06-07T12:35:54+00:00

Is your divorce final? Things will not be close to 'fair' until after your divorce is final. During the divorce process you pretty much split all the money coming in. I went from paying around 1700 a month to my current 825 a month once my divorce became final. There's a reason women delay divorce proceedings.

Jojothereader · 2024-06-07T03:16:12+00:00

Nothing is fair as it pertains to women.

5TRC4LIFE · 2024-06-07T01:52:46+00:00

Hahahahaha...welcome to the get fucked game of divorce with children. Either find a cash side hustle and never say shit about it or slowly lower your income with less hours worked or take a lower earning job but don't go drastic.. just slow suttle decreases in income over a few years and have the support reconsidered by the court. It won't drop thousands but maybe enough to afford a decent summer vacation for you and the kiddos.

Rathakatterri · 2024-06-07T00:25:16+00:00

Why is child care extra to vhild support?

_sevencostanza_ · 2024-06-06T23:50:50+00:00

Is custody 50/50?

randomly421 · 2024-06-06T23:36:49+00:00

Where did these numbers come from?

stupididiot78 · 2024-06-06T22:04:37+00:00

Fair doesn't matter and never will.

Grouchy_Software963 · 2024-06-06T21:30:27+00:00

What state? that is not a huge income gap some states won't give the ex a dime for alimony, I will also tell you that when my order was signed my income was at about the same level as yours but the CS was close to 2k for one child....

Call a lawyer and look at the formula, Courts don't care about fair they care about the law.

nothingbutalamp · 2024-06-06T21:19:34+00:00

Depending on where you live it's more "it's the law" and less "let's be fair". Have you spoken to a lawyer or anything?

pk2at · 2024-06-06T21:19:30+00:00

Fair or not, you are agreeing to it by providing your salary information and then complying with what your wife's lawyer is saying. Once you agree to something, it becomes fair

Title	Is this fair?
Author	Common-Act-1822
Upvotes	13
Comments	33
Date	June 6, 2024 9:08 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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