Hey guys, I could use some advice.

I’ve been divorced for about two years now, and recently got into and out of my first steady relationship since. It lasted about three months. She’s 12 years younger, beautiful 8 hot 8 crazy. After a fight, she hooked up with another guy less than 20hrs huge insecurities, and honestly, it wrecked me.

Since then, I’ve been channeling that energy working out, getting out more, flirting, and the response has been great. I’ve had more potential connections than I did in the entire two years after my divorce. But now I’m trying to figure out how people manage dating or sleeping with multiple women without everything blowing up or getting ugly.

I live in a town with a “big small town” feel—people talk. I know if I come across as careless or like a player, it could get around fast and damage my reputation.

To complicate things, the three-month ex has come back into the picture I know weak AF. It’s been wild and fun physically, but emotionally she’s starting to box me in, and I can feel it creeping back to where we were before.

Any advice on how to navigate this without wrecking myself or others? How do you date smart, stay honest, and avoid chaos especially in a tight-knit community?