All in a Day's Work

thruawoo90210 · 2020-12-04T01:36:21+00:00

I was just listening to the episode from Brene Brown's podcast "unlocking us" with Emily and Amelia Nagoski, where they talk about how there two types of people; the "humans" who get to pursue their goals and dreams, think philosophical and grand ideas, advance themselves and society. And there are the "caretakers" who do everything in their powers to make sure the "humans" can live up to their potential. Society puts men in the "human" category and women in the "caretaker" category, and in general is enraged when either attempts to break out if it.

The episode is really good, I highly recommend it!

chateauduchat · 2020-12-04T03:54:04+00:00

Anyone like me and think that deep down all men will most likely fail you and are unreliable?

Getting flashbacks from when my ex yelled at me for saying “ArE yOu On ThE RaG” during his narcissistic rages and I begged to be treated with respect. I don’t remember the last time a man actually went above and beyond to make sure I was ok.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-12-04T11:00:55+00:00

This is so true it makes me sad.

Anyone wanna do a Golden Girl living situation? Or maybe a coven.

2020-12-04T06:01:45+00:00

My boyfriend cooks for me, does my laundry (the clothes I keep at his house), make sure I'm okay, caters to me while on my period. He takes such good care of me ☺️

kitkatnyc · 2020-12-04T06:46:04+00:00

They understand. LVM just don’t care.

thowawaywookie · 2020-12-04T10:09:28+00:00

It would be great just for once to have someone else carry the mental load.

PenneyPence · 2020-12-04T13:49:14+00:00

Oh they understand. They just don’t care.

_friggin_pickle · 2020-12-04T03:32:44+00:00

My boyfriend does all of these for me :)

BetterToBeLonely · 2020-12-04T21:48:04+00:00

What really hits home for me is the guilt I feel. My LVM STBXH has been making me some some dinners so that there is something in the fridge for me when I get home from working late shift. I actually feel guilty about him making me a few lousy meals!!! I did 100% of all cooking and cleaning until like 5 seconds ago and now I feel guilty for no longer being a doormat.

2020-12-04T09:33:59+00:00

What's new? Men get tools to get women.

oscine23 · 2020-12-04T15:47:26+00:00

For some reason, reading this today, makes me really sad. '"Nobody cooks her meals"...we do theee most and are generally so neglected. 😥

Mella_20 · 2020-12-04T18:47:09+00:00

She needs to take care of things, be the one to endure and forgive and "look past" things.

2020-12-04T03:03:32+00:00

I've never dated a woman who has done any of those things. There are lazy and incompetent men and women. If you find yourself dating one then leave or deal with it. It's that easy.

brainsssszzzzz · 2020-12-04T04:53:04+00:00

I have dated men and women. The men have, to varying degrees, been good to me and taken care of things. But only the women have offered to make me dinner. There's nothing like it.

Now that I look back on it... the men have been useful, the women have cared for me. Not a perfect distinction and not a rule, but still.

Title	All in a Day's Work
Author	Abdullazan
Upvotes	1160
Comments	35
Date	December 4, 2020 1:00 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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