Mediation

DevinB12 · 2026-02-16T15:34:37+00:00

I'm going into mediation Friday... what we have agreed on was 50/50 custody and that we both have to agree to almost all other things, even though she is primary, I wanted to make sure I'm involved in decisions and she agreed to it.

what we didn't agree to is the geographic restriction... I want her restricted to our county, she wants to expand it to 4-5 counties surrounding our county... she would also want to move our son to the school she works at if she moves to one of those counties.

We both earn pretty well.... I make about $30k more per year than she does but she is at $140,000/year. with 50/50 custody, and with me paying the insurance (we have one child) what would you think child support would be?

dday_throwaway3 · 2026-02-16T14:12:30+00:00

Spousal support duration and amount is specific to each US state. Ask your attorney what to expect in your situation. Typical duration is for half the length of the marriage.

ArizonaSpartan · 2026-02-16T14:00:45+00:00

Do not mediate in my opinion. She’s wants the alimony. If she goes in front of a judge many of them will make her get a job from what my lawyer said. Using my lawyer, I do not pay alimony and the child support is very low, so low I raised it slightly.

I did have to give up a big chunk of home equity but also was able to preserve my retirement account.

I avoided any negotiation with her. Don’t do it.

QuoteDisastrous5224 · 2026-02-16T06:50:09+00:00

don't talk about it before you meet the mediator . . . just don't....you've to protect yourself

FUMoney · 2026-02-16T03:59:44+00:00

You're going to trial. Hard no on that alimony request.

HisPanic25 · 2026-02-16T03:51:10+00:00

Half is extreme, should be 1/4 or 1/3 of your income at best since Alimony is after tax income now for you so any money you pay her is costing you a good 20%+ more depending on your income. 20 year marriage I'd fight to pay it for 1/3 the length or like 8 years. Worst case 1/2 the length but then have the alimony taper down for the last few years. Does she work? If not she is expected to work full time once divorced.

obiwanfatnobi · 2026-02-16T03:46:34+00:00

Hire a lawyer. Does she not work at all? Arizona spousal support is not cut and dry and you should NOT go through mediation without an attorney telling you what the ins and outs could be.

Title	Mediation
Author	NoIdeasNoSolutions
Upvotes	4
Comments	19
Date	February 16, 2026 3:30 AM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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