Speaking from experience, January makes divorce seem 5x worse than it is. A new year without the wife and kids just seems alot worse than it would in any other month. It is more daunting, and psychologically it can really feel like you are suffocating. Suicidal thoughts and crazy ideas prevail. I almost ended myself around this time of year, IF ONLY I HAD KNOWN that I would literally meet the love of my life at the end of January, and be married a year later, with a new kid the year after that! True story. Don't let the lies get to you, you are NOT worth less than you were when you were happily married, nor are you less desirable to women, nor is this the end of your happiness! This is only the beginning, gents. And trust God, it really works.