Turning here to try and get sone answers. So about 5 weeks ago, my wife dropped the bombshell on me that she feels like we are just going different directions in life, and that she wants to separate with the intent of divorce. This completely blindsided me o course. We have been married for 12 years, had a few bumps in the road, but nothing so drastic ( from my perspective) that would warrant this.

She says she just wants to be alone. Can't give me what I want, feels like she should be married to anyone. Isn't supposed to be a wife.

She asks me to go stay with my Mother for a bit to give her some space.

Over the past few weeks we have talked, cried, talked again. And it all boils down to she just wants to be alone.

Now she wants to file for separation. While she is adamant about ne not living therefor both our mental and emotional well being, she is not unwilling for me to come back to stay in the home. But honestly, it would be on the couch since we dont have a spare bedroom.

I am really trying to do the right thing here, but God damn..

We don't have kids together, she was more the bread winner in the home and took care of roughly 75% of the bills during our marriage.

I am just trying to cope with it all and figure out what to do at this point.