Just Venting

just_a_castaway · 2025-10-01T15:16:43+00:00

I feel your pain. I am married over 20 years, she filed 2 years ago, then decided moving out would be too hard, so she 'retracted' the divorce filing. I still pay for everything, including the new car she drives, yet I get zero (no sex) from the relationship. We are roommates at best, except I pay for everything. Bills have stacked up so much that I have 3 jobs now just to try and cover things. PLUS she is sitting on top of an inheritance that I won't be privy to b/c she got it after she filed. I feel your pain man - it's shitty.

Important-Possible-3 · 2025-09-26T15:35:17+00:00

You can pick em? Man I've been cheated on all 4 long-term relationships last one ending in divorce 😭 I literally don't know what a relationship looks like that doesn't result in cheating and stealing hahah so weird how they flip a switch

Comfortable-Might240 · 2025-09-26T08:56:59+00:00

Your post made me think a lot of things about womens' character.

They're going to play whatever angle they have

"You work too much and don't spend time with us doing the things that matter." "Why don't you work more and provide for us better?"

"Your dick is too little and you don't know how to fuck." "You're dick is so big it hurts me and you're too rough "

"You don't think I can pay for my own food? How dare you pick up the bill, are you trying to indebt me for sex?" "You won't pick up the check, what kind of man are you?"

"You think I'd put out after 3 dates?" "I brought him home, but then changed my mind and he backed down lol what a beta"

"I had sex with him an hour after meeting him, idk.i was just feeling it." "I won't have sex him 10 years after marrying him, him giving me a family, trips around the world, a house, millions of dollars, loyalty, children. Idk I just don't feel it."

Who gives af what they say or think. It never adds up.

They play a simple tit for tat strategy always with their partners. If you fail to rise and tat, making them think you are weak but they have something to gain from you they'll switch to a straight relentless ruthless attack strategy. If they think youre weak and dont see anything to gain, they'll ghost you. That's exactly how every single one of them operates; like cold calculating superficial psychopaths. Forgiveness, redirection of blame, subservience, humility, loyalty, honesty, morality,, just looking at the bigger picture, being a cool and agreeable person. Not in their cards at all whatsoever when it gets real

Divorce court is more like a wwe payperview fight than a legitimate sanctioned boxing match. The judge is like a wwe ref who is always looking the other way and making bad calls. You go in thinking it's a straight boxing match and there are rules; well your opponent is going to exit the ring and hit you in the face with a folding chair. The blind ref, aka judge, isn't going to notice or care. And your supposed wife is gonna be a merciless cartoon character like the undertaker. Her lawyer is her tag team partner, telling her she can get a billion dollars and total control over you, just tag her in. The whole thing is a joke. Guys take the whole thing way too seriously and give it credibility, to their own demise

Modern women's vindictiveness is something to behold though. Venom and maliciousness, fine. I can easily relate to that. But not endless vindictiveness. What's the point? %100 bitch %100 of the time. They really want to climb the ladder of vindictive escalation for no reason, to it's logical end, where your kids pay and no one wins. I just don't get it

Really, man, I wouldn't take anything a woman says seriously. I would spectacularly fight outside the ring as if it was was a wwf match, or not fight at all. Sorry to rant as well. The whole thing is bullshit

Boglehead101 · 2025-09-26T04:51:23+00:00

My STBXW is the same, she must despise me. Everything we’ve built means nothing. I paid for everything, she spent. It’s how they cope with it, they discard you. Look up Narcissistic traits.

iqeq_noqueue · 2025-09-26T04:45:45+00:00

Yep. There’s not much to learn though. Just gotta believe that when you thought things were good, so did she (no matter what she says).

They rewrite history.

Let them. Don’t let your self-esteem depend on how someone else treats you or speaks of you.

You were something she chased before. Odds are you only got better.

All she got was older. We know who does better after a marriage and it isn’t the “bored” woman who quit instead of doing the work and having mor al fiber.

Totesmagotes24x7 · 2025-09-26T04:43:06+00:00

We're all right there with ya brother. I'm sorry this happened. It's gonna be a long road to walk but you'll get where you need to be. Ask the questions and reach out if you need to. This sub has been great for me from just reading other peoples comments and stories. Good luck bud.

Title	Just Venting
Author	ImpertinentNazgul
Upvotes	45
Comments	19
Date	September 26, 2025 4:34 AM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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