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[–]ironglaciersFDS Newbie 100 points101 points102 points 2 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I wear a lot of band shirts because 1. I want to and I love the bands, 2. They look cool, 3. I know all the songs, so try me.
I have done this since I was like 15-16. I'm 33 now. Still know the songs. Once an older guy came up and was talking to me about an older band and made some comment that I probably wasn't even born yet. I was, though I was a kid. But the way recording works is that you can keep listening to old bands! Crazy, right? 🙄
[–]pickmieshaexorcistRuthless Strategist 51 points52 points53 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There’s this boomer dude I work with and back when I was new, we were talking about Aerosmith or something and he smirked and said “you probably don’t know who they are, probably before your time”. And I said that I was born in the 70s and of course I knew freakin AEROSMITH. And I don’t look THAT young, Christ.
[–]JaelismyhomegirlFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
WTF? They are exactly of your time. He was a boomer? Shoulda said “oh, that’s great that you kept up with the music your kids listened to when they were young. They probably hated it then, but I bet they really appreciate it now.”
[–]AAlegend8FDS Newbie 90 points91 points92 points 2 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Never explain/prove yourself to a man who challenges you. That automatically puts you in defence mode with a man who just revealed himself as low/no value. His opinion and validation of you is worthless.
[–]frenchroast67FDS Newbie 38 points39 points40 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Agreed. I’m a huge classic rock enthusiast and I love wearing band shirts, and when some bro wants to quiz me to prove I’m a fan, I just don’t engage. Why would I care if he thinks I’m a “real” fan or not?
Also when they insist on lecturing you about the band you can be all sarcastic like GEE I had no idea, thanks PrOfEsSoR!!!🙄
[–]qualitylampsFDS Newbie 31 points32 points33 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I used to have men question me on basketball history because I would wear Jordan’s. I knew some of the legend behind the hype, but would usually just feign ignorance and say “They’re just cute and I liked these one’s since they have a girly look to them” and they would get so pissed 😅
[–]NemesisNoireFDS Newbie 13 points14 points15 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
this is so much fun too, "oh I just like the Pretty Feminine aesthetic of this." [t-shirt, jersey, sneakers,etc)
[–]ThrowRA_lanternFDS Newbie 41 points42 points43 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It seems we live in a society where women CONSTANTLY have to prove themselves.
[–]NemesisNoireFDS Newbie 130 points131 points132 points 2 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I love making dudes cry with my authentic band shirts from shows I actually went to before they were born, yet they look half dead in their 20's and I still get carded...
[–]starpupperyFDS Newbie 41 points42 points43 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
here, you dropped this 👑
[–]Antique_Fortune6974FDS Newbie 7 points8 points9 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And this🏅
[–]EricaeatscarrotsFDS Newbie 75 points76 points77 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This just happened to me 2 nights ago! But I was FDS armed. A friend and I went out and we share a favorite band, which is how we bonded. We put a few of their songs on the jukebox, start enjoying the tunes, and OF COURSE a full fledged scrote had the audacity to interrupt us during our obvious enjoyment of the music. As soon as the words “do you know…?” came out of his mouth, it was like my ears tuned him out and I turned to my friend and said “are you ready to get schooled ???” Like how dare this STRANGER think he knows more than us, who have been listening to this band for 25 years. What am I supposed to say? Oh thank you kind sir please drop some knowledge on me, what would I do without you?!? Thank you for talking over a song I was CLEARLY enjoying. Please tell me more about some random shit band you think I’d like. But now that I’m FDS woke, as soon as he started talking it was like my eardrums went into shock and could not absorb another word he said. Ugh the audacity
[–]kansascitydreamFDS Newbie 73 points74 points75 points 2 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I think that the podcast could do a whole episode on alternative women and what they face in dating. It is a pretty unique experience to us. Gatekeeping happens. Also, men often assume that you are into BDSM and kink. Predatory men gravitate to you because they think that you are unstable (an easy target). In addition , they will often only date you because they want attention from other men. We seem “exotic” like a spooky little accessory for LVM. We should be able to dress in a way that makes us feel strong and confident. Who the hell decided that listening to alternative music, and dressing differently was an invitation for all of this?
[–]Sallou9FDS Newbie 61 points62 points63 points 2 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yeees. My sister is a goth and has been in tears on so many occasions. She tells me "when you're a goth, they don't see you remotely as a person, but as a walking porn category. In relationships guys will assume you're kinky and feel free to do what they want without asking. Other men fetishize you- you can't have normal conversations with them without some "big titty goth girl" comment. Many think even just being a goth is a deliberate signal to men that you're a kinky $l*t (cause god forbid women have a interestd and sense of style not related to pleasing men?)
Her biggest issue is that it attracts porn addled abusers. Her "lesser" issue is that she doesnt3get taken seriously by them.
[–]kansascitydreamFDS Newbie 39 points40 points41 points 2 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I can confirm! I feel so sorry that your sister has to go through this. I have been in that subculture for about 15 years. It never ends. Even if you have a great career, and healthy life, the lvm come for you. I have considered changing my look, hoping that men will treat me better. At the end of the day, I would not feel like me if I did this. It may even be a good vetting tool, because the red flags appear instantly. As soon as you meet men they throw it all out there! Your sister should wear it proud! It takes confidence to dress how you want to. But I understand how it can wear you down.
[–]lolmemberberriesFDS Newbie 38 points39 points40 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Gatekeeping is the worst.
[–]KimpracticalFDS Disciple 7 points8 points9 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ugggh I dated a guy like this. He indeed never made me cum. He was also really demanding about sex, so I would give it to him just to shut him up and he would still get mad that I didn’t cum (I’m not the faking type). There was no pleasing him
[–]sassenachpantsFDS Newbie 25 points26 points27 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😂😂😂
[–]VanessaViewsFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Misfits are gross anyways.
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[–]VanessaViewsFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link