Why do you think relationships don't last as long as they used to?

JLSAAAA · 2026-02-14T19:06:41+00:00

Women have the means to get out of bad situations now.

jdime666 · 2026-02-14T18:41:44+00:00

They don’t, it’s true, there’s far more to life now than what used to be available. Women used to have little to no rights and now they can be anything they want. Add social media, lockdowns, strange world events and sometimes life’s too short to be in a shit relationship.

xvszero · 2026-02-14T18:48:54+00:00

I'd have to see data on this first, I don't doubt it could be true but I don't actually know that it is.

Assuming it is true, I think there is not a single one reason. With the Internet people have the ability to meet tons of people, so they aren't stuck choosing one person from the like 5 available people in their backwater town anymore.

Women are working and supporting themselves, so they aren't stuck in relationships they don't want to be in as much. Though it still happens too much.

Culturally things like divorce are more accepted now.

rizzo1717 · 2026-02-14T20:12:27+00:00

My grandma has stories of trying to leave her abusive drunk husband. She had to hide money under the mattress and commit mortgage fraud to be able to leave and buy her own house. She couldn’t have a bank account, a credit card, and she couldn’t qualify as a single mother. She only gathered the gumption to leave because my uncle/her oldest child gave her an ultimatum (he was a young teen at the time). The children were suffering because of the toxicity. And my gma considers herself one of the lucky ones, to be able to get out.

She never remarried after that. She decided she was never going to put herself in the position of relying on a man again.

Men are no longer needed as financial providers, and once they stopped being needed, they couldn’t figure out how to be wanted. Many men (the red pilled ones) convince themselves what women REALLY want is tall dark handsome with six figures. Actually no, I make my own money. I just want somebody who is respectful and supports my autonomy. I’ve commented on your posts before - in all my relationships, I’ve always been the higher earner. For me, it has never been about money. But men will still argue that I’m wrong and lying to myself 🤣

HLMaiBalsychofKorse · 2026-02-14T19:16:11+00:00

Says who? Compared to when? What is your *real* question here?

HelenHavok · 2026-02-14T19:58:58+00:00

I’m 40 years old. Of the 26 friends I’m closest with, there are 4 single people and 11 couples. None of the single people have been in serious relationships (or any relationship) in several years. Of the 11 couples, here are how many years they’ve been together: 21, 20, 15, 13, 12, 11, 10, 8, 4, 4, 3. I know many more longterm couples that I am not as close with.

In my family, there are four siblings and my parents. We’re all partnered: 41, 17, 15, 9, and 6 years. My husband’s parents just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. I only know like two couples who have gotten divorces in my cohort and two other longterm relationships that ended.

I am not experiencing the idea that you are putting forth, but perhaps you mean the generations under me. My brothers are Gen Z and both happily married, but they’re in their late 20’s/early 30s, so maybe that’s older than you’re thinking?

Relationships tend to last less long when you’re younger because everyone is still figuring out themselves and what they want from a relationship. It’s been that way for forever.

Coollogin · 2026-02-14T20:14:08+00:00

There’s no benefits for most relationships to last a long time. The only relationships that should last a long time are happy, healthy ones. It’s best for all the unhappy and unhealthy relationships to end quickly.

Keeping a bad relationship on life support is no virtue.

blueRoseFairy631 · 2026-02-14T21:01:51+00:00

now that we can make our own money we have less tolerance for bs

xweert123 · 2026-02-15T06:04:52+00:00

I think attributing relationships lasting shorter nowadays to it being a redpill thing is unbelievably ignorant. It's like saying Divorces happen more often nowadays due to relationships failing, and not because, y'know, single party divorces didn't happen until 1967, which means that if one person disagreed to a divorce, a divorce couldn't happen, which meant tons of women especially were trapped in abusive relationships.

thebreadierpitt · 2026-02-15T13:11:13+00:00

Maybe one thing to ask yourself is how to rate relationships? Is a long relationship always automatically a sign that it's a better/more successful relationship? What is the purpose of a relationship? What makes a relationship good?

Title	Why do you think relationships don't last as long as they used to?
Author	Flourescendrama
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Comments	48
Date	February 14, 2026 6:32 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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