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[β]chateauduchatFDS Newbie41 points42 points43 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
As someone who is a natural giver, I have to force myself to hold back. Itβs for my own good.
[β]illusion_believeFDS Apprentice19 points20 points21 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Give to your friends and family. Not men
[β]nutshitFDS STRATEGY COACH11 points12 points13 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. You can pour all your love and give as much as you want to those who deserve it: animals, family, friends, homeless/elderly/etc..
[β]missamourcaliAt-Risk Pick Me Youth35 points36 points37 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ouch, that really hits home for every relationship, my career, pretty much my whole life :(
[β]timetofliptablesFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same. I work work work, pursue pursue pursue.
Strruugglleee.
I was neglected as a child so it was basically the only way I ever got anything. Itβs hard to know how to be different as an adult. I no longer do this with men (thanks FDS and Lundy Bancroft) but with my career... oof.
Itβs hard to tell the difference between what is necessary hard work for an end goal, and what is unnecessary flailing about and struggling.
[β]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist32 points33 points34 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Seeing what he has to offer by sitting back and receiving is very important. It doesn't mean you don't do things for him at all. Just that you spend an equal amount of time receiving. Watch. Wait. See what he does.
[β]Orphanedpinkpetals12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Men are so weird
[β]palltaFDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is my weakness! I've always given is relationships (friendships and romantic), but that's really not the way. I've found that giving in female friendships is great, but with men it's a different dynamic. I have to resist the impulse to give, but instead wait and accept.
[β]ZambigulatorFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thank you for this message, it was here at just the right time!
[β]greatnesdbyamuFDS Newbie[S] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
For both of us
[β]nutshitFDS STRATEGY COACH5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
YES!! I constantly try to explain this to women
[β]Vatooktoil0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Love this. Definitely need to work on sitting back and receiving. But how does one "create space" for him to give.
[β]ayhtdws1989FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Factssssss
So many women need to know this
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[β]missamourcaliAt-Risk Pick Me Youth35 points36 points37 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[β]timetofliptablesFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[β]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist32 points33 points34 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[β]Orphanedpinkpetals12 points13 points14 points (0 children) | Copy Link
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